I don’t have the confidence to speak. How can I improve my eloquence and aura?

I don’t have the confidence to speak, how can I improve my eloquence and aura?

1. I am happy to answer your questions. You are a subject of language expression. Let me give you some advice.

Second, how to speak confidently and resonantly. Many speakers are prone to problems such as low voice and lack of breath, mostly due to the inability to breathe. For this reason, I recommend an effective method to you: lie down and read. Specifically, lie down and read or sing loudly. When a person is lying down, he must breathe abdominally. In this state, when speaking, the Dantian will naturally exert force instead of the throat. As long as you persist for a period of time, you will feel that your daily speech is fuller and your voice is more three-dimensional!

3. Training eloquence. Eloquence includes related training in lines, body shape, performance and vocalization. Find a professional teacher, such as Changsha Ocean’s four-step eloquence training. His Dantian sound course is also pretty good. You go and practice writing, courage, image, etc. "Writing practice" can help you learn to create speech content; "courage practice" can help you get rid of the nervousness when expressing in public; "image practice" can help you develop excellent typhoon... How to improve your eloquence?

After a series of hard training and reading the magazine "Speech and Eloquence"

. The articles published in "Speech and Eloquence" pay great attention to scientificity, knowledge, practicality and interest, and strive for excellence in the words, words, sentences and chapters of the articles, reflecting the characteristics of science, accuracy, rigor and standardization. It is the first informative and practical publication in my country that specifically studies how to improve people's oral expression ability and quality, and specifically guides people in conversation, speech, debate, and communication.

Here I will introduce several simple, An easy and effective eloquence training method, I hope you can use it.

(1) Speed ??reading method

The "reading" here refers to reading aloud, which is to read with your mouth instead of looking with your eyes. As the name suggests, "speed reading" also means reading aloud. Just read aloud quickly.

The purpose of this training method is to train people to be articulate, have accurate pronunciation and clear enunciation.

(2) Recitation method

We have all recited the text. There are poems, essays, and novels. The purpose of recitation varies. Some are forced to memorize because the teacher requires them to memorize in order to complete the learning tasks assigned by the teacher; others are to memorize certain famous poems and lines to enrich their literary quality. The main purpose of the recitation we advocate is to exercise our eloquence.

The recitation we require does not just require you to memorize a certain speech or prose to complete the task. The recitation we require requires both "memorization" and "recitation." This kind of training has two purposes: one is to cultivate memory ability, and the other is to cultivate oral expression ability.

Memory is an essential quality for practicing eloquence. Without good memory, it is impossible to cultivate export. Only when you have fully accumulated knowledge in your brain can you speak freely and talk endlessly. If your mind is blank, then no matter how sharp your tongue is, it will not help. Memory, like eloquence, is not an innate talent. Acquired training also plays a vital role in it. "Memorization" is the cultivation of this ability.

(3) Voice training method

Voice training means practicing voice and throat. In life, we all like to listen to those full, round, pleasant sounds, rather than dry, weak, hoarse and dry sounds. Therefore, it is necessary for us to develop a good voice and develop a pleasant voice.

The method of practicing voice is: the first step is to practice Qi. As the saying goes, when practicing voice, you must first practice Qi. Breath is the driving force for human body to produce sound, just like the engine on a car, it is the basis for sound production. The size of the breath is directly related to the sound production. Lack of breath, weak voice, excessive exertion, and damage to the vocal cords. Therefore, when we practice voice, we must first learn to use Qi.

Inhale: Inhale deeply, contract your lower abdomen, open your entire chest, and try to inhale as much air as possible. We can experience how you inhale when you smell a fragrance. Be careful not to lift your shoulders when inhaling.

Exhale: Exhale slowly. Let the breath come out slowly. Because when we speak, recite, or debate, we sometimes need to take longer breaths. This can only be achieved by exhaling slowly and long. When exhaling, you can basically close your teeth. Leave a small gap for the breath to pass through slowly.

Here you should do more exercises like this:

① Take a deep breath. Count and see how many you can count.

②Run about 20 meters, and then read a text aloud, trying to avoid gasping.

