The first time I went to my boyfriend's house, his sister-in-law said, "Girl, it's great that you are my sister-in-law." what do you think?

There is really a saying that "I haven't seen my grandmother for ten years and my daughter-in-law for ten years".

Yesterday, my mother drove a lot of corn, saying that eating corn would make me thin, so let me eat more. Looking at my mother's serious face and my soaring weight, I smiled helplessly. I especially like communicating with my mother now. She has learned to be naughty in a serious way.

In fact, my mother is jealous of my grandmother because of these changes. When I was a child, my family didn't have a good time. My parents are busy making money to support their families. I have lived with my grandmother since I was a child. That is, after graduation, I live with my parents.

It's not good to hear my mother complain about my grandmother now and then. However, even if she says it, she will be kind to my grandmother "insincerely". For example, that time she and my dad came to spend the Mid-Autumn Festival with me. She was afraid that grandma and uncle would have a bad time at home, so she took them to the city. After coming, she was still afraid of my anger and kept explaining: "Grandma didn't spend the Mid-Autumn Festival in the city, so I brought her."

At the beginning, although my grandmother treated my mother generally, someone bullied my mother in the village, and she would immediately stand up to protect her, and then block the door to let the other person come out and apologize to my mother. People who often read my articles should know that my mother is too docile and is often bullied by those "domineering" uncles and aunts in the village.

And my mother, because she was only interested in making money when she was young, didn't have any good or bad comments on my grandmother, because at that time, the whole family lived together, even if they slept separately, but they usually ate and wore together. However, as I gradually understand, my mother may see that I am estranged from her, so she began to complain about her grandmother.

I remember in high school, my mother and I had an argument about my choice of arts and sciences. I cried at my grandmother's house for a long time. Although I don't hate science, my chemistry is poor, so I want to study liberal arts, but my mother thinks it is difficult for me to find a job after studying liberal arts, so she forced me to change back to science.

Grandma knew I was wronged, and then she went to my mother to argue. Grandma said something that made me very sad. She said, "Have you taken care of children these years? Do you know what children like? You don't know, I know, if a child likes something, he will concentrate on it. Why do you ask your children to live according to your ideas? "

My mother said that it was the first time grandma lost her temper with my father. At that time, my mother suddenly found that my relationship with my grandmother was much closer than hers. She knew grandma meant well, but she couldn't help being jealous.

At that time, the mother-in-law relationship between my mother and my grandmother began to stand out. But fortunately, they are at most verbal conflicts. In real life, they should go their separate ways.

In fact, in my opinion, grandma is still very kind to my mother. At least, my grandmother has never made my mother angry. Every year, my grandmother will take out the money saved to let my mother buy a ticket back to Gansu. Although it is only a few hundred dollars, at least it is the mother-in-law's mind. It is my grandmother's occasional words that may hurt people's hearts.

And so is my mother. In my opinion, she is also very kind to my grandmother. Although she often complains, she thinks that I am close to my grandmother and alienated from her. In fact, she is also very grateful to her grandmother.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage is actually like this, and sincerity can be changed. Each of us came into this world with feelings. We have seen a lot of worldly wisdom in the process of growing up, from ignorance in youth to familiarity after maturity. We all know that human nature is good at the beginning of life, and no one wants to be a villain. Even if there is a contradiction between two people, it is because of some external factors.

Especially in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, although the two women are not related by blood, they all live under the same roof because of the same person. Before their lives intersect, all they want from that "same person" is that he can be happy. When two people's lives begin to intersect, they expect the same thing.

Therefore, in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no need to fight for "who wins and who loses". Even if the mother-in-law wins, for the sake of her son, you bully the person who will accompany him for a lifetime. She was wronged and naturally brought trouble to her son. If the daughter-in-law wins, for her husband, the person who loses to you is her mother. She was wronged, and it was her husband who felt uncomfortable.

However, it is disappointing that there are still some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who always regard each other as "enemies". They have their own reasons, and when you listen to their explanations, you will feel that what they say is quite reasonable.

For example, is it duty or mutual affection for a mother-in-law to help her daughter-in-law take care of her children? If you talk about mutual affection, it will cause many daughter-in-law's dissatisfaction: the child still calls you grandma, why don't you help me? If it is my duty, it will be a bit "unreasonable" for my mother-in-law: I didn't give birth to the child, so why should I help?

When you see these two statements, how will you judge who is right and who is wrong? For themselves, their reasons are all right, but for the whole family, they are all wrong. Because, when they feel wronged, they just look at this issue from their own perspective; If they look at this problem from the family's point of view and learn to put themselves in others' shoes, I think both of them should act in mutual affection.

