Have you ever been heartbroken when you saw a friend around you expecting a second child? Why?

I saw that many of my friends around me had second children, and I was really moved! But I finally returned to reality!

Seeing this question, as a mother of two children, I want to express my thoughts.

There are various reasons why the country encourages having a second child. But for a family, whether to have a second child also requires comprehensive considerations, such as financial issues, child care issues, etc., which are all very realistic before us.

Perhaps the biggest motivation that made me decide to have a second child was my own experience. My father has three brothers and sisters. When I graduated from college, my father's workplace had an accident. He was unconscious for half a month. It was all up to my two aunts to run around, seek medical advice, and take turns taking care of my father with my mother. Although his life was saved, he was still disabled. Later, when the family needed help, the crops in the fields were not harvested in time, and there was no one to repair things when they were broken, so my two aunts and uncle came over to help solve the problem. At this time, I felt that having brothers and sisters was different from not having brothers and sisters.

Let’s talk about my sister and I. She stays in her hometown to work, and I am out of town. When something happens at home and I can't make it home, my sister helps to deal with it. My sister is very attentive. If the old man needs anything, she will take care of it. At that time, I was thinking that I was the only one. With my big personality, my parents couldn't count on me.

In our generation, we have also struggled with the matter of having a second child. After all, the cost of raising a child is too high. But I can still vividly remember the scenes of my dad and his sisters supporting each other and taking care of each other over the years. Isn't there a joke that says after you have a second child, the two children will discuss whether to extubate you when they get older? Although it was a joke, at least she had someone to talk to about extubation. At least the children have someone to look after each other on the road to life. So we had a second child. Although sometimes one head has two big heads, and sometimes it is very tight, I believe that all of this is temporary. Watching them grow up day by day, you will feel that everything is worth it

The above is my experience, I hope it will be helpful to you!

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Regarding the issue of the second child, dad and mom need to be careful when giving birth to a second child, as it is dangerous. But now some "old people". I’m always trying to persuade you to have another baby. I'll take care of you and give the boss a companion... Have you heard these words too? Haha, let me share my thoughts on the second child issue:

First of all, when giving birth to a second child, you must consider your own situation. Moms and dads, when having a second child, you need to consider your own situation, your own physical condition, the financial situation of the family, whether there is anyone at home to take care of the child... Don't let the originally happy and harmonious family cause family conflicts because of the second child. upgrade. A friend of mine had too simple an idea. She made preparations as soon as the two-child policy was released without knowing anything about the situation. She thought she wanted to leave a close relative of Dabao in the world. He thinks kids need it. But the birth of the second baby was not what she thought. The eldest baby hates the second baby very much. He always "attacks" the second baby when his parents can't take care of him. It's really scary to think about it. As a result, my friend found out that he couldn't hold it back and hit Dabao. The elders in the family did not agree, and there was a big quarrel. Family conflicts have intensified since then. Hey, my friends are going crazy…. My friend confided in me, and I comforted her that since her second child was born, she should solve the problem properly. Complaining will not solve the problem. Later, my friend reluctantly let her grandparents take Dabao back to her hometown and raise her while she took care of the second one by herself. Hey~ Do you still want to have a second child like this?

Secondly, every baby is the crystallization of the love of parents. Parents and friends looked at other people's second children, how cute and petite they were, and immediately felt excited and wanted to have a baby. But I want to tell you, this idea is very immature. The second child is a living life. He not only needs you to give birth to him, but also needs you to be responsible for him and train him to be a useful person, at least a person who is harmless to society. You can refer to Dabao’s educational capital and your efforts when considering whether you should have a second child.

Regarding the issue of giving birth to a child, you must also raise the child. Don’t take the issue of a second child too seriously. There are still many things in life that you need to work hard on. But if you still have this idea in your heart, please look at this problem rationally, and if you are sure that it can solve the problems of life, get ready to give birth.

Hello, happy to answer your question!