③ Read the following idioms according to the requirements of correct words and accents:

Heroes, strong soldiers, strong horses, rushing to be the first, aboveboard, foresighted and foresighted

Rich and colorful, bright-eyed, mirage, indecisive

Long history of beautiful mountains and clear waters

④Read and practice passwords

A. The pacesetters from all sides rushed to the north slope, and the artillerymen lined up on the north slope;

The artillerymen were afraid of touching the pacesetters, and the pacesetters were afraid of touching the artillery guns.

B． If you cross a wide ditch with a melon basket, cross the ditch quickly to see the strange dog;

Just look at the strange dog and buckle the melon basket, and look at the dog if the melon rolls in the empty basket.

C. Hong Xiaobo and Bai Xiaoguo were collecting radishes in baskets.

Hong Xiaobo collected a basket of white radishes,

Bai Xiaoguo collected a basket of carrots.

I don’t know whether it was Hong Xiaobo who harvested more white radishes,

or Bai Xiaoguo who harvested more red radishes. .

(4) Paraphrase method

Simply put, the paraphrase method is to repeat what others have said. This method is often used in the classroom. For example, the teacher asks students to watch a slide, and then asks the students to retell the plot of the slide or the dialogue of the characters. The purpose of this training method is to exercise people's memory, reaction and language coherence.

The method is: choose an article of appropriate length and a certain plot. It is best to use a narrative paragraph in a novel or a speech, and then ask students who are good at reciting to read it. It is best to record it with a tape recorder, and then listen to it and repeat it again and again, and repeat it many times. Until I can completely retell this work. When retelling, you can record the content of the first retelling, and then compare it with the original text to see how much you can retell. Repeat it and read it as many times as you can before you can retell the entire content. This kind of practice is not just about reciting, but also about practicing language coherence. It would be even better if you can retell it in front of everyone. It can also exercise your courage and overcome nervousness.

(5) Imitation method

Each of us has been imitating since childhood, imitating what adults do and what adults say. In fact, the process of imitation is also a learning process. When we were young, we learned to speak from our father, mother and the people around us, and imitated the people around us. Then we can also use imitation to practice eloquence and imitate people who are expert in this field. In this way, over time, our oral expression skills will be improved.

The method is:

①Imitate the expert. Find a person in your life who has strong oral expression skills, ask him to say a few of his most exciting words, and record them for you to imitate. You can also record the voices of announcers and actors that you like and are suitable for you to imitate, and then imitate them.

②Thematic imitation.

③Imitate at any time. We listen to the radio, watch TV, and movies every day, so you can imitate the announcer, presenter, or actor at any time. Pay attention to his voice, tone, expression, and movements, and imitate while listening and imitate while watching. Over time, your speaking skills will improve. And it will increase your vocabulary and enhance your literary knowledge.

The requirements here are to imitate as closely as possible, imitating the tone, speaking speed, expression, movements and other aspects of the imitation object, and to be creative in imitation, and strive to surpass the other person in imitation.

(6) Description method

When we were young, we all learned to talk by looking at pictures. The description method is similar to this kind of talking by looking at pictures, but we have to read more than just books. The pictures above also include some scenes, events, objects, and people in life, and the requirements are higher than talking through pictures. Simply put, the description method is to express the scenery, things, objects and people you see in descriptive language.

(7) Role-playing method.

The word character is also borrowed from drama and movies. A character in a play or movie played by an actor. The characters we have here have the same meaning as the characters in dramas and movies.

The role-playing method requires you to act like an actor and play different characters that appear in the work. Of course, this acting is mainly based on language.

The method is:

①Choose a novel or drama with a plot and characters as the material.

② Analyze the selected materials, especially the language characteristics of the characters.

③According to the number of characters in the work, find friends to play different roles. Compare and see who can play their role most accurately.

④ One person can also play multiple roles to develop his or her language adaptability.

The purpose of this kind of training is to cultivate people's language adaptability, personality, and appropriate expressions and movements.

