Husband often socializes outside, and wife's life at home is like this.

Maixia has been married for eight years and has thought about numerous divorces.

They spent these eight years quarrelling. The reasons for quarreling are different at different stages. At first it was because of my parents, and later it was because my husband always went out to eat and drink. He starts after five o'clock every day and drinks until eleven or twelve o'clock, even after midnight. Still drunk when I came back, smashing things and pushing her. And my husband gets drunk every time he drinks, and spends at least three days a week socializing and drinking.

They often quarrel about it.

What maixia has to do every day is to keep at the front door and at the second door. She is just accompanying her daughter, cultivating her various interests, and nothing will be left behind. She is a relatively closed person, with no friends, no social activities. She invested too much energy and time in her children's education, but her husband didn't let her worry and kept entertaining. Now, she has become a little insensitive and cold to her husband.

One day, her husband came back after drinking too much, and said for no reason that she was cheating. Xia Mei's nose was crooked. They quarreled so much that their husbands didn't believe anything. In desperation, Maiha brought her husband to face to face with her parents and asked him what evidence he had. He can take everything out, but her husband can't say why. She asked her husband to check his mobile phone, phone records and WeChat chat records casually, and let him check whatever he can. Her husband didn't feel interested, so the matter went away.

As for him, his wife doesn't care about herself as much as before. Maiha used to call and ask when she would be back. Later, there was no telephone, but he was not used to it, so he speculated for no reason whether his wife was having an affair. Regardless of herself, this made Maiha feel ridiculous and sad.

Over the years, she tried to change, only to find that she couldn't wake a person who pretended to sleep. She is tired, bored and numb, so she wants a divorce.

Men's social intercourse is as essential as women's period. The difference is that women have only a few days of official holidays a month, while men have no social intercourse, only a few days a month. Maybe he is tired of dealing with it, maybe he is too happy. But in any case, what is left for women is endless waiting, anxiety, uneasiness, and all kinds of troubles of pseudo-single.

Husband's rhetoric is that he is also forced, for the needs of development, for this family, for more room for improvement, for you and your children, he has to deal with customers, leaders, colleagues, friends and classmates. He said that this is a relational society, and the best way to maintain relationships is to eat and drink, and often eat and drink. Only in this way can we stabilize the relationship.

So after work, his rhythm is often either on the wine table or on the way to the wine bureau. Sometimes I tell you that he won't come back for dinner tonight, and sometimes I forget to tell you that you have gradually adapted to the day when he won't come back for dinner. You go home from work alone, buy food and cook, and then, sitting at an empty table alone, you deeply feel that eating alone is quite boring. Slowly, even the dishes are simple, maybe just occasionally eat at home for a change, and it's usually a fool's day.

At first, you kept calling him and urging him to come back. He said he would come back soon, and told you not to worry, just do what you should do, watch TV or read a book for a while, or go to bed early. You said you couldn't sleep until he came back. He said when he might not come back, but he would come back as soon as possible. You just wait like that for a long time, and you can't wait to get him back from the wine table at once.

An hour passed and he still didn't come back. When you called, he said it was almost time, and it was almost over. He will go back after drinking. You put down the phone and waited anxiously and absently, but there was still no one. You can't help calling again. He's getting impatient. He may feel embarrassed in front of others. His wife was ridiculed by others for being so strict in checking posts, and her face died. He is likely to find fault with you when he comes back.

You call too much, and sometimes he doesn't even answer the phone. You put the phone down helplessly and wondered when he would come back. Sometimes he may come back earlier, sometimes later, and you become restless in this irregular waiting. Those nameless fires in my heart want to vent all at once, so they will quarrel. You blame him for neglecting his family, having no sense of responsibility, not being considerate and caring enough for himself, and not understanding women's minds. He blames you for being inconsiderate, unreasonable and inconsiderate. You complain and argue with each other, and then go to bed back to back angrily. Maybe it will be reconciled the next day, maybe there will be a few days of cold war.

