I hate my parents’ partiality, but I have become a partial mother

I hate my parents' partiality, but I have become a partial mother

I refuse to let myself grow up so that I can stay with my parents.

Why do I refuse to grow up? Because I have always been upset about my parents favoring my younger brother! It's bad for me that my parents prefer my younger brother. I want to prove to my parents that I am a good child, a good child who is loyal to them.

Just because my parents prefer my younger brother doesn’t mean that my parents don’t love me, or that I’m not good. Parents' preference for younger brothers is a limitation of their lives, and it is a fact. All I can do is accept this fact! But I refuse to accept this fact, and I oppose this unfairness! I hate this unfairness! It shows up in work and life. I am full of anger towards unfair things and cannot extricate myself! I hate unfairness!

Satya believes that there are three births in a person's life. The first birth is the union of sperm and egg to create a life; the second birth is when the mother gives birth to us and enters an already existing family system; and the third birth is when we become our own decision makers .

The so-called third birth, becoming one's own decision maker, is to face the facts and choose how to live. In the face of unfairness, I can be angry and live in resentment with a child's mentality; in the face of injustice, I can also be grateful, accept the facts with an adult's mentality, and see the power blooming from it.

I am grateful for the unfair life encounters that allow me to see my own pain, and at the same time feel the pain of others, which enhances my ability to have love with others.

I am grateful to the unfair life experiences that allowed me to experience "the pain of unfairness and the ubiquitous injustice", which enabled me to make the decision to become a qualified "social worker".

The so-called social worker refers to following the value concept of helping others to help themselves, using professional methods such as case study, group work, community work, and administration to help institutions and others realize their potential, coordinate social relations, solve and prevent social problems. issues and promote social justice for career professionals.

I am grateful for the unfair opportunities in life. In order to let me experience how parents can be fair and just, God gave me twin daughters. Facing the attitudes of my two daughters, I understand how difficult it is for parents to be fair and just.

My husband said, "A person only has one pair of eyes. When you enter the door, you will see your eldest daughter at first sight, and then you will see your younger daughter at second glance. Whoever sees you at the second sight will be unhappy." When my daughter was a child My husband was working out of town and he called home. The two daughters scrambled to answer the phone. The first daughter who received the call was very happy, but the second daughter refused to answer her father's call. Hearing the cry of the daughter who didn't get the call, the husband said he felt heartbroken and would definitely call again to let the daughter who didn't get the call answer the call. My husband always feeds his two daughters, one at a time, otherwise the daughters will cry.

As a parent, you always feel sorry for the child you feel is weak. As for me, because I felt that my eldest daughter was weak when she was young, I took care of a lot of things. My younger daughter complained about my behavior and complained to the primary school teacher many times that I favored my eldest daughter. I didn't take it seriously at the time.

To this day, my youngest daughter occasionally complains about my husband and I’s preference for our eldest daughter. A trivial thing will make her burst into tears.

I hate the favoritism of my parents, but unknowingly I became a mother who favors her children!

Preference is a kind of harm. Under the slogan of "protecting children and fearing that children will be injured", we arrange some things that should be done by children. Preference, subconsciously, is the denial of children and the practice of thinking "you can't do it".

Preference hinders the development of children's abilities, but parents don't know it. When the child grows up and sees that the child suffers from certain deficiencies in abilities due to lack of exercise, and sees the child in pain, I feel distressed but unable to do anything, and more often than not, I blame myself.

Because of my parents’ preference, I gained more freedom and developed more abilities, and my life benefited from these abilities.

I have been the victim of injustice, I have been the creator of injustice, but I have been the beneficiary of injustice.

I am grateful to God for giving me twin daughters. I am grateful to God for using this gentle way to help me understand my parents, achieve reconciliation with them, and reconcile with myself.

What a lucky child I am, a child deeply loved by God.

I will do my best to let more people in darkness see the light and let more people be grateful for your existence.