My husband went abroad for three years to support his family, and my original happy marriage was ruined. what do you think?

If you get what you want, it will be the icing on the cake. These idioms were originally used to describe beautiful things, but I don't know whether to be happy or worried when I think of these words at the moment.

My eldest son Yuan Yuan and I are 4 years old this year. I can't stand Peiying's soft words that like children, and I can't stand my inner desire for my daughter. I agree to have a second child.

I was pregnant in October, and I gave birth once. The second child was really a girl or two girls, so I am lying in the delivery room at the moment with mixed feelings.

Peiying's parents are over sixty years old, and their health is not very good. Two people can barely take care of one child If they take care of two children at the same time, it is definitely impossible. So one of Peiying and I had to resign and take care of the children at home, but we discussed it for a long time, and finally I was the one who resigned at home.

Pei Ying said: "If I quit my job and take care of my children at home, you will have to bump back and forth to deliver milk to your children if you insist on breastfeeding. I earn a little more than you. Besides, I am a man. Anyway, I can't watch my wife work hard outside, but I can't help. "

After being married for so long, I know Peiying didn't mean to disrespect me, and what he said was so reasonable that I was completely speechless.

However, it is this decision that makes me feel wronged. Before long, new problems came out again.

After all, it used to be that Pei Ying and I had to support five people on the salary, but now, Pei Ying's salary alone has to support seven people. Rao is that we are thrifty again and again, and often feel short of money. Some necessary expenses cannot be solved by thrift.

I know Pei Ying is also very upset: although he is always relaxed in front of me, when he is alone, he often sits there speechless.

In the middle of the night, when I passed by the study, I looked at Pei frowning on the book case from the door left unlocked in the study. I was so distressed that I couldn't resist rushing into the study and holding him in my arms. "English, you say, is our second child wrong?"

Pei Wenying fell into my arms, took a deep breath and patted me on the back. "Mei, don't think like that. There is no right or wrong in life. Since God has given us such a life, let's accept it with a clear conscience. Don't worry, I will definitely come up with a solution. "

But what can be done? I can't leave my children to work and shoulder the burden of life with Payne, and Payne can't get rich quickly.

But Pei Ying is always like this. He won't tell me about his anxiety, and he carries everything silently.

I think, after all, I didn't see the wrong person. After so many years, Pei Ying is gentle and considerate to me, and all the flowers she eats are what I want. When I gave birth to a child and was confined by her, he was afraid that my health would not recover well. He clumsily fed the children, changed diapers and let me sleep well, but he didn't sleep for a while, which didn't waste my desperate marriage with him.

I told you, if you think your love is indestructible, try to have a baby. If you think your husband and wife have a harmonious relationship and a happy life, try having a second child.

Pei Yingjing and I have withstood these tests, but we can't cross the hardships of life.

However, at the moment, I can only comfort Peiying. The hardships of life are nothing. As long as I am with Peiying and working hard in one place, there is no threshold for me to cross.

"English, if you have anything, don't always take it to heart. You can tell me that we are husband and wife. Even if I can't help you, at least we can encourage each other. "

"Oh!" Peiying smiled gently. Although there was endless fatigue in that smile, it was better than when she frowned. "A-mei, I've been thinking about something for a long time, and I think it's necessary to discuss it with you."

"What is it?"

"In order to explore foreign markets, our company has recently set up a new overseas office in Argentina and is looking for the person in charge of the office. The work cycle is three years, the salary is nearly three times that of my current position, and there are overseas allowances. I've been thinking about it for a long time. I want to apply for going abroad, first, to earn more money, and second, to pave the way for my future development. If I do a good job in the Argentine market this time, I will return to China after three years, and I may be directly promoted to an executive. "

Peiying looked at me seriously. "I feel reluctant to part with you and your children, but I also blame myself for not giving you a better life. May, what do you think I should do? "

Peiying's words are in the tone of discussing with me, but I know that he must have made a decision to get to this point.

I asked Pei Ying, "Have you decided?"

"Yes, I have thought for a long time. You can't have your cake and eat it. I always give it up. May, you will always support me, right? " Peiying kissed the back of my hand, and the pain in her eyes was so obvious. "I wronged you for three years, okay?"

I think, whether for Peiying's future or for the children's future, I have no reason not to support Peiying's decision.

I am even more afraid that if our life is not good in the future, Peiying will point to my nose and say, "I have an opportunity in front of me, and you made me give it up." Otherwise, how can we live like this? "

2

The plane carrying Peiying finally flew into the sky and was never seen again. It was not until he left that I finally understood what kind of life awaited me.