(8) Storytelling

Maybe everyone has heard stories, but haven’t they all told stories? Telling a story seems easy, but it is not so easy to actually tell it. As the saying goes: "Looking at flowers is easy, but embroidering is difficult"! Listening to others tell stories is vivid and attractive. Some friends even forget to eat and sleep when they listen to the stories. But when they tell the stories themselves, it seems that it is not the same, dry and unattractive. Therefore, storytelling is also a talent, and not everyone can tell a story well. Learning to tell stories is a great way to practice your eloquence.

In short, you must persevere

Then I hope you can practice your eloquence as soon as possible

Whether you stutter or stumble, you must dare to speak without noticing. If you don't speak well, you don't want to talk anymore. You want to hide yourself. The more you do this, the less you can speak. You have to overcome it. Daily practice is indispensable. You can choose the kind of practice with dialogue. Play a multi-faceted role and then slowly talk to your friends. When talking to a stranger, smile first. If the same situation occurs during the conversation, don't rush to repeat it. Think about what you want to say in your mind. Smile to that person. This will apologize to him and give you confidence. Then you speak slowly. Say what you want to say

Go into sales, it will be enough to practice your eloquence, read more books on how to improve your aura

Be confident. . .

Make friends

Make your friends feel that it is beneficial to associate with you

Skills:

1. Conversation skills are a success. Conversation not only depends on the content of the conversation, but also depends on the demeanor, tone and actions of the person talking. The same sentence spoken in different intonations will have different effects. So when we talk, we need to show our kindness and not be arrogant. At the same time, don't talk endlessly and give others a chance to speak. Don't interrupt other people's conversations casually or ignore other people's feelings.

2. Listening skills Listening is also an art. Listening requires us to listen patiently while responding appropriately. At this time, you should pay attention to concentration, keep your expression natural, communicate with the other party frequently, and nod approvingly when appropriate, or use a smile to show that you are willing to listen. In this way, others can continue speaking with more confidence.

If in doubt, we can also ask some enlightening questions, so that the other party will feel that you value his words.

Confidence

Make yourself confident. How to improve your aura?

There is a book called "Aura Cultivation Technique". I highly recommend you to read it. At first, I was a person with a very weak aura. After reading this book, my aura also slowed down. The slow start strengthens a lot. This book is now available online at Dangdang. It is quite cheap.

Let me give you a rough idea. First of all, it is necessary to hold your chest and raise your head high, and then look confident in your eyes. But Qian Don't become conceited, haha, that may be annoying and counterproductive. This will greatly increase your aura.

Another way is to practice in the mirror, say to the mirror "I am a noble and elegant queen." Then observe your own expression, remember it, and then slowly master it so that this expression can be relaxed and relaxed.

As for the details, I also I can’t explain clearly, but I suggest you read that book. After all, it was written by a master, haha.

I hope it can help you with Dalian Eloquence Speech, how to improve your eloquence and speaking skills!

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Dalian Eloquence Training, Dalian Carnegie Speech and Eloquence School: Carnegie said: A person's success depends only 15% on his professional skills, and 85% depends on his interpersonal relationships and the ability to deal with others.

British Prime Minister Churchill said: How many people can you speak to, how great your achievement is!

Stock god Buffett said: There is one thing you must do, whether you like it or not, and that is to speak in public easily and comfortably. This may take some effort, but this is a kind of wealth that will accompany you. For fifty to sixty years, if you don't enjoy doing it, that's your disadvantage, and it will stay with you for fifty or sixty years, and it's a necessary skill.

"Mao Sui Zhijiao" said: One word of argument is more important than the treasure of Jiuding; a three-inch tongue is stronger than a million teachers.

In ancient times, an old Pharaoh warned his son who was about to inherit the throne: "Be an eloquent speaker, and you will become a truly strong person. The tongue is a sharp sword, and speaking is better than fighting. More powerful!"

"Talents do not necessarily have eloquence, and eloquence must be talents." Eloquence is an important ability that modern people must have, and it is also an essential quality for creative and pioneering talents, because When a person expresses his or her opinions in clear language, rigorous logic, and expressive actions, his comprehensive rendering power and personal charm are increased. A person's speaking ability can represent his strength. People with good eloquence are easily respected and admired by others, while people with poor eloquence are easily ignored and forgotten.

