In the workplace-it is important to keep your mouth shut and your heart shut.

A lot of things happened around me recently, which made me understand more and more and keep my mouth shut. quiet inside is not only something that people in the workplace must keep in mind, but also needs to be actually implemented.

First of all, shut up

They say disaster comes from the mouth. I didn't know much before, but what happened to my friend recently forced me to re-examine the importance of this idiom.

A friend works as a designer in a startup company. In principle, there are not many start-up companies, and everyone has only one goal, that is, Qi Xin will work together in a good direction. Due to business and other reasons, the internal personnel of my friend's company have changed a lot. Not long ago, my friend's little assistant was fired, and later many people were fired one after another. When the little assistant is around, friends treat her like a sister, which is very kind to her, because after all, she is an old employee and knows something inside the company, which may be inadvertently revealed to the little assistant. Later, the company temporarily recruited an employee named Xiao Ah, who is about the same age as an assistant. Her friends also like to help her. Perhaps it is our nature to help the weak. My friend's little assistant was very angry after leaving her job. He said a lot to Xiao, and there will definitely be something against the company. However, these things somehow reached the company leaders, and there was a lot of noise in the company. Although my friend left, my friend and several close friends were also affected in the company. It doesn't matter to resign, but because my friend left, I set up a WeChat group. In addition to the leaders, there are girls from other companies in the group, who usually gossip, but the leaders found out. The key words in the conversation have all been said. It must be that someone in a friend's WeChat group had a problem, and then something happened. In front of friends' company partners, the leader listed many bad words of friends, and Xiao testified that they were all said by friends one by one. So little A is undoubtedly the one who betrayed them.

We can't say that the leader is wrong in this matter, because she wants to safeguard the interests of the company and finds some wrong signs that need to be stopped. Although some ways and means may not be acceptable to everyone, they are effective. Everyone in the WeChat group except Xiao Ya left their jobs within a week, and the leader's goal was achieved.

Afterwards, my friend called me and told this story while drinking. My reaction at that time was that your leader was so powerful that he turned black and white upside down and "didn't take away a cloud" after gossiping. The pot was your back and you had already left your job. My friend said, I think this is the most humbled resignation I have done for so many years. I haven't found a place to talk about my grievances, but the most chilling thing is Xiao A. My little assistant may have said something inappropriate because he was fired. Xiao A not only proved these words, but also helped the leader impose more serious things on me. The key is that the WeChat group was established less than 2 days ago, and the leaders knew it, and they also saw the chat records clearly. This is the most terrible thing. My friend said, you know, Xiao owes money to the company and I want to help her pay it back. Everything is ready. Fortunately, this happened, otherwise it would cost money to be bitten by a dog.

I don't know who is right or wrong about these things. Friends are right. I just trust and sympathize with others too easily, and I can't stand the grievances of others, so I want to help everything. But after all, I'm not a saint. I can't see through a person's heart at a glance, and I can't control my mouth, no matter what the exact words are, but it changed when I got to the leader. The source is her, so only he will take this responsibility, and I just happen to be a person who left the job. If my friend had kept his mouth shut from the beginning, so many things would not have happened. Fortunately, several of my friend's close friends in the company still trust her. Otherwise, after the whole incident, my friend can really be said to have lost his wife.

Misfortune comes from the mouth, never alarmist, especially in the workplace. What to say and what not to say, you should have your own judgment standard. Sometimes unintentional words will be used for infinite amplification. Maybe when you forget all these words, and then you are turned out to add salt and vinegar, you won't have to argue.

Second, keep your heart.

We actually have a purpose when we enter the workplace and start working. In order to make money, this is the most primitive and important purpose. At the same time, keep learning and absorbing new things to accumulate experience and make yourself more valuable. These are the two main reasons for our work. Of course, we don't deny that some rich second generations with good family conditions just take them to work to pass the time. But most office workers have to go to work because of various pressures.

We should understand that when you enter a company, the boss invites you not for gossip and chat, but for work and creating value for the company. We should also know that we only come to work to earn money and accumulate learning, not to chat and gossip and participate in power struggles. If you work hard and the company pays you, you shouldn't be a gossip. Can't stand anything, you can leave, and you can't live without anything for the time being. You can choose to ignore it, just do your own thing, and you can't avoid others nagging in your ear. Then stop by your side, and you just listen to entertainment gossip and smile.

Therefore, no matter what level or position you are in the company, you should have a steelyard in your heart to balance me, and don't blindly follow, follow or join any small group (although you may feel temporarily lonely). What others do and say may temporarily bring them short-term benefits, but as ourselves, we need to have an accurate judgment, because people can't work in a company all their lives. Many things are not immutable, and some things will come true if they are said too much. Do more, and your style and habits will be formed. It will be dangerous if you don't keep your heart. Don't hurt others, prevent being hurt by others. You can't have the heart to hurt people, and you can't have the heart to prevent people. Don't attack others, and don't give others a chance to be a gun.

Of course, there is no need to remind people of the "guns" they use when they are wronged, because people will understand if they are willing to be used, or if they are inexperienced, ignorant and experienced. Either you are willing to be used, which is a fait accompli. If you exhort again, it will appear that you are whitewashing yourself.

I'm not saying that there is no trust between people because the workplace is so dark. It's just that we don't have to put our experiences on things that have nothing to do with work. No matter how a person's private state is, as long as his work ability is where, the intersection and cooperation with him at work is smooth. You keep your mouth shut, quiet inside, and these so-called workplace darkness naturally turn a blind eye to you.

Finally, I borrowed the warning from my congratulatory letter to Luo Zijun in the first half of my life: you come to work to make money, not to make friends; If I can make friends, it will be a surprise.