Phoenix Man's grievance: My girlfriend divorced on the spot after listening to my mother's family rules. What do you think of this?

When it comes to marriage, you can't get around it. These four heavy words have been handed down for thousands of years, and the confrontation is love.

It is said that you should not look at people under the door. Parents don't want their daughter to marry Phoenix Man. It's not a prejudice against the label Phoenix Man, but an instinct to protect my daughter. No matter how small the chances are, no one wants their children to be emotionally tortured and wronged in marriage whenever possible.

Just like the netizen "pleated skirt" didn't listen to her parents at first and insisted on falling in love with Phoenix Man. She woke up after being inspired by her family and believing what she saw. As soon as the front foot broke up, the back foot saw Phoenix man do the same dynamic three times, expressing her grievance: back home, his girlfriend didn't want to marry. How melodramatic is the only daughter in the city?

Ming people don't tell lies. My boyfriend is the unlovable Phoenix man, but in my opinion at that time, he was smart, diligent, practical and enterprising, and knew how to seize every hard-won opportunity. Although it is not flying on the branches, it is objective to be full of bright spots.

Boyfriend was born in the northern countryside, and his parents had a child in middle age. Another 9-year-old sister married to a foreign country, was offered by her family to go to college, and began to earn her own living. After work, she also changed her old house into a two-story building.

We met at a friend's wedding and sat at the same table. His appearance was quickly noticed by me. His white face, angular elegance, sharp eyes and shrewdness make me like it more and more.

Then my boyfriend pursued me. At that time, he had been working for five years, and his monthly salary was167,000. To tell the truth, that's because our city has a high income and countless lines.

On the day we confirmed our relationship, my boyfriend explained two things to me: my parents are too old to do farm work, and they will be given 3 thousand yuan every month. In addition, before me, he had been in contact with two girls, and because there was no tacit understanding, each had his own worries and naturally broke up.

I don't think there is anything wrong with giving less than one-fifth of my income to honor my parents. Confessing his love experience just shows that he is open-minded.

At first, my mother teased me about my boyfriend's income, until I talked about his family, and my mother immediately felt disgusted. Don't say that she is married, even if she is in love, she will definitely disagree. "It's not that a family can't get into the house. Different growth environments make different lives, and the three views are different. What do you take to face married life? Phoenix man is not something that an ordinary girl like you can provoke and control. "

Unfortunately, like a rebellious child, I didn't take my mother's warning seriously at all, and I had many arguments with my mother. My father, who has always been taciturn, made a suggestion that puzzled me: accompany my boyfriend back to his hometown.

At that time, I didn't think much, thinking that my father was letting me know my boyfriend better, or simply giving my mother a step down, I took my boyfriend on the way back to my hometown.

Before leaving, I specially selected some practical and thoughtful gifts for his parents: smart rice cooker, foot bath tub and massage cushion.

When my boyfriend saw it, he accused me of spending money indiscriminately. "My parents have been in the countryside all their lives, and they are all rough people. They can't even read the instructions. This kind of technological thing is not needed at all. It is better to give them some money. "

Although the journey is long, we still choose to drive by car. If you use other means, it is really troublesome to transfer to more than two modes of transportation. After more than ten hours, they finally "returned to their hometown".

My boyfriend's parents are very happy to see us coming back in a dusty way. They helped us with our things and called us to the living room.

Soon, his mother brought a plate of washed tomatoes, and his boyfriend's smile disappeared and he gave two quick smiles. "Mom, I didn't say hello to you in advance, so I asked you to prepare some watermelons and strawberries. How can a bunch of persimmons entertain people? "

Boyfriend's mother gave him a white look. "Persimmon is not a fruit? I wanted to buy watermelon, but as you can see, it was raining in Mao Mao outside, and I didn't buy it after several turns.

As for strawberries, we went to the county the day before yesterday, and the cheap ones cost 30 yuan a box. I'm not saying it's better to pick persimmons now. You can't spend money recklessly. If you can't, don't buy fancy things. "

I'm a little at a loss to hear her old man say so. I'm hesitating to take out the gift I brought. My boyfriend's mother saw the package at a glance. "Daughter, you are a guest from afar, but my aunt doesn't treat you like an outsider. I have to say something about you. Our son never spends money recklessly. You wrote these things. I don't know how expensive rice is if I don't take charge. My aunt guides you, but don't lead my son astray.

I am angry and funny. The first half of the sentence is called aunt, but how did the second half become aunt? The boyfriend couldn't listen any longer, and even advised his mother to cook, and finally gave two people a solution.

At the dinner table, my boyfriend's mother asked about our marriage, and then made a request to me. "I can understand that the child is too old to live with the elderly, but I am still a little unhappy when I say it from my son's mouth."

I shouldn't bother you, but now it seems that I can't. You can't say what your life is like without my attention. I'll go with you as soon as you get married. When the time comes, you go to work in a down-to-earth manner, and I'll take care of the money. "

Out of reason and courtesy, I didn't answer the phone and motioned for my boyfriend to "escort" with my eyes. The boyfriend cleared his throat and agreed to his mother's request. I feel cold from head to toe.

I didn't expect three gifts and two fruits to decide my married life in one sentence. I asked myself, I am not a girl who spends money indiscriminately. Although I am willing to spend money on food and clothing, it is within my power.

It is undeniable that seeing her mother-in-law change her boyfriend's position in a few words. In a rage, he asked to go back overnight on the grounds of work. I thought a lot along the way, and when I got home, I saw my parents, and my tears flowed down unwillingly.

I sent a breakup message to my boyfriend, stating my thoughts. My boyfriend didn't solve the real problem, and repeatedly stressed that it was not easy for my parents to raise themselves, telling me not to be so petty.

I don't want to argue After "meeting and parting", I won't waste my breath.

"It was not easy for my parents to raise me."

This is what Phoenix always said. It is true that it is not a word or two that can describe the hardships of parents in raising their children, but all parents in the world pay the same for their children, and no parent is relaxed.

As a son, it is natural to repay his parents, but he should not be filial to his wife's feelings and family harmony.

The so-called well frog can't talk about the sea. Two people who grew up in completely different environments inevitably have different styles of doing things and perspectives on things, and even their living habits are far apart. This is an obstacle between most girls and Phoenix Man.

Once there is disagreement with in-laws after marriage, Phoenix Man will stand by his parents and support his family unconditionally, no matter right or wrong.

Under such circumstances, women's temporary grievances are small, and their lifelong grievances cannot be easily borne. If they can't stand it, they will have estrangement and even quarrel, which will eventually lead to the misfortune of marriage.

Not that all Phoenix men are like this, but in marriage, we can't be careless, don't you think?