For many parents and friends, they may have hesitated on the issue of whether to have a second child.

As a sister of a second-child family, my advice is:

First of all, consider the couple’s own factors. What is the physical condition of the couple, are there any risks in having a second child, whether they have the energy to raise the second child after birth, and whether the material conditions support having a second child;

Secondly, consider family factors. Ask your children for their opinions on whether you agree with your parents to have another child. Don’t respect the opinions of your children because they are too young, otherwise it is very likely to lay the root of family conflicts~

Finally, I hope I can help you. , best wishes

Many friends around me have had second children and have never been heartbroken. The reasons are as follows:

First, the elderly are old and cannot help take care of the children. On your own.

Secondly, the financial pressure is great, and the two children are like two cash shredders running at full power; the physical and mental pressure is great, and neither of them is taken care of. Ordinary families mainly rely on the mother to work hard to take care of the children, which will result in the eldest child not being able to take care of the younger child, especially when the older child needs help with homework and the younger child is sick, you will be physically exhausted and mentally broken, and you have to From a gentle lady to a Hedong lion, she roared every day and was in great pain.

Third, loss of self and freedom. One child can still have free time to do what he likes, but the two children have completely lost themselves. The couple has no time to communicate, and it is difficult to have romantic travel, which affects the quality of the marriage!

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I am tempted. I also want a second child.

The biggest reason for my heartbeat is the arrogance in my bones.

Most of my friends are expecting their second child, and what a coincidence is that they all have their own children, one boy and one girl.

In fact, many people who want a second child are probably like me. They do not favor sons over daughters, nor do they prefer boys; they also want to have both children. Seeing that all the friends around me have children, I wanted to have one too, so I decided to have a second child.

But as someone who has experienced it, I can tell you that having a second child requires careful consideration and not impulsiveness. I'm just impulsive.

My whole family, including my maternal family, advised me not to have a second child. And since I have panda blood, the risk of having a second child is much greater. However, my vanity and arrogance push me to do it.

So now we are two daughters, although the second baby is a daughter, the whole family likes the eldest baby more than the eldest baby. But what you will have to face in the future is the education and life of two children, and your financial situation will be harder than that of one. What's more important is that your vanity and arrogance are still there. What's in your heart when you see someone else's son and daughter.

This is why I want the second treasure. Many people ask me if I want the third treasure. I'm sure, no. Because my vanity photos will make me want the Four Treasures and the Five Treasures. Advise yourself more and comfort yourself more. Just came over.

To be honest, I never thought it was impossible. I originally had a late child, and my child is not yet 2 years old. Although I also want to have a companion for my child in the future, the reality does not allow it.

1. My physical condition: I had a difficult delivery when I gave birth, and my body has not recovered well. Now I still often feel soreness and pain in my back. How about having another baby? It’s scary to think about it.

2. Family reasons: Since I don’t have a mother-in-law to take care of me, I resigned from my job to take care of the children. I never thought I would be a full-time housewife. Although I give him the best companionship, I still don’t want to be out of touch with society. After he goes to kindergarten, he will be picked up by his father-in-law and ready to find a job.

3. Economic conditions?: Giving birth to a baby now is like a chore. Needless to say, the most basic things include milk powder and diapers. New clothes purchased every quarter, new toys and picture books purchased every month. , as well as various complementary food ingredients. To give a simple example, I trained him to eat independently since he was a child. I bought three spoons for every forty or fifty [covering my face] because I would lose them when I went out. I have to marvel: It’s so easy to make money as a child [crying]

For an ordinary working class, I pay my own social security, rent, fixed monthly expenses, plus daily necessities. It’s really like Alexander. !

4. I want to give him all my love: It is said that the first child should be raised according to the book, and the second child should be raised according to the pig. I can’t guarantee that I will have the energy and patience to take care of my second child if I have another child. Now I want to give him the best in everything I can do, so having this child is enough!

I have been moved.