Old people don't tell their children about their savings. Why do they do this?

Some time ago, my friend's mother was ill, which was quite serious. Just as their brother and sister were worried about a large operation fee, her father took out a passbook with more than 400 thousand in it. However, the old couple are quite frugal at ordinary times, and they don't look like people with huge deposits at all, so their brothers and sisters are very surprised.

Why don't some old people tell their children how much money they have? It turned out to be well-intentioned

I am worried that children will not make progress when they know it, and they will only expect to use the old people's money when they encounter difficulties.

Tell me about my friend. It was not until her mother was seriously ill that she realized that her parents had so much money. Dad's explanation is that because there are many children at home, it was very hard when I was young, and I usually saved a lot of money. But I was worried that my children would not make progress after knowing it, and I didn't tell them when I expected to use the old man's money.

Indeed, there are many children at home. If parents tell their children how much money they have in advance, and then the children use the money to find their parents, and the people who spend money also find their parents, the children will not want to solve the problem by themselves, and they are not motivated. This idea of the elderly is just like that of young parents who hide their family's financial situation when educating their children. It is a truth and sincerity for children to study hard and be self-motivated and develop the habit of not relying on their parents' money.

I don't want my children to get hurt because of the infighting of savings.

At present, the elderly who have one or more children at home are most worried about quarreling or even fighting between their children for property. Therefore, some old people hide how much money they have from their children, mainly because they don't want their children to hurt their feelings because of the infighting of deposits.

This consideration is well-intentioned. Because they are all their own children, both parents love them, but if the children are hurt by fighting for property, the elderly will not worry and feel sorry for them. Therefore, first hide the savings, so that children don't make conflicts and play tricks because of interests, and the elderly are also practical. Children can also care for and help each other.

Test the sincerity of children, so as not to be filial because of money.

My neighbor, Uncle Zhang, whose wife died early, has been living alone. He has two sons and a daughter, both of whom are very filial and want to live with him, but he still feels free to live. When he was young, he did business and saved a lot of money, but later, in order to take care of his family, he found an ordinary job with an average salary, so his children didn't know that he had a lot of money. He doesn't want to tell them either, because he wants to test his children's sincerity and is afraid that they will not be filial because of money.

The old man's consideration is really well-meaning. Because, nowadays, many people do it for money, even for their parents. Parents run to the front more diligently when they have money, and disappear every day when they have no money. Of course, some old people see that their children are not filial, so they deliberately "leak money" and hang their children with money to be filial. No matter what kind of consideration, it shows that the elderly expect their children to be filial, and do not want their children to show filial piety because of money.

Of course, many netizens feel that it is inappropriate for the elderly to hide their deposits from their children. Because things are impermanent, if the old man dies suddenly and the children don't know that there is a deposit, the money will be gone. So some people think that people should arrange things in advance when they are old. Netizens, what do you think?

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