Maybe Pei Ying can't help a lot when he is at home, but I know he is not far from me. If I can't stand a phone call alone, he will appear at once, but now, I really should talk every day, and it doesn't work.

On rainy days, I went to school to pick up my son Yuan Yuan. When I got off the bus, we accidentally fell into the mud. The weather in early April is not cold, but it is definitely not warm. I hold my son's wet little body and want to shout in such a heavy rain.

Once upon a time, I walked up and down the street with my son in my arms, yelling at her. At this time, I forgot my own pain and rushed home with bags of vegetables, fruits and Yuanyuan.

When I got home, I quickly changed clothes with Yuanyuan, and then I was busy cooking, cleaning up after dinner, playing games and reading with my son, and then putting my two daughters to bed. It was past eleven o'clock at night when I called my parents-in-law to sleep. I finally got a chance to see my knee was knocked by Qing Wu, and the tears in my eyes kept flowing into my mouth, salty and bitter.

But after all, the life of fighting for a day is over. I can rest by the bed for a while, but overwhelming dizziness comes in waves. I tried several times but didn't get up, but when I heard my son crying, I stood up and rushed out.

I held my son in my arms and asked him what was wrong. He said to me feebly, "Mom, I'm cold and have a headache."

I touched my son's head, which seemed a little hot, but I was still not sure if Yuanyuan had a fever, so I touched my head with my hand, trying to judge whether my son had a fever with my body temperature. When I put my hand on my forehead, I found that my temperature was hotter than my son's.

I quickly dressed myself and my son and took him to the nearest hospital. The doctor diagnosed that I needed infusion because of a cold and fever, so in the corridor of the hospital late at night, my son and I were more dependent on each other for infusion.

More than two hours later, after the infusion, I dragged my tired body and took my son home. I put him away and leaned back on the bed. The feeling of fatigue is so obvious, but before I feel sad, Pei Ying's video request was sent.

Pei Ying asked me, "What were you doing just now? I sent several videos and you didn't pick them up. " There is a little dissatisfaction and coquetry in her voice.

I endured the exhaustion of my whole body and lied to him. "When I put my son to sleep, I accidentally fell asleep and just woke up."

The love in Peiying's eyes is so obvious, but she still can't help blaming herself. "I'm sorry I can't accompany you. I just want to earn more money now, so that when you and your children want to buy things, you can buy them without worry. This idea fills me with fighting spirit. As long as I think that my wife and children are happy every day, my heart will be soft. "

This is the most romantic thing Payne has ever said to me. Although it smells like so many fireworks, I heard it with tears.

This is also the happiest time of my day. This home is quiet, warm and peaceful. Under the orange lamp, Pei Ying and I poured out our hearts to each other.

I hid my fatigue, faced Peiying with the gentlest smile and told him, "You should take good care of yourself, too. Everything is fine at home, and I am fine, except that I miss you a little. "

I know, Pei Ying is no better. He is alone in a foreign country and has to adapt to language barriers, acclimatization, eating habits and so on. But he didn't complain to me either, just because he wanted me and my children to live a carefree life.

In fact, which woman doesn't want to live a lifetime with a broad chest? However, we are only human beings, and we have a trivial life, and we don't even have time for self-pity.

Sometimes it is. A seemingly simple idea is actually an unreachable dream. I dreamed of an innocent girl all my life, and then I woke up and turned myself into a complete woman.

Now, I can carry a bucket of water home by myself, or I can carry children with big pockets and small pockets on my back. I can put my two daughters to bed at the same time, and I can also help Yuan Yuan to arrange homework and let the teacher accompany him. I can bathe the three children one by one, or I can wash all the clothes at home by myself after they fall asleep.

But in half a year, I have been reborn and become strong and independent, but I don't want to live this life at all.

three

In a blink of an eye, it has been closed in recent years, and Peiying finally came back travel-stained.

Peiying has the opportunity to return to China twice a year, but this is his third time this year.

Pei Ying came back for the first time, probably a month after she went to Argentina. Unable to stand the pain of lovesickness, he bought a plane ticket and hurried back. He stayed at home for only one day, and then left in a hurry.

That day, I also sent Peiying to the airport. During the waiting time, the two of us just sat in the lobby of the airport, as if there were a thousand words, but we didn't know where to start. We just sat silently and let the time go by bit by bit. It was not until the last moment of the airport broadcast that Pei Cai Ying turned to the terminal with infinite nostalgia.

At the moment Peiying turned his head, I vaguely saw water drops falling from his face. At that moment, I couldn't hold it any longer, and my eyes warmed up immediately.

