How to treat "no bride price"?

No bride price! After 00, boys' views on marriage and love were scolded by 65438+ 10,000 replies. 202 1 how many people attended the wedding in the last holiday? I want to come, the 7-day National Day holiday is in the crisp autumn, which is really suitable for getting married. Ford Sharp L Pre-sale Opening Advertisement Ford Sharp L Pre-sale Opening However, in today's era, it seems that getting married is no longer so easy, and the extended topic is becoming more and more complicated. "Bride price" is one of the most controversial issues. On June 8th, 10, just after the festival, several hot search topics related to marriage and love hung up in Weibo, including # Why some young people have low desire to get married # # Why young people are so resistant to blind date now #, and the most striking one is # How much the bride price will affect the theory of marriage #. The reason is actually very common. A 93-year-old girl had a dispute with her 9-year-old boyfriend because of the bride price before marriage and asked for help from netizens. Neither side is an only child. The man has a house, a loan and no car, and the deposit is just enough for the bride price. The woman explained that the bride price is a matter of face, that is, the man's sincerity, and the dowry will be given, but her boyfriend is extremely disgusted with the bride price issue. It was originally a help post to vent. Personally, I think this girl may have more elements to vent than to ask for help. After all, where is the standard answer to this kind of thing? In addition, if you want to find useful life answers from netizens, it is better to draw lots ... indeed, men and women tear each other on a large scale. Especially after an anonymous user who claimed to be a "freshman after 00" made a statement that "no bride price is allowed", it ignited everyone's emotions and pushed this controversy to a climax. Be polite and express your opinion. Or just think that the respondent is too young to understand. You're welcome. Open it. There are also many people who think that "marriage is a matter for two people" is incomprehensible. After a lot of opposition, abuse and attacks, a large number of people supported this statement. Some people also satirize the woman who wants the bride price as a "beggar". In fact, you can think about this situation with your toes. It is a miracle that you didn't throw stones and eggs at each other when it comes to the controversial topic of bride price. Among them, in the section "Worried marriage and family trapped by practical obstacles", it is also mentioned that bride price, banquet and RV also make young people's marriage difficult. As for the specific reasons for the "bride price", according to the information available on the Internet, it is the bride price, betrothal gift and betrothal money mentioned in ancient times. At the beginning of the founding of New China, the regulations related to bride price were criticized and abolished, but they have always existed among the people. More interestingly, many so-called traditional marriage concepts that we used to scoff at for a long time have now been put forward as reasonable, such as "matching families" and "bride price". Why can the bride price still occupy such an important position in the hearts of the people today, and even directly achieve or destroy a relationship? The key lies in the contradiction and reality behind the bride price. Some scholars have found that the more poor and backward areas are, the more likely it is to have a higher value bride price (do not deny the situation in special areas). Because this money can make compensation for women's efforts and risks, it can also temporarily change the plight of a family, perhaps out of insurance for the bride, a manifestation of "sincerity"; Maybe other family members help the bride (usually the bride's brother or younger brother); Maybe it's an exchange of people and money. There are also so-called "custom" and "face", not to mention popular patterns such as one in a million (100 1 yuan), colorful (according to the color of banknotes) and three pounds and three ounces (according to the weight of banknotes). In some places, the woman's education and appearance can even be clearly marked. Is this just for her family? If the woman's parents pay special attention to this matter, then even if the young couple have deep feelings, they may not be able to survive the superficial feelings and secular finger pointing of their loved ones. These problems have not completely disappeared because of the changes of the times. The exorbitant bride price, the face-saving bride price and even the absurd "bride price loan" all make marriage a transaction. For the bride price, two lovers with deep feelings broke up in discord. We've seen too many news about fights, so it's not surprising that people die. The state does not support or oppose the normal custom of bride price, but it also strictly prohibits the exorbitant price of bride price, vulgar marriage customs and arbitrary handling, and strengthens the crackdown. This shows that both the government and the people are aware of the harm of excessive bride price and try to make changes. A netizen concluded: Wang, a female blogger who was once popular on the Internet because of the theory of husband-and-wife companies, said: "If one day women's reproductive rights are in their own hands, they will be born if they want to, and they will not be born if they don't want to. No one can force a woman. The association also recognizes the occupation of stay-at-home mothers and legislates to guarantee the life of mothers and children. If this step is reached, I will be the first to stand up against the bride price. " After all, do people who spend their lives together really love each