Reflections on "New Year's Love": Can love really cross the age gap?

Love has always been an expensive luxury. It is often artificial: I am lucky to get it, but not my life. It is not necessary to say negative attitude; It's not entirely necessary to sigh helplessly. After all, it is a good product that everyone is talking about and wants to have, but there is no fixed form and only standard.

don't you see that having enough to eat and wear warm clothes in marriage, or even children and grandchildren around their knees, can't replace love to fill that spiritual "lack". People without love, even if there are few quarrels and no betrayals in their marriage, are a hopeless desert land for the throb that has been longing for love in their hearts.

The longer you stay in this "desert", the stronger your desire for the "green state" of love will become, and even you will be possessed for this green state that has been stationed in your heart, thus making some actions that outsiders seem ridiculous.

For example, a few days ago, a video of a 61-year-old aunt madly in love with a 43-year-old actress Jin Dong caused a stir among netizens, and a heated discussion was also held. Although the hero of that incident was a fake Jin Dong, the 61-year-old aunt's true feelings were true, and she liked Jin Dong sincerely. Unfortunately, the age gap between them and the difference in identity made netizens once ridicule the aunt's mental abnormality and wishful thinking.

She said that Jin Dong would not only buy her a house, but also give her a huge sum of 1 million. I have to divorce my wife for Jin Dong. Aunt decided that this was her love, and even ran away from home after making a scene with her family.

Can love really cross the age gap?

As we all know, the so-called "New Year's Eve love" refers to the age difference between men and women in their teens or even decades. Can such a big gap collide with the spark of "true love"?

Some people refer to this New Year's Eve love as "adolescence hitting menopause". What I want to express is nothing more than: funny jokes. However, there is no shortage of this new year's love marriage combination in life.

Take the "beautiful talk" on the National Day and Mid-Autumn Festival this year. The chairman of Zijin Mining, the largest gold mine listed company in China, married a 38-year-old M&A dealer, and the bride personally declared at the wedding that she was married to love. She said: "true love can cross and break through the boundaries of age."

in this regard, the majority of netizens do not buy it. There is a unified opinion that the adhesive is not glamorous love, but money, which is what everyone needs under the balance of interests.

Although it is impossible for any of us to truly empathize with others, normal thinking and emotional supply and demand are similar.

This is also the main reason why some relatively rational people were once immersed in deep thinking about "New Year's Love". No matter how free marriage and love are, New Year's Eve love is not a combination form worthy of wide praise. Because its combined disadvantages outweigh the advantages.

Let's talk about the combined reasons for the New Year's love, which can be roughly divided into two types:

First, most of them had an unhappy childhood because of the lack of fatherly love or maternal love in childhood. No matter whether they grew up in a single-parent family or a two-parent family, they were all children who never really felt loved by their parents.

So, after growing up, this "dream" of wanting to be loved is invisibly passed on to the object of marriage and love. That is, we often call it the Oedipus Complex or the Oedipus Complex. To the onlookers, it is the lack of love in childhood for psychological compensation. But for the parties concerned, they regard this love as love to pursue.

Second, based on poor family of origin, people who are afraid of poverty usually attribute their sense of security to the possession of money.

Children who lived in poverty when they were young want a luxurious life more than anyone else when they grow up. They know more about how hard it is to have no money than children who grew up in ordinary families or even wealthy families.

Therefore, when they grow up, they attach great importance to material things in the choice of marriage partners, just like we often say that women and soft rice men. For them, no money means no sense of security, and this sense of security with money is what they need most urgently.

We all know that New Year's Eve love is against the natural laws of humanity, whether from the perspective of physical needs or from the perspective of appearance.

As a husband and wife, the basic physiological needs are not only a respect for human nature, but also a very important factor to strengthen the feelings of husband and wife and maintain the stability of their relationship. For the couple who have been in love for New Year's Eve, maybe the first few years are barely enough. However, if marriage is treated as a sacred and lifelong relationship, who will bear the irresponsible name after many years?

Also, a man in the prime of life and an old woman, a woman with just the right charm and an old man, if you must say that this combination is because of love, then unless the old one is worse off than the young one, it may convince everyone that your love or admiration is really because of love.

Or, the economic strength of both sides is equal to each other's two people, and this kind of New Year's love will also make everyone believe that you are married to love.

It's a pity that most of the New Year's love in life is that the old party has rich financial resources and then marries a young woman (married a young man with an average economy).

If the New Year's Eve love is due to the lack of love for psychological compensation since childhood, then such a person is really worthy of sympathy. If it is for the benefit, there is nothing to be ashamed of, but please don't take love as a fig leaf. There is no shame in loving money.

Regarding the marriage and love combination of New Year's Eve, Zixi wants to say that anyone can "dream beautifully", but not everyone can "dream come true" because of it. A person's lack of fatherly love or maternal love when he was a child is not a kind of love that can be compensated by finding an older partner when he grows up. No one can replace the love of parents.

If you want to get love in the future, the smartest thing to do is to find a peer who loves each other and enjoy the love between men and women. Otherwise, when you make up for the lack of family love in your childhood, you will miss the age of enjoying love vigorously. At that time, who should you find to make up for your true love?

In the final analysis, love is just a snob: the "New Year's Eve love" of the rich is called love, while the ordinary people are called wishful thinking.