Eloquence is a tool for interpersonal communication and a comprehensive reflection of people’s wisdom. Good eloquence is a powerful weapon for outstanding talents to develop and advance. Since a person's daily joys, sorrows and joys are often reflected in his or her words, what we say when we come into contact with others is crucial. Although it is possible to achieve success with talent without eloquence, with both eloquence, his chance of success will be greatly improved, because your talent can be fully demonstrated through your words and deeds, making the other person understand him more deeply. Understand you and trust you thoroughly, so that the other party dares to entrust you with important tasks.

Eloquence is so important, so how can we have eloquence? The training methods of Dalian Carnegie School of Speech and Eloquence are introduced below. I hope it will be helpful to you!

1. The control and grasp of the word "eloquence" during the training process

Dalian Carnegie Speech and Eloquence School, in the process of training eloquence, has a certain understanding of the word "eloquence" Different explanations and corresponding training methods are adopted. "Speech" is mainly reflected in the fluency, cadence, speed and slowness of language expression, plus the coordination of expressions, eyes, and head movements. "Talent" refers to your own thoughts, opinions, opinions and insights, or the thoughts, opinions, opinions and insights of others that you can express.

There are huge differences between individuals in terms of "talent". Strictly speaking, "talent" cannot be trained in a short period of time and is related to people's values, concepts and thinking. But "mouth" can be trained in a short period of time, that is, expression ability and skills.

1. If you simply train "talents", just to train a "Li Bai", it is estimated that you will have to do it again in three to five years. The operability of training in a short period of time is almost non-existent.

2. As long as you can express your own "talent" or the "talent" of others, others will regard it as your "talent". Therefore, it shows the importance of "mouth" in daily life, work and interpersonal communication. The "mouth" can be trained completely, and it is not as difficult as imagined. The operation method is mainly to understand the underlying causes of "mouth", and then prescribe the right medicine!

3. "Oral" training methods:

a) Solve tense problems. This part mainly focuses on psychological endurance and relaxation. Including: voice, expression, eyes and head movements.

b) Logical issues of expression. The "formula" of language organization, that is, language organization skills.

c) Solve the problems of expressing affinity, appeal, shock and penetration. Express 3V fusion training.

4. If various eloquence training institutions pay too much attention to the "talent" part, or take "talent" as the starting point of training, there is no doubt that the training effect will be very poor. Because, strictly speaking, "talent" cannot be trained, and it is absolutely impossible to train it in a short period of time.

5. To judge whether the training provided by the eloquence training institution is effective, you can find out whether it is targeted at "oral" and the corresponding countermeasures and methods. No matter how much the other party promises, they will be able to speak lotus flowers after training. The prerequisite is that you have a "lotus". Eloquence training is to enable you to spit out the "lotus", rather than training to make you have a "lotus". The idea that training makes you a "lotus flower" is definitely not achievable!

2. Theories guiding eloquence training

1. Gestalt theory, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Gestalt psychologists believe that “the beauty of the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. ”, so the entire shape of a situation should be considered, rather than the individual components of the situation. The trainer focuses on the whole person, so strictly speaking, the school curriculum is not about teaching eloquence, but about pursuing self-development.

2. Humanistic theory, self-actualization personality: people can affirm themselves, regard themselves as a valuable person, and can achieve their goals because of understanding themselves.

3. Self-efficacy theory, reinforcement theory, and citation theory. Psychology proves that students can better accept and remember comments immediately than comments made later. Teachers do not use criticism that undermines confidence. Teachers emphasize the overall merits of students' speeches. If there are areas that need correction, teachers also achieve the purpose of correction in an indirect and non-hurting way. Since one must feel successful to be successful, teachers should strive to make every student feel a sense of accomplishment after delivering a speech. Teachers should often quote famous quotes from famous writers and celebrities to enhance the effectiveness of comments.