other? Do you want to live a serious life? Can you commit yourself to life and death? This has simply become a question of "people's hearts". People's hearts are uncontrollable, but money is controllable. I think most people will agree that marriage is not a place to care about gains and losses and interests, at least it should not be haggled over. In addition to political marriage, if the two parties just live together because of reproduction, needs and interests, then the meaning of marriage will be lost and love will become more secular. To put it bluntly, what's the difference with animals? If a person, especially a man, always regards his spouse as a competitive and antagonistic relationship, it is obviously extremely wrong. Just like the anonymous young man who claimed not to accept the bride price, his words really revealed an extreme naivety. He never mentioned his responsibility, which made people uncomfortable. In fact, it is impossible for his married life to be "black and white". "Marriage is a matter of two people, not two families" is even more idealistic. Furthermore, due to physiological reasons, women themselves are at a disadvantage in the relationship between the two sexes and take greater risks. In a patriarchal society, it is also an indisputable fact that unfair treatment and invisible ceilings are encountered everywhere. Women's rights, fundamentally speaking, are a kind of human rights. What most women need and advocate is fair treatment and an environment free from violence, injury, oppression and discrimination. She said she didn't need a bride price, a house or a car, but she didn't bring a dowry or live in her husband's house. The other party can't have children, and the surname is fairly distributed. The man is responsible for the production expenses and the raising expenses AA. Of course, it is very difficult to put it into practice, and it is difficult to evaluate whether the three chapters of the contract can really compete with the trivial matters of life. But from a certain point of view, it expresses the awakening of women today and their worries about the traditional patriarchal society. Not accepting the bride price will increase this concern. What should I do if my husband's family "posts", "does not cherish" and "eats and marries for free"? Therefore, in the final analysis, in the face of bride price, in addition to changing the old custom of sky-high bride price, we must fundamentally change the concept of "men are superior to women" and face up to the contribution and contribution of women. A reasonable "bride price" is only used as the start-up fund for a young couple's new family, and joint management will return to the essence. As some netizens said, bride price and dowry are two families helping a new student, not one helping the other. A simple number on an account can't pour out love, "no bride price"! After 00, boys' views on marriage and love were scolded by 65438+ 10,000 replies. 202 1 how many people attended the wedding in the last holiday? I want to come, the 7-day National Day holiday is in the crisp autumn, which is really suitable for getting married. Ford Sharp L Pre-sale Opening Advertisement Ford Sharp L Pre-sale Opening However, in today's era, it seems that getting married is no longer so easy, and the extended topic is becoming more and more complicated. "Bride price" is one of the most controversial issues. On June 8th, 10, just after the festival, several hot search topics related to marriage and love hung up in Weibo, including # Why some young people have low desire to get married # # Why young people are so resistant to blind date now #, and the most striking one is # How much the bride price will affect the theory of marriage #. The reason is actually very common. A 93-year-old girl had a dispute with her 9-year-old boyfriend because of the bride price before marriage and asked for help from netizens. Neither side is an only child. The man has a house, a loan and no car, and the deposit is just enough for the bride price. The woman explained that the bride price is a matter of face, that is, the man's sincerity, and the dowry will be given, but her boyfriend is extremely disgusted with the bride price issue. It was originally a help post to vent. Personally, I think this girl may have more elements to vent than to ask for help. After all, where is the standard answer to this kind of thing? In addition, if you want to find useful life answers from netizens, it is better to draw lots ... indeed, men and women tear each other on a large scale. Especially after an anonymous user who claimed to be a "freshman after 00" made a statement that "no bride price is allowed", it ignited everyone's emotions and pushed this controversy to a climax. Be polite and express your opinion. Or just think that the respondent is too young to understand. You're welcome. Open it. There are also many people who think that "marriage is a matter for two people" is incomprehensible. After a lot of opposition, abuse and attacks, a large number of people supported this statement. Some people also satirize the woman who wants the bride price as a "beggar". In fact, you can think about this situation with your toes. It is a miracle that you didn't throw stones and eggs at each other when it comes to the controversial topic of bride price. Among them, in the section "Worried marriage and family trapped by practical obstacles", it is also mentioned that bride price, banquet and RV also make young people's marriage difficult. As for the specific reasons for the "bride price", according to the information available on the Internet, it is the ancient saying of pro-money bride price, bride price and betrothal money. At the beginning of the founding of New China, the regulations related to bride price were criticized