However, everyone has a different lifestyle. Some people are willing to sublimate their thoughts and enjoy the happiness brought by family harmony. There are also some people who have never been able to convince themselves. They will infinitely magnify their grievances. They feel that they must be one of the options in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Guo Yun met such a pair of "mother-in-law".

Guo Yunhe and her boyfriend are classmates. They have been in love for four years. After graduation, they both stayed in the city where they went to school to work hard. Both of them work hard and are very active. However, what puzzles Guo Yun is that when he mentioned his family, he seldom mentioned his mother. Guo Yun asked why, but her boyfriend just smiled and said perfunctorily, "There is nothing to mention."

Guo Yun knew that everyone had secrets, but her boyfriend never mentioned his mother, but always mentioned his brother and sister-in-law, which puzzled Guo Yun. My boyfriend's mother is still alive, but his father, unfortunately, left in an accident years ago.

Especially after the two live together, the boyfriend can't talk without his brother and sister-in-law almost every time. It is with this curiosity that Guo Yun proposed to let her boyfriend take her back to her hometown. She wants to meet her boyfriend's family and talk about their marriage. Guo Yun is in love with her boyfriend, and she really wants to take this opportunity to see if her boyfriend's family has any opinions on her.

At first, boyfriends always find various reasons to perfunctory. Later, Guo Yun asked her boyfriend, "Are you unwilling to take me to your home because you don't want to marry me?" ? You talk about how good your brother and sister-in-law are every day and how well they manage the family. Why can't you take me to meet them? "

After that, her boyfriend couldn't stand Guo Yun's indecision, so he took her back to her hometown during the holiday. Because it was her first time to go, Guo Yun specially prepared many gifts, which cost her two months' salary. When she arrived at her boyfriend's house, Guo Yun seemed to know why her boyfriend didn't mention her mother. Her mother is in a wheelchair and can't move easily.

At first, everyone was very enthusiastic about Guo Yun, but as noon approached, the atmosphere at home suddenly became a bit wrong. Like ordinary families, if there are guests at home, they will definitely cook and greet them first. Moreover, Guo Yun found that her boyfriend's brother-in-law was not as hospitable as her boyfriend said.

Just as Guo Yun was wondering, her boyfriend gave her a push and said, "Today is your first visit to our house. Why don't you show us a craft? At noon today, you cook. "

In fact, Guo Yun had been psychologically prepared. When she found that her boyfriend's brother and sister-in-law were not as enthusiastic as he said, she realized that there was something wrong with their way of getting along. First of all, after she came in, her boyfriend's brother and sister-in-law looked very enthusiastic, but no one brought her water and tea. Although she is a junior, this is her first time to go to her boyfriend's house. At least be polite. Secondly, my boyfriend's mother seems to be afraid of her boyfriend and his brother-in-law. Every time she says a word, she will secretly glance at whether their expressions have changed.

For cooking, Guo Yun thinks that since he wants to test himself, he should show them his hands. Just as she was about to go to the kitchen, her boyfriend's sister-in-law suddenly said, "Girl, you are too kind. Tell me, the first time I went to my boyfriend's house and asked you to cook, did you cook? Your temper is too good. After that, if you are bullied by your mother-in-law, you must not wronged yourself. It seems that you are not suitable to come to our house to be my sister-in-law! "

Guo Yun was stunned by her boyfriend's sister-in-law's words. "Let me cook, not to test me? I know. Are you afraid that I won't cook and take care of the top two (Guo Yun's boyfriend's nickname) in the future? How kind is it not worth liking him? "

After listening to Guo Yun's questioning, her boyfriend's sister-in-law didn't hide anything. In front of her family, she began to ridicule her boyfriend's mother.

"You don't know, my mother-in-law badly? David and the grandmother of the top two, but her good daughter-in-law didn't come back after she got angry. After I came in, she gave me a bad look. My mother-in-law is amazing! With your thoughtfulness, you will definitely suffer if you marry in the door. So I advise you not to be too kind.

However, fortunately, God has eyes, which makes her unable to walk. She deserved it! I wouldn't wait on her if it weren't for her pension!

Don't be surprised. David and the top two hate her, too. If she hadn't been strong, my father-in-law wouldn't have had an accident. After all, it's all her fault. "

Guo Yun couldn't believe his ears. Is there such a cruel woman in the world? Strong enough to force her husband to have an accident, she didn't save her mother-in-law after she got sick, and even her two sons hated her?

