Breast-feeding in mom's restaurant was exposed by video: people are born, please be kind to those breast-feeding mothers.

A mother breast-fed her child in a restaurant. In order not to attract other people's strange eyes, she shrank to the wall and blocked the child and herself with one side of her clothes. It can be said that you have no idea what this mother is doing without looking carefully.

Despite this, some people "can't stand it", and even some girls stand up and accuse loudly: "This is a public place, and there are boys besides girls!" "If the child is hungry, you can feed him at home!" "You can take your child to the toilet to feed!" "What a shame!"

During the speech, the girl even wanted to stand up, take this scene with her mobile phone, and then post it online to expose her mother's "inappropriate" behavior. I didn't realize at all that it was not only inappropriate, but also immoral and even illegal for me to secretly photograph other people's privacy without permission.

Inappropriate words are full of malice towards lactating mothers. It's been 2 1 century, and some people don't know anything about breastfeeding. They can say that children can feed at home and don't need to feed any more. What is even more chilling is that this outstanding person turned out to be a woman, a person who is bound to be a mother in the future. If it is the opposite sex, it must be more malicious!

Of course, this is only a social experiment, and the people who made the video also want to see the acceptance of breastfeeding mothers. The result is actually not bad. After all, many onlookers expressed their criticism of the girl and tolerance for nursing mothers in the later stage of the video.

But in real life, such onlookers are still too few.

In fact, for the vast majority of lactating mothers, the hardships they need to experience are far more than eighty-one, Tang Priest.

For example, it hurts more than contractions.

Not every mother can give birth to milk as scheduled after delivery. There will always be some mothers who don't breastfeed in time for various reasons. In order to prevent the baby from being hungry at birth, they can only endure more intense pain than contractions, and choose to find a professional milkman to open milk.

For example, breastfeeding regardless of time and place.

For newborn babies, the time and amount of breastfeeding every day are erratic. The biggest headache for mothers is that the baby wakes up in the middle of the night to feed, which is enough to make people collapse. Coupled with poor sleep at night, it is common for mothers to lack sleep.

For example, rising milk and blocking milk will appear anytime and anywhere.

For lactating mothers, whether breast milk is enough is also a very troublesome thing. If the baby fails to finish the breast milk of this meal, it is easy to have an increase in milk, and once the breast milk that has risen up is not discharged in time, it is easy to become blocked milk. Many mothers' breasts are so swollen that they can't even touch them. Even some mothers directly cause mastitis, which in turn causes symptoms such as fever.

For example, giving up body management and chasing milk.

There are also some mothers whose breast milk is not secreted enough, even a little insufficient for their babies to eat. In order to give your baby the most suitable nutrition, you can only give up the recovery of your body and drink a lot of prolactin soup such as crucian bean curd soup, peanut pig's foot soup and medlar black chicken soup with a frown.

For example, if you bleed, you must insist on biting your teeth.

Even if the mother has enough breast milk, it doesn't mean that breastfeeding is a smooth road. When the baby was a child, when the "skills" of breastfeeding were not very skilled, he often sucked his mother's nipple while breastfeeding. Many mothers' nipples are spent in the cycle of "rupture and bleeding, scabbing, rupture and bleeding again".

Of course, there is also the sagging and atrophy of the chest caused by insisting on breastfeeding. In order to continue breastfeeding the baby several times a day, there is also the embarrassment of having to take the baby out to breastfeed in public. If some of the previous pains were that mothers could bite their teeth and persist, but they were not as embarrassed as in public, it really gave mothers an unspeakable pain.

In fact, as long as you search online, you can see many similar articles, videos and pictures.

What child suddenly wants to breastfeed in the mall, and the mother can only hide in the corner to breastfeed. As a result, many customers are watching and pointing; What child is hungry and crying on the bus, and the mother has no choice but to breastfeed the child, but she is criticized by the surrounding passengers for "disorderly"; Some people even accuse breastfeeding mothers of being "shameless" and "shameless".

Although similar incidents have indeed decreased in recent years, they still happen from time to time. Many times, happy dad wants to stand up and go back to those netizens.

Can mothers control when their children are hungry and want to eat milk?

Today, there are still many people who naively believe that children can stay quietly for a long time as long as they are full before going out, and during this time, they don't have to cry for milk or cry for their mother to accompany them.

Really?

Although it is said that for small-month-old children, the time for breast-feeding is 3-4 hours, and the time for milk powder feeding is more than 4 hours, this is only an estimate. In many cases, the amount and frequency of milk intake by children will change greatly. They may be more excited and consume more energy during this time, so they need to eat more milk, or they may be in a bad mood or a little afraid of the external environment during this time, so they need to suck their mother's breasts to find a sense of security.

As mothers, they can't control when their children breast-feed and when they don't. What they can do is to meet their children's requirements for breast milk anytime and anywhere, that's all.

Do you know how nervous a mother is when she takes her children out alone?

Of course, some people will say that even if the child wants to eat milk after going out, the mother can choose to milk it in advance and feed it directly with a bottle when the child wants to eat! Isn't it because you are lazy that you choose to breastfeed in public?

Really?

Do you know what is the best temperature for children to breastfeed? 36 -37, this is the temperature at which breast milk leaves the mother's breast, and it is also the most suitable temperature for children's gastrointestinal absorption. Above this temperature, children will feel a little hot and unable to swallow; And below this temperature, it will affect their gastrointestinal digestion and absorption function.

To keep breast milk at this temperature all the time, you need a constant temperature environment and a warm device. The simplest set that Happy Dad can think of is a milk warmer and a milking bag, but these two are not small. In addition, when you take your child out, you need to prepare diapers for emergency use, wet wipes to clean the child at any time, blankets to keep the child warm ... These things add up, and then hold the child, you really think that "moms are superman"!

Whether to breastfeed in public is the choice of mothers, but you can choose not to watch!

Finally, Happy Dad wants to talk about those who question.

Many people think that mothers breast-feed in public, show their breasts topless, and only care about breast-feeding, but they don't want to think about what kind of environment and who this is. Adults don't have to worry. What kind of association will children have when they see it?

Really?

In fact, in this kind of thing, the most embarrassing and most affected is not the bystander, but the mother who wants to unbutton her clothes and feed her. Who doesn't know propriety, honesty and shame, and who doesn't know the privacy of the body? Once upon a time, they were shy little girls, who had to laugh at a little joke, but now they can ignore the most basic decency for the sake of their children. At that moment, there was no gender difference in her eyes, only a hungry child, only a heart that could not bear to let the child starve and cry.

This is the glory of being a mother and the glory of the whole human society.

I have seen a similar question on Zhihu before: What do you think of women who breast-feed their children in public?

There is an answer that has received a lot of praise. It goes like this:

If I meet a scantily clad woman, I may take a look, because I am a man. If I meet a mother who is breastfeeding, I won't go to see it because I am human.

I am convinced that everyone has been breast-fed by his mother. "Old people are old, young people are old, young people are young, young people are young." When everyone can look at the breastfeeding mother calmly, they can stand up and even cover up for them when necessary. It is the time when the whole human society reaches the highest civilization.