"My belly is so strong that I gave birth to three sons." Is this really a good thing in the end?

Our family is the largest family in our village. Due to the remoteness of the area, the old man's patriarchal mentality was more serious at that time, and he felt that having a son was the most honorable thing to do.

At that time, my sixth uncle’s family was the most proud in front of my grandma, having given birth to three sons in a row. Because my sixth aunt lived next door to me, the most common thing I heard her say was: "It's not just because of my belly that I gave birth to three sons in a row."

It was indeed quite enviable at the time. But it was not a good thing in the end.

When the eldest son got married, the bride price was 36,000 yuan (the price of bride price in our area at that time was generally around 16,000 yuan, and the dowry items were few). This made my sixth uncle and my sixth aunt very worried, but For the sake of my son's happiness, I have to let him marry. Think about it and just give it.

The eldest daughter-in-law became pregnant not long after she got married. She was a daughter. Because the eldest daughter-in-law and the eldest son were usually too busy and had no time, they gave the eldest granddaughter to the care of the sixth aunt. But sometimes the eldest daughter-in-law felt that her mother-in-law did not take good care of the child and spoke ill of her everywhere. In the end, the two of them had a quarrel because of this matter. In the end, the eldest daughter-in-law took the child back and it was such an unpleasant quarrel.

It wasn’t until more than a year passed that the two began to speak.

Later, the second child calculated that it was time to get married, because the second child knew that the eldest brother had given him a gift of 36,000 yuan when he got married, and the second child told his girlfriend about it.

His girlfriend refused to let go of the 36,000 yuan, which put Uncle Six and Aunt Six into trouble because business was not doing well in those years, and Aunt Six helped her eldest son take care of the children. , no money was saved at all. But the second brother also attacked the two elders. He could spend so much on marrying his eldest brother, why can't he marry me?

The second child’s girlfriend was pregnant at the time. She said she would not marry unless she received a 36,000 yuan gift, and then she had the child beaten. How can the two elders with such traditional ideas endure such humiliation? In the end, he managed to scrape together a few things and got the second child married. After getting married, he still lived with his sixth uncle and his sixth aunt.

Because very early on, Uncle Liu gave all his savings to buy a homestead for each of his three children, and finally gave it to one of his sons. If the eldest brother could earn some money in those few years, he would have already made his own homestead. I built a house on the homestead and moved out by myself. The second child was still young and had to live with the sixth uncle and the sixth aunt. In fact, this was fine because the sixth aunt could help take care of the second daughter-in-law who was in confinement.

The second child’s first child is a son, the eldest grandson of my sixth uncle and sixth aunt, who is loved by all.

It can be said that Aunt Six has done nothing since her children grew up. She just takes care of her daughter-in-law during confinement and her granddaughter and grandson.

The second child lived with them, and there was no unpleasantness in taking care of the children like the eldest child.

Later, the third child also reached the age of marriage, but times are progressing and the RMB is depreciating, which means that the price of the bride price will increase. When the third child got married, the woman asked for 66,000 yuan, which was suddenly 30,000 yuan more than the eldest brother and the second child. Now the two elders did not have that much money, so they tried their best to scrape together only 30,000 yuan.

But the woman refused to let go and said directly: "We don't have a car or a house, so the sixty-six thousand you ask is already a small amount."

Later, the two elders decided to let their two eldest sons help a little: We two elders have already given you two wives with our money. Now that your younger brother is getting married, you two can help a little bit. Bar.

But no one was willing to help, and each one was poorer than the other. Maybe the real situation at that time was that there was no money. At that time, the elder's family had just given birth to their second child, and the second's family had just become pregnant with their second child.

In this way, the two elders had a quarrel with the two elder sons over the marriage of their younger son. In the end, they had no choice but to lend money to their younger son for their marriage.

At that time, the second son had also built a new house. Later, because of this incident, the second son’s family moved directly to the new house.

The younger son is actually quite capable (their three sons are all very good at making money). Within a few years of their marriage, the younger son built a new house with the help of his mother-in-law's family. Originally, the younger son should live with the two elders, but my sixth uncle always couldn't stand the younger son. The two even fought several times. For a period of time, the younger son and his daughter-in-law were kicked out by my sixth uncle. Later, It was my sixth aunt who found it and brought it back.

The third child was really angry, so he later moved out to rent a house, and then built a new house on the homestead, just a few families away from the old house.

Later on, my sixth aunt was ill and hospitalized. None of the three sons took care of her or visited her. For a while, it was so serious that she had to go to the provincial capital for medical treatment and no one took care of her.

I remember that when I went home during the Spring Festival that year, my mother was feeling unwell and was also hospitalized. When I went back, my mother was supposed to be discharged from the hospital the next day. At that time, my mother said, you Come here, come and see your sixth aunt. She is in the next ward. I'm afraid she fell asleep while taking the injection and no one called her.

When I went to the ward, her injections were almost finished, but she fell asleep. Later, I woke her up and asked the nurse to change her injections. At that time I only saw her crying.

As for what happened in the intervening years, I don’t know very well, because I have been studying outside and then working. I only know that my sixth uncle and my sixth aunt often quarreled, and they even wanted a divorce. My sixth uncle also often quarreled with those children, and some even fought.

In fact, a large part of the reason is that the children feel that the sixth uncle and the sixth aunt are partial. The boss thinks they are biased towards the second and third children, the second child thinks they are biased towards the boss and the third child, and the third child thinks they are biased towards the boss and the second child.

But they didn’t find out who they were leaning towards? Now the two elders live alone, and the family gathers together during holidays and festivals, and each son gives the elders 400 yuan for living expenses every month.

Every year when I go back, I feel sad when I see my sixth uncle and my sixth aunt, especially my sixth aunt, who brought up her own three children and helped her three sons raise their grandchildren. The family is full of children and grandchildren, but I am not happy either. On the contrary, other families with daughters would come back with nieces, nephews and gifts during holidays.

I don’t know if my sixth uncle and sixth aunt would be envious, because her three sons were the thing she was most proud of.