If your husband is unhappy, he goes to find someone to drink again, or comes back late, which makes you even more unhappy, escalates the contradiction and deepens the gap between you. It's noisy to come back anyway. If you don't come back, at least listen to less nagging, so your relationship will fall into a vicious circle.

You are confused, wronged, puzzled and sad. You ask him why he spends so much time socializing all day. Can he still take care of the feelings of his family? His wife needs company, too, but your mind is focused on managing relationships with others. Isn't it necessary to run a relationship between husband and wife?

What he gives back to you is that it is normal for men to have social intercourse. Only those worthless men don't socialize. They stay at home every day, playing games or watching TV with nothing to do or boredom. Whenever they have a job, they should have social intercourse and have a closer relationship. If I stay at home with you every day, I can eat and drink whatever I want. I'm not fooling around. Do you think I want to drink? Drinking alcohol every day hurts my stomach. Who wants to drink so much wine? There is nothing we can do about it. We had a lively conversation, but your phone call interrupted our good interest. How can others ask me out in the future? Or how can I ask others out in the future? You can either keep pushing me, or you can make a scene with me when you come back. I was tired all day and drank so much wine at night. Forget it if you don't understand, blame it. Who is more difficult?

Husband's words choked you, although you know that many times his entertainment is really helpless, but who can understand those grievances in your heart? In fact, some entertainment can obviously be declined, but he went to save face, leaving you and the children, and you have to deal with a lot of housework at home alone. You are just a woman, and everyone has a little feminine idea. What you want is to cook and eat happily after work every day, then watch TV, or brush your mobile phone to spend time with your children or something. In short, all you need is a family that is often together. You are afraid to live alone forever, and you can't look back to the left or to the right.

The unknown when he will come back has made you feel insecure. You toss and turn, can't sleep. You keep convincing yourself that it's nothing. What could it be? He just came back late. Go to sleep quickly and persuade yourself not to think too much. A good sleep by yourself is better than anything else. However, you still can't help thinking, when will he come back? The more I can't sleep, the more agitated I am, and the more I want to call him to find out. The more you hit each other, the more annoying it is, which makes both sides unhappy. Finally, when he comes back, you may argue about it until midnight. When you get up the next day, you will find that your eyes have been crying red and swollen.

You don't know each other. You don't understand why your husband has so many social activities. He doesn't understand why you don't understand him. You said, you are not a big celebrity, where did you get so much entertainment? Some of them are obviously unnecessary, so you must go. Everything he says is necessary, no one's face can be erased, and no relationship can be maintained. It is not easy for men to struggle in society. In this way, you husband and wife each say their own reasons, each fight their own battles and blame each other. Life is full of noise. You feel tired with him. Other people's husbands can come back on time, and the family is in harmony with Meimei. Why does your husband socialize outside all day? All you want is a simple life, and you are afraid to live a better life than being single. You are afraid to go home alone after work, and then, watch the time pass by. Waiting for people is always irritating.

Sometimes, when the husband has already gone home, the meal is ready and you have to eat. Suddenly, a phone call came and there was a restaurant. Without saying anything, my husband put down his chopsticks and left. You begged him not to go and let him tell the other party that he had already eaten. How could my husband say that? It's embarrassing to be told not to go. How can someone tell you to go out later, and then go out in a hurry, leaving you with a toothache, but there is nothing you can do.

Sometimes you have made an appointment to go out for a big meal together, and when you get a call from his buddy, he seems to be hooked by a ghost. You are furious, but he still wants to leave, leaving you sulking.

It is not easy to socialize with husbands who occupy most of their non-working time, and wives who have to pay for your entertainment all day also have their difficulties. You all have your own helplessness. Let's communicate more, understand each other more, make more concessions and be more tolerant. If you are used to socializing, go less. If not, don't go. Calling to remind you is always a habit. Pick up the phone and think more, muddle along and cherish it!