Guo Yun turned her eyes to her boyfriend, who said frankly, "Yes, she made my father and grandmother angry. If you didn't come today, we couldn't take her away from the nursing home. "

Guo Yun suddenly realized that even if his mother was disabled, she wouldn't say nothing. I didn't think there were other reasons.

After listening to her boyfriend's answer, Guo Yun looked at her boyfriend's mother in surprise. She sat in a wheelchair, bowed her head and said nothing. But you can see that she cried and was very sad. Yes, anyone who hears his son say that he hates himself will be very sad and desperate.

"Don't worry, I'm not a bad daughter-in-law from the start. What she did to her mother-in-law, I'll do to her now. This is karma. " My boyfriend's sister-in-law couldn't believe it when she saw Guo Yun, so she said it again.

"You don't say, I deserve it. I was mean at first, but I was also punished! My lower limbs are paralyzed, isn't it also for atonement? " Boyfriend's mother finally shouted this sentence. After that, she wanted to continue to say something, but her boyfriend's brother stopped her.

Guo Yun recognized the door. It turns out that my boyfriend's mother was not good to her mother-in-law when she was young, and she was not good to her daughter-in-law when she entered the door. Now that she is in poor health, her daughter-in-law and two sons have begun to "revenge" her. Guo Yun is incredible. Anyway, she is also a mother and an elder.

No matter how bad she was, she has been punished now. Guo Yun doesn't understand. She asked her boyfriend and his sister-in-law, "What kind of family are you? Just because she made those mistakes, she is disabled now, which is karma. Do you still treat such an old man like this? "

Say that finish, Guo Yun carrying his bag, out of the boyfriend's house. She did not expect that such a family, the heart of "revenge" is so heavy. Even if there must be something hateful about the poor person, she can't walk any further and has been punished.

Even if Guo Yun doesn't care about this, it's not a good thing for her to designate her boyfriend's sister-in-law's face, otherwise she wouldn't be so unkind. Guo Yun weighed it carefully and told her boyfriend the truth that she wanted to break up with her boyfriend.

She sent a message to her boyfriend:

I'm sorry, I don't think I'm fit to marry into your family. It's not because of what your mother did, but because of the attitude of your brothers and your sister-in-law, which makes me feel very scared.

Even if your mother did something wrong, she can't walk now. What's more, she is not others, but your closest relative's mother. If you can't forgive from the heart, at least learn to respect her.

Loving a person and hating a person are actually equal in strength. I didn't expect you to hate a close relative so much in your heart. I don't know what others say. Maybe some people will say that she deserves it. However, in my eyes, she is just a disabled old man who has no children and no daughters and has been sent to a nursing home.

I'm sorry, maybe I'm not the right person to marry into your family. Like your sister-in-law said, I may be too kind.

Since then, the two have no contact.

I don't know what you think of this matter. Perhaps, as Guo Yun said, everyone has different opinions. Maybe Guo Yun's boyfriend's mother deserved it, but I also think she can't go any further and has been punished.

Like Guo Yun's boyfriend and her boyfriend's brother and sister-in-law, their attitude is really amazing, even unbelievable. Although there is some truth in "I haven't seen my grandmother for ten years and my daughter-in-law for ten years", I also think Guo Yun's boyfriend's house is a bit excessive.

However, sympathy is sympathy.

Guo Yun's boyfriend's mother really set up the image of a "bad daughter-in-law" and a "bad mother-in-law". Guo Yun didn't explain her mother-in-law clearly in her message, and I can't guess why. However, from the overall analysis, her attitude towards her mother-in-law is not friendly enough, and her personality is rather pungent. After the daughter-in-law entered the door, she also bullied her daughter-in-law with her overbearing personality. Therefore, let the daughter-in-law see it in her eyes and keep it in her heart. After her present situation, her daughter-in-law began to "learn" from her and "retaliate" her.

In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage is like this. Mother-in-law's attitude towards her daughter-in-law today will determine her attitude towards her mother-in-law in the future. If you are good to me, I will be good to you; If you treat me badly, I will give you the same treatment.

And we also see another problem here, that is, parents' behavior will directly affect children's cognition. Guo Yun's boyfriend's mother is not good to her mother-in-law, so let her two sons see it in their eyes and keep it in mind. Living in such an environment, it is inevitable that they will not study.

So in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as a mother-in-law, you must establish your own image. You know, most mother-in-law also plays the role of daughter-in-law, and your behavior will become an example for daughter-in-law.

So, please be kind to everyone who lives under the same roof!