Hometown Customs in Suining County, Xuzhou City

Funeral: When a person dies, inform relatives to burn paper, buy toilet paper and give money to the main family. About five days later, when buried, I will go to the main room to attend the funeral ceremony. People close to you, the deceased will go home after burial, and you can go after dinner. Home: relatives and friends who go should send white hats or white clothes, depending on the relationship. Relatives should wait by the body for three days before cremation. After cremation, the ashes should be put in the coffin. On the day of burial, the younger generation will kneel on both sides of the coffin and kowtow with relatives and friends (commonly known as "kowtow") to welcome the deceased relatives. If it is a woman, the family or daughter should be welcomed. If it is a man's daughter, it should be carried to the sacrificial table. Of course, relatives should buy wreaths. At lunch time, the son of the deceased (if there is no son, it can be replaced by the corresponding person) should salute the relatives who come forward to express their grief, usually kneeling. At the time of burial, at about four or five o'clock in the afternoon, my son and grandson will go with me, go home after burial and can't look back. From that night on, fire was sent for three days in a row (that is, paper was burned), and it was sent to the grave on the third day. This is to illuminate the deceased and let the deceased find another home. The next day, the woman near the deceased will go to the grave to burn paper, and of course she will cry. Since then, the whole process has ended. Wedding: Man: First of all, give the woman a gift, which can be divided into cash and gifts. If the local people marry the local people, the gifts are wine and fruit. If they are foreigners, it is best to pay in cash. If the woman is local or local, buy a dowry from the man. On the wedding day, the man goes to marry the woman at noon, and after dinner, the woman goes back with the man. Hold a kowtow ceremony at the man's house at night to earn some gifts, haha. After the ceremony, they entered the new house. From then on, the couple became husband and wife. The next morning, the woman's family went to the man's house to pick her up and take her back to her parents' house (commonly known as returning to the door), and the woman returned to the man's house at night, and the whole process was completed.