and abolished, but they have always existed among the people. More interestingly, many so-called traditional marriage concepts that we used to scoff at for a long time have now been put forward reasonably, such as "matching families" and "bride price". Why can the bride price still occupy such an important position in the hearts of the people today, and even directly achieve or destroy a relationship? The key lies in the contradiction and reality behind the bride price. Some scholars have found that the more poor and backward areas are, the more likely it is to have a higher value bride price (do not deny the situation in special areas). Because this money can make compensation for women's efforts and risks, it can also temporarily change the plight of a family, perhaps out of insurance for the bride, a manifestation of "sincerity"; Maybe other family members help the bride (usually the bride's brother or younger brother); Maybe it's an exchange of people and money. There are also so-called "custom" and "face", not to mention popular patterns such as one in a million (100 1 yuan), colorful (according to the color of banknotes) and three pounds and three ounces (according to the weight of banknotes). In some places, the woman's education and appearance can even be clearly marked. Is this just for her family? If the woman's parents pay special attention to this matter, then even if the young couple have deep feelings, they may not be able to survive the superficial feelings and secular finger pointing of their loved ones. These problems have not completely disappeared because of the changes of the times. The exorbitant bride price, the face-saving bride price and even the absurd "bride price loan" all make marriage a transaction. For the bride price, two lovers with deep feelings broke up in discord. We've seen too many news about fights, so it's not surprising that people die. The state does not support or oppose the normal custom of bride price, but it also strictly prohibits the exorbitant price of bride price, vulgar marriage customs and arbitrary handling, and strengthens the crackdown. This shows that both the government and the people are aware of the harm of excessive bride price and try to make changes. A netizen concluded: Wang, a female blogger who was once popular on the Internet because of the theory of husband-and-wife companies, said: "If one day women's reproductive rights are in their own hands, they will be born if they want to, and they will not be born if they don't want to. No one can force a woman. The association also recognizes the occupation of stay-at-home mothers and legislates to guarantee the life of mothers and children. If this step is reached, I will be the first to stand up against the bride price. " After all, do people who spend their lives together really love each other? Do you want to live a serious life? Can you commit yourself to life and death? This has simply become a question of "people's hearts". People's hearts are uncontrollable, but money is controllable. I think most people will agree that marriage is not a place to care about gains and losses and interests, at least it should not be haggled over. In addition to political marriage, if the two parties just live together because of reproduction, needs and interests, then the meaning of marriage will be lost and love will become more secular. To put it bluntly, what's the difference with animals? If a person, especially a man, always regards his spouse as a competitive and antagonistic relationship, it is obviously extremely wrong. Just like the anonymous young man who claimed not to accept the bride price, his words really revealed an extreme naivety. He never mentioned his responsibility, which made people uncomfortable. In fact, it is impossible for his married life to be "black and white". "Marriage is a matter of two people, not two families" is even more idealistic. Furthermore, due to physiological reasons, women themselves are at a disadvantage in the relationship between the two sexes and take greater risks. In a patriarchal society, it is also an indisputable fact that unfair treatment and invisible ceilings are encountered everywhere. Women's rights, fundamentally speaking, are a kind of human rights. What most women need and advocate is fair treatment and an environment free from violence, injury, oppression and discrimination. She said she didn't need a bride price, a house or a car, but she didn't bring a dowry or live in her husband's house. The other party can't have children, and the surname is fairly distributed. The man is responsible for the production expenses and the raising expenses AA. Of course, it is very difficult to put it into practice, and it is difficult to evaluate whether the three chapters of the contract can really compete with the trivial matters of life. But from a certain point of view, it expresses the awakening of women today and their worries about the traditional patriarchal society. Not accepting the bride price will increase this concern. What should I do if my husband's family "posts", "does not cherish" and "eats and marries for free"? Therefore, in the final analysis, in the face of bride price, in addition to changing the old custom of sky-high bride price, we must fundamentally change the concept of "men are superior to women" and face up to the contribution and contribution of women. A reasonable "bride price" is only used as the start-up fund for a young couple's new family, and joint management will return to the essence. As some netizens said, bride price and dowry are two families helping a new student, not one helping the other. Love can't be extinguished by the numbers in an account, but the attitude reflected behind it is the most critical. But the attitude reflected behind it is the most critical.