4. The theory of difference and conformity courses require individuals to seek inner growth first and then express it externally, respecting the individuality of each student. Teachers have a deep understanding of the existence of individual differences among students and require students to compare all aspects with their own feelings before training, rather than with other students. Students are expected to bring what they have learned into every aspect of their lives. It is the teacher's responsibility to guide students to apply what they have learned to their lives sincerely and meaningfully. And due to the group driving force generated in the classroom, almost all students automatically and consciously apply it in practice.

5. Motivational teachers emphasize the possible benefits, point out how each learning can develop skills, and show the effects of changing attitudes, so as to induce students to be motivated to achieve their goals. After a speech, teachers pointed out their areas of improvement.

6. Operational Constraint Theory: Good performance will be immediately praised and continuously reinforced, while shortcomings will not be noticed. When the time comes, students will naturally develop good performance into a habit.

7. Intensification theory speech exercises are based on students' actual experience, so that students can understand their own development and motivation. They realize that there is nothing unusual about the fear they feel in certain situations. Students also find value in applying the principles and precepts taught in the course because the students who speak are living witnesses who attest to these principles and precepts. The effectiveness of these principles proves that they can be beneficial in both private life and business.

8. Methodology 1/3 of each course is used to build students' self-confidence; due to self-efficacy and awareness of self-development, after self-confidence is established, the focus turns to the present and the future.

9. The theory of autosuggestion: A person's inner self-talk determines a person's view of himself and is the basis for action. They gain strength to face life from their increasing self-confidence and enthusiasm. They improve their ability to communicate ideas more effectively, allowing them to enjoy better interpersonal relationships and achieve maximum benefits in business, social life and private life. Satisfaction and pursuit of self-development.

3. Training course arrangement

1. Relaxation part: mainly focusing on "voice, expression, eyes and gestures"

2. Language organization: each "Speech formula" in similar situations

3. Integration training: mainly trains the integration of the 3Vs of speech eloquence

4. Self-training eloquence

1. Perseverance

Failure cannot rule out the influence of mentality. You will not be defeated until you give up. No matter how many times you fall, as long as you get up again, you will never be defeated. If you fail, keep persisting, keep trying, and you will succeed. Don't become a coward because of failure, but move forward courageously in the face of failure and setbacks.

When you try your best and still don't succeed, don't give up, don't change your goals, just start another plan. Failure makes it difficult to persevere, but success makes it easy to continue. If the job is harder than you thought, remember: There's no free lunch, and there's no such thing as sleeping in bed all day long that makes you an athletic champion.

Nothing in the world can replace perseverance. Neither can talent. People with unrecognized talents abound, and geniuses who achieve nothing are common. Education cannot, either. The world is full of people who learn nothing. Only perseverance and determination are invincible.

2. Eight steps to successful eloquence

①Set goals: by when and what standards will be achieved;

②Speak loudly: If your emotions Already chaotic, if you stand in front of the audience and tremble with fear, you have to speak very loudly;

③Speak quickly: When you speak quickly, your brain can function faster ; (If you can concentrate on reading quickly, then in the time it takes you to read only one book, you can read two books and gain a more thorough understanding);

④ Pause appropriately : When you speak quickly, make appropriate pauses at punctuation marks so that you can achieve a dramatic silence effect. In this way, the audience can catch up with the thoughts you express;

⑤ Emphasize important words: Pausing after the words you want to emphasize can play the role of emphasis. Emphasize those words that are important to you or the audience, for example, words like "you";

⑥Smile in your voice: If you smile on your face and smile in your eyes, you can make your voice contain Smile. In this way, you can avoid rough pronunciation when you speak loudly and quickly;

⑦Change your tone: As long as you speak loudly, you can change the pitch and volume of your speech;

⑧Act immediately: When you are calm and composed, you can speak in an enthusiastic and lively tone.

3. Successful self-training of eloquence in three weeks

Theory: Success is easy, but very troublesome! Trouble is the easiest thing to make people fail, and it is easy to find justifiable excuses for such failure; difficulties and challenges are more likely to inspire people to succeed, because people are often not afraid of inevitable difficulties! Always appreciate the laws of quantitative and qualitative changes in philosophy.