Actually, it's not just Peiying, but I'm also sad. Although Pei Ying and I are not deeply in love, after all, we have never been apart for such a long time since the day we met.

Almost instinctively, I wanted to hug Peiying at once, but I held back. I'm afraid I'll break his heart and my hard-earned strength.

Who says men don't flick when they have tears? Just not sad. What can we do? No matter how much sorrow and grievances we have, we have to bear them, because we are parents and children, and we are not only living in myself. So I can only look at Peiying's back with tears in my eyes and let him leave silently.

When I met Peiying at the airport, he dragged me into his arms and hugged me tightly as soon as he saw me. This time, he didn't cry, but I knew the bitterness in his heart.

I looked up at Pei Ying. It's only been a year, and his face is full of vicissitudes, as if from a long time ago, but his eyes are firm, confident and calm.

Peiying is really mature, so he is a real man.

There's myself, isn't there?

Under the erosion of years, I have turned myself into a man, just as Pei Ying and I are not husband and wife, but sworn brothers. If I didn't live with Mr. and Mrs. Pei Ying, I even felt like a complete man.

Every time Peiying comes back, I am greeted by the lingering touch of death. I am obviously too tired to respond to him, but I don't want to do that. His insatiable appearance annoys me.

"English, if you are too lonely outside, you can find someone to play with you occasionally. I won't care. " When we were all quiet, I said to Peiying.

What principles, what bottom line, are so pale and powerless in front of life. Peiying is more difficult to be alone abroad than I am. Sometimes physical pain is not the most unbearable, but spiritual loneliness is the most painful, so I hope Peiying will at least not be treated unfairly physically.

"Would you do that?" Pei Yin Ying looked at me seriously and asked.

"I won't ..." I shook my head gently. "I have Yuan Yuan and two daughters, but you are alone ... I feel distressed."

Peiying caressed my long hair and shook her head gently. "I won't ... don't think so much. This life won't last long. We have lived for a year. Wait, wait, wait. I will find a way to come back. "

In fact, I don't care whether Peiying really did what he said. Life is so hard, even if he lies to me, I am willing. At least he has me in his heart, or he won't even lie to me, so he left me. I can't do anything now.

In the silent night, Payne hugged me and told me the anecdote he met in Argentina. The sound of fireworks exploding came from time to time in the sky, so the New Year came silently.

As Peiying said, we have spent a year, and the day of gathering is getting closer and closer.

In such a relaxing time, Pei Ying and I took our three children to amusement parks, shopping malls and supermarkets. Peiying hugged the girl affectionately and hugged the girl again, and the smile never fell.

I think the sacrifice of Peiying and I is worth it after all. Our three children are well fed and happy every day. Peiying and I cherish these gathering times more because of our parting, and we know each other's difficulties and difficulties better.

Sometimes I even think Peiying is more gentle and considerate to me than before marriage. These days at home, he accompanied me every day, accompanied the children to go shopping, cook and play games. After dinner, we held our daughter alone and went downstairs for a walk. He looked me in the eye as if he could squeeze water out.

How can I save you without a golden hoop? How can I love you with a golden hoop? The omnipotent holy warrior in the movie still has to face such a helpless choice, not to mention the mortal me and Pei Ying.

In the dictionary of adults, there is no such word as "easy". We always have to learn how to get rid of things that are not so important to us and then protect things that are more important to us.

four

In Peiying's second year abroad, I have completely adapted to my present life. At least now, I have been able to skillfully face those daily problems alone and then solve them calmly.

Coincidentally, in the third year, Peiying's business in Z City was decreasing and expanding. In order to play a leading role in local distributors, their boss plans to open a demonstration dealership in Z city.

Peiying told me on the phone that after he got the news, he took the initiative to find their boss to take over the preparation and operation of this demonstration store, and their boss agreed.

So, a month later, Peiying finally returned to China. Of course, this time, he doesn't need to leave again.

"What will you do after the demonstration shop?" Being happy is inevitable, but I am also worried about Peiying's future, so I sent Yuanyuan to school and coaxed her two girls to take a nap. I was worried and asked him.

"That's Mr. Wang's current idea. If I manage the demonstration store well, I will not only play a demonstration role, but also make considerable profits. Do you think he will still have the idea of removing this store? " Peiying confidently said to me, "Don't worry, since I can set up an office in Argentina, I can also set up a dealership in Z city. I've thought it over. Working for others is not a long-term solution after all. I will try my best to do this store well, and then talk about cooperation with Mr. Wang. "

I know Peiying's confidence is not groundless. I have always known his talent, and the plight of our second child has actually become a powerful promoter of his success.

"Well, I believe you!"

