How to establish the same topic with the person you like?

I once read a sentence: when chatting with someone you like, the sentence "The other person is typing" on the dialog box becomes the best expectation of the day.

My friend Mix is recognized as a woman. She is talkative and careless, and she can be familiar with anyone, and she will talk to people she just met. Such mushrooms are cold, but they can't say a word in front of the person they like. "I had dinner with him yesterday. He has been talking. I didn't say a word. I don't know what I want to say. " "He sent me a message, how should I reply?" "Why is it so embarrassing to talk to death every time?" "Does my voice sound strange?" This is Mix, who hides in front of us every time he chats with someone he likes. We are always cautious when chatting with people we like, for fear of saying the wrong thing or saying the wrong tone. Even waiting for 1 or 2 minutes will feel particularly long.

Why are you hesitant and nervous when you meet someone you like? The core reason is the lack of self-confidence first. Behind the lack of confidence are two points.

1. I feel that my value is lower than that of the other party and want to ask for value from the opposite sex. Once you fall into this kind of thinking, you will unconsciously think that you are inferior. You will naturally be nervous in front of people with higher value than you, afraid that you will say something wrong and that the other person will give you negative feedback. The more you think about it, the more worried you will be, until you want to find a hole to hide or try to escape from the scene to avoid inner pain. But you want to get along and chat with the opposite sex you like, and suffer under such contradictory ideas. This is one of the reasons why you are nervous when you meet strangers of the opposite sex.

You are a homesick person. You seldom socialize, have fewer opportunities to deal with people and spend more time playing computer. As time goes on, your social skills and language skills gradually deteriorate. It's okay to meet strangers of the same sex, but I want to ask for the value of others when I meet the opposite sex, but my ability is not enough. You don't know what to do, and your brain is in a state of being at a loss, so fear arises.

For the former, you need to communicate with each other with the mentality of not regretting losing each other, because he doesn't belong to you. When you think like this, he is actually the same as the person you are close to, and there is not much psychological pressure. The latter needs to go out to communicate more, starting with the communication with the opposite sex around him and slowly expanding outward.

I often see some articles about how boys chat with girls they like, but few girls chat with boys, but it is really difficult for girls to find a topic to chat with boys they like.

Of course, the following dry goods are suitable for both men and women:

1

Multiple sounds enhance familiarity

When you first add it to your favorite person's WeChat, the sooner you send him a voice of about 5 seconds, the more you can eliminate your strangeness.

Because both words and pictures are cold and weak or just a pile of data, only one person's voice is the most authentic, and it can also make him more familiar with you for the first time.

Generally speaking, a chat master and a heterosexual chat will send a voice in the first five messages. This little trick can shorten the distance between you instantly.

2

Put away your negative energy and learn to find "shortcuts"

Many girls want to get the attention of boys, so they often complain that they are unhappy and tired at work. I hope the other party can help them. Of course, at first, the other person will definitely care about you as a friend, but after a long time, your full negative energy will make the other person feel that you are very affected, and will also reduce the other person's interest in you and gradually don't want to chat with you. You can find topics that interest him.

Brush his circle of friends first, and basically know a person's shortcut. After reading the circle of friends, we can know his general hobbies, whether he likes sports or games, places he usually goes to, cinemas, gyms and cafes; General style, literary minority, funny proportion, high cold. Then prescribe the right medicine, and you can send it to a circle of friends close to him. I want to play ball, but I can't find anyone. Is the new food in a shop delicious? See if he will interact with you in a circle of friends.

It's best to have * * * songs, and listen to Phoenix Legend and Tchaikovsky's two people really chat quickly, and interest is the best topic.

three

Be shy when you should be shy and take the initiative when you should take the initiative.

Some girls are inevitably a little shy when chatting because the other person is the person they like, and they don't know how to reply. They may just be one-word modal particles, uh-huh, oh, good. But this will make the other person think that you are boring and boring. In this case, the other party will gradually reduce the number of chats with you and gradually stop contacting you. Chat casually and allude to your own advantages. Frank people can talk to him directly, talk about his favorite things, and occasionally say good morning and good night. You can share something interesting and delicious with him. Basically, he is a little interested in you and won't let you talk to yourself there alone.

On the contrary, some girls think that the boys they like must not be missed, so they stick together every day. This is not a good phenomenon. When you are too active, the boy will subconsciously think that your value is low, but his value is higher than yours, so you will always contact him like this.