You may have been doing it for 10 days without making much progress, but, I don’t know who arranged it, but everything will move forward according to your original requirements. The first 80 hours are often fruitless. Don’t be discouraged or lose heart. The next 20 years will make your dreams come true!

Tools: Imagination---the two skills developed from this, suggestion and self-image → belief, self-confidence, concentration

21-day process of training your eloquence

Now that you have made up your mind to practice eloquence, you already have the first few steps of the successful process, so I will not describe them here. The following is the process of practicing eloquence!

①Thinking → ②Goal → ③Plan → ④Action → ⑤Evaluation

①Thinking: First think about the reason why you did not have this ability before? Think about it later ⑤ The written text of the evaluation results for improvement! (1 day)

②Goal: Self-goal: "Train to speak boldly, train to speak loudest, train to speak most fluently."

Self-pledge: I must speak boldly, I must speak loudest, and I must speak most fluently.

Time to achieve: 21 days.

③ Plan:

1. Self-suggestion: Before getting up in the morning and before going to bed at night, recite silently 10 times each: "I must speak boldly, I must speak loudest I must speak fluently, and I will definitely be able to do it!" You should also suggest yourself during the day, and recite it silently or write it out, at least 10 times. When reciting silently, you should see and hear everyone applauding your wonderful speech. You should be proud of it! (10 minutes)

2. Self-image: For at least 10 minutes, imagine yourself giving a successful speech in front of everyone. Seeing and hearing that everyone is so impressed by your wonderful speech that they all stand up and raise their hands to ask questions. , the mood was so high that you didn’t know who to answer first. The last person ran onto the stage with tears in his eyes and said: "Thank you, you answered the questions that have puzzled me for 10 years, and you gave me a second life!" I also want to ask a question?" After saying that, he ran back to his seat. You become more enthusiastic, smile, and make a series of philosophical conclusions. Everyone nods like a woodpecker. Finally, you end your answer with poetic words and inspiring gestures, and everyone thinks of thunderous applause for one minute! (10 minutes)

3. Practice smiling (saying the mouth shape of an eggplant) in front of the mirror for at least 5 minutes, and practice gestures and stance at the same time. (5 minutes)

4. Deep breathing training for at least 10 minutes every day. Read motivational articles loudly for 5 minutes and speak loudly for at least 5 minutes every day. (20 minutes)

5. Consciously exchange ideas with at least 5 people every day. (10 minutes)

6. Train yourself to give a 10-minute speech every day, or to speak silently for 10 minutes. (10 minutes)

7. Give a complete account of at least one incident to a relative or colleague every day. (10 minutes)

8. Bare your teeth and laugh loudly 10 times a day, cultivate the habit of laughing, smile brightly and sincerely, and never smile half-heartedly. (4 minutes)

9. Train to look directly at others’ eyes, gazes and gazes, and develop self-confidence, observation and insight. (4 minutes)

④Action: Complete ②③ every day, persist, persist, and persist again. Where there is a will, there is a way; if you are determined and perseverant, it has nothing to do with planning!

⑤ Evaluation: At the end of the day, take 20 minutes to evaluate today's results and write them down in black and white:

A. What is not enough and how to improve it.

B. Did you speak the first sentence bravely? Was it loud or soft? Why not louder?

C. When did I get nervous and stuck, and how can I improve? When you performed poorly, did you comfort yourself: "Why were you nervous again just now? It doesn't matter, continue speaking calmly";

D. Firmly set the goal and continue from ② tomorrow!

4. Self-improvement auxiliary exercise materials and others

① Inspiring articles, such as a certain chapter of the parchment, with less than or equal to 600 words, not too many!

②Read aloud. The reading must be loud, otherwise it will be ineffective. Reading aloud is divided into reading loud and fast, reading loud and slow, reading loud and fast and changing the speed, reading loud and changing the intonation, reading loud and fast and changing the intonation, reading loud and fast, changing the intonation and adding facial expressions and gestures.

③Retell and recite. Pay attention to the cadence, speed and pace of your voice, your eyes and expressions, your head movements, etc.

Finally, Dalian Carnegie School of Speech and Eloquence wishes you to become "articulate, eloquent, eloquent, and well-spoken"!