During that time, Pei Ying was very busy every day. Although others came back, it was not much different from when she was not at home.

Many times, I don't know when he will go home and when he will leave. Occasionally, I see his figure in his sleepy eyes and tell him not to fight so hard. He will come and hug me and comfort me: "I know I am overdrawing my body in exchange for money, but the golden period of life is so short and fleeting. I must seize it so that we, our children, parents and the rest of our lives can live safely."

what can I say? I can only hold Peiying tightly, give him encouragement, and then look after the children, take good care of my parents and help him worry.

Half a year later, before the dealer chamber of commerce at the end of the year, the demonstration store built by Peiying was completed and opened. Because of his previous contacts and business popularity, the turnover and profits in the first month were considerable.

I don't know much about Peiying's business, so I don't know what he means by considerable. Pei Ying told me that the turnover of this demonstration store he runs ranks 16 in his company's national distributor ranking, and the profit ranks ninth.

"Do you know what this means?" Peiying asked me with an excited expression.

I shook my head.

"My operation depends not only on sales, but also on excellent management. My demonstration store is not only a demonstration, but also a mode of operation. Mr. Wang will no longer withdraw from this store, and he also agreed to my partnership request. " Peiying held my face happily and said, "I am a partner in this store now, not a wage earner who is controlled by others."

"Really?" I'm surprised.

"hmm!"

I was so happy that I cried with Peiying in my arms. My Pei Ying, finally, these three years of suffering have not been in vain.

"Mei, this shop belongs to both of us. I know how hard I work, how hard you work, and your grievances. " Pei Ying hugged me tightly and said, "I'm glad that you have always supported me, stood behind me and guarded our home with me, which made me feel at ease and shared my success and joy."

At that moment, as if to vent, I burst into tears.

If only Pei Ying understood me, then I wouldn't be wronged at all.

five

Yuanyuan went to primary school and two daughters went to kindergarten. I can finally find a job again.

Although I have been out of touch with my work for more than three years, I have not been idle these years, saying that I am taking care of my children at home and always paying attention to various trends in the industry. I bought a lot of books and read them in my spare time. Fortunately, my efforts have not been in vain, and I will be able to start a new job soon.

Everything is moving in the right direction.

My supervisor is a married and fertile mother in her thirties, who also takes care of me at work.

"I actually admire you, the mother of three children!" Occasionally, when chatting with me, she would say, "There are four adults and one child in our family jumping all day, not to mention having the heart to work again. How did you do it? "

"Admire me? Who doesn't want to be weak forever, but I don't have such capital. " I laughed, "I still envy you. Life and work are very smooth. "

"Ah, by the way, your husband's name is Pei ..." My supervisor asked me.

"Pei Ying!"

"Yes!" My supervisor said, "I have often seen him near our neighborhood recently. I didn't know he was your husband. I knew it when he picked you up from work that day. "

"Oh, what's the matter?" I know that my supervisor has another story, because as far as I know, she is not a gossip and likes to talk about other people's lives.

"It's just ... as a woman, I want to advise you to pay attention." The supervisor said meaningfully, "I shouldn't have said too much, but I love you so much that I can't help reminding you."

"Thank you." I replied weakly, and my heart has sunk to the bottom.

I know, my supervisor must have seen something wrong when he said this, and I ... what should I do?

At one time, in the most difficult time, I didn't care what Pei Ying did, but when our life was on the right track step by step, when Pei Ying really had such doubts, I couldn't bear the anger in my heart any longer.

So, when we were alone in the dormitory at night, I pretended to ask Pei Ying casually: "The house in Hong Ying community is not bad."

"You feel good, too?" PeiYing immediately to the fun.

"Yes, high-end residential area, who doesn't like it!" Of course, I said, "It's just too expensive. Not suitable for the old couple to live in, suitable for rich bosses to buy for their lovers. "

"Who said that!" Peiying smiled and hugged me. "Wait a little longer, and I'll let you four have a spacious house to live in."

I closed my eyes and didn't answer Peiying's words. Maybe every man has a dream of having a group of wives. They play five good men in front of their wives, but at the same time they can't stand the temptation of feasting outside. I don't have the capital to negotiate with Pei Ying now, so I need more evidence.

So in an hour after work at noon every day, I just ate a few snacks and then stayed in the teahouse opposite Peiying's shop.

Many things happen. The other day, I really saw Peiying drive away with a beautiful young girl.

I called a taxi and followed closely. Not surprisingly, they went to the Red Eagle Community. (Novel title: The Secret of Unlocking the Second Child, written in May. From: read some stories every day and watch more exciting)