Therefore, we must control the frequency of contact with each other, or we can reverse it when creating the same sex and let the other party contact you actively. For example, playing games together or sharing music and movies will naturally become more and more familiar with each other over time. It's not too much to like a movie for the person you like.

four

The improvement of charm value

Of course, if a girl wants to meet a boy and walk into his life, the first rule should be to make her appearance more beautiful first. In the male group, they are more likely to be attracted by women with excellent appearance, because this is their instinct as creatures.

If you want the other person to contact you actively, you need to greatly enhance your charm and decorate yourself with better makeup. When you are more beautiful, you will find that you are more confident than before. When he is attracted by your appearance, he will want to dig deeper into you. At this time, you will find that you don't need to take the initiative, and the other party will value your value more and be more willing to chat with you.

five

Always routine and popular.

Later, everyone is familiar with it, and it is also very interesting to use some sultry routines from time to time in chat. It is very easy to express your mind directly, so you will find it easier to get into the whirlpool of ambiguity by learning some routines.

For example, ask him: those eyes are charming, and they are more charming when you smile. What song is it? The other person will answer: I like you. Such a confession will make you smile, even if the other party is not very interested in you at that time, it will not be embarrassing, and it will only enrich your atmosphere. You can try to meet at this stage.

Of course, all of the above need a good attitude as a support and premise. With a good attitude and enough self-confidence, you will have a strong resistance to setbacks. Even if you are strong, you will be stronger and more frustrated. In this way, no matter what the other party replies, treat it calmly and don't speculate on the meaning of the other party's words, maybe there will be better gains.

There are still some small details to pay attention to. Whether it is a boy or a girl, you should take care of your circle of friends from time to time, get rid of a lot of headshots, negative energy and nutritious content, and show your good self. There are not many friends in the circle. After all, many people will get to know you from here and have a certain impression.

The following are the routines of senior drivers:

@ Huangmumu

If I just like myself, but I'm not sure whether the other person likes me or not, that's what I like. Talk seriously. But if I like each other, I like to argue with him, all kinds of choking, haha. Because I know he won't leave me!

@ Yue Ming Yin Hui

Be generous, don't grovel, and don't pester him when he doesn't reply to you.

@ jingjing jingjing

In normal times, I can actually chat and have a good sense of humor. But when I opened someone else's dialog box, sentence after sentence became fragmented text, and I felt that it was wrong to rearrange it. I always think of a more concise and appropriate sentence. In fact, in the face of the person you like, you should treat it with a normal heart. Just like chatting with others, being careful with every sentence will make people feel bored, but it will be counterproductive. Of course, the most important thing is that this should also be based on the other party's willingness to talk to you.

@A

If I were you, I would show him my best side and occasionally reveal some harmless shortcomings. I will try to collect as many interesting topics as possible, and then the most important thing is to keep the questions simple.

@ Haiyun

When talking about what he likes, he will go to Weibo to look through his footprints and find out his favorite tone. At first he should pretend to relax and slow down. He wants to hang him up to see if he will think because he didn't reply to WeChat or SMS in time.

@ 京京京京京

I used to like a boy, and my friend taught me how to chat with him. Generally speaking, I just want to know his hobbies, chat, specialize in what he is interested in, and make him want to chat with me. What else can you learn about him from the chat? I did the same thing. He likes basketball, so I will talk to him about basketball, but later I will find it useless to talk to him as long as he doesn't like me.

@Amy

First of all, you must have a boy you like. Second, you must think of a reason to chat with him, and it is a reason to ensure that there will be no ice. Third, don't talk to him often and make him feel bored; Fourth, pay attention to his dynamics at any time and comfort him when he is sad; Fifth, if he ignores you, he is either shy or doesn't take you seriously, the former you can continue to work hard, and the latter you can give up.

@ Zheng Ajie

Chat with him with your face value If it is not or not, it is warm and cold, which makes people unpredictable. But once together, please treat it sincerely. There is no gain and result in love with so-called love skills.

No, no, no

First of all, let's talk about what we have touched, happened or done together today! Many things are related! And then extend from these things! Joking humor is for sure! And his hobby, my hobby, there is really no topic, and we can also talk about the weather of that month! For example, a boy talked to me about today's double ponytail day. Show me a pair of ponytails! The weather is so bad today, I want to go to xx for a holiday ~ There are many more! If you are really bored, go to Weibo and share your favorite things with him.

Finally, if you are active in all relationships, stop first and go to him in a few days. In fact, many boys understand, but if he plays dumb and never takes the initiative, I still advise you to give up decisively.

If the boy you like doesn't like you, you can only talk to him and get perfunctory; If the boy you like likes you, even if you say something casually, you will feel very comfortable and will not be embarrassed.

If you really can't let go and want to further develop with him, come and love frogs. We have more routines waiting for you. Of course, all communication begins with the first impression, so every first time is very important.

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