Should we teach our child to recite ancient poems when he is three years old, or let him have a happy childhood?

Dear, I can tell you firmly that you must teach!

Wu Yishu, the talented girl who spoke out loud at the poetry conference, started learning ancient poetry when she was about three or four years old.

Learning at this age does not mean that it must be comprehensive, but must understand the meaning of words. It is the subtle influence of "reading a book a hundred times will reveal its meaning".

Take my own child as an example. He is now over four years old and can recite the entire text of the Three-Character Classic, Di Zigui, Thousand-Character Classic, Daxue, Doctrine of the Mean, Li Weng Duiyun, etc., and dozens more. Let’s start with a Tang poem and Song lyrics.

In the past, I would have thought this child was so awesome. But now I don’t think so, because I don’t feel at all that I deprived my child of a happy childhood by allowing him to endorse. On the contrary, when he can blurt out four-character idioms and ancient poems in life, he feels particularly happy, happy and joyful.

Once reading becomes a habit, the child will enjoy it, just like he has to eat and sleep every day, and will not feel any pain at all.

A fourth-grade child in my colleague’s family is a book addict. He wants to read that book every time he goes to the toilet. Because he likes it.

Super speaker Yuanyuan said: I especially like to spend holidays, because then I have time to secretly surpass others.

Reading may not make our children prosperous, but it can at least give our children the capital to choose a career they like when they grow up!

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Why does reciting ancient poems = unhappiness?

Whether a child has a happy childhood depends on parents’ expectations and education methods. When our child couldn't speak, I could only sing a limited number of children's songs when I put her to sleep. When I couldn't sing any more, I would recite Tang poems to her. I really couldn't recite the multiplication tables for her.

When she was one or two years old, she naturally memorized the Tang poems that I always memorized, and there were about ten of them. Just when I'm walking and have nothing to say, I recite poems. If she is happy, she will carry it with me. If she is not happy, I will not force her to carry it. During this process, I discovered that what she liked was the rhythm in ancient poetry. Even though I explained the meaning of the ancient poem to her, she still didn't understand it. When she talks to herself, she often tries to make every sentence rhyme, which I find very interesting. In fact, the beauty of ancient poetry lies not only in its rhythm but also in its artistic conception. It is still early for a child to understand the artistic conception, but she can feel the beauty of the rhythm now. This is a kind of influence. When she grows up, there will always be a moment when she sees a certain scene, and her heart will rise. It turns out that "the solitary smoke is straight in the desert, and the sun is setting in the long river" is such a shock! Only then will she have her own experience of the artistic conception of ancient poetry.

One day, our girl recited a poem, which I couldn’t do. I was so surprised that I asked her, baby, who taught you this poem? It turned out that when she was watching the Qiaohu CD, there were ancient poems taught in it, and she remembered them. I'm very happy. If you can memorize the CD after watching it yourself, it shows that the child is at least not repelled by ancient poetry. Station B also has a series of ancient poetry animations by the Chinese Choir, which the three-year-old also likes very much. It is a must-see program every night before going to bed. It's a pity that there aren't many out there, so I finished them quickly.

If parents regard memorizing ancient poems as a task that their children must complete every day, otherwise, neither the children nor the parents will be happy. Then let me ask you, why do you want your children to memorize ancient poems?

There is no conflict between learning ancient poetry and a happy childhood.

Three-year-old children have just entered kindergarten and are about to start learning. Parents can also do some enlightenment at home.

1. First, learn to take care of yourself.

Eating and going to the toilet by oneself are basic. Only when these are done well can children be more adaptable in kindergarten.

I have also seen some children in small classes in kindergarten who usually ask their parents to send them over if they wet their pants. Think about it, before the parents go, they have been doing it alone, so they must be a little worried.

2. Only by learning can you be happier.

Children over three years old are at the age when they are curious about everything. If parents provide appropriate guidance, listen to some ancient poems with their children, and then cooperate with parent-child games, the children will be very happy.

In fact, what every child needs is companionship. As long as their parents accompany them, they will feel happy. Parents' companionship is the most important thing. Wouldn't it be better if they could learn things along the way.

At this age, even if a child can memorize some ancient poems, he will forget them if his memory is not strengthened. I think my child has forgotten all the nursery rhymes she learned in kindergarten. This is not important, the learning process. She is happy, that's enough.

I think the parent’s question itself presupposes the position that learning ancient poetry is unhappy. When parents already feel that studying is hard, out of love for their children and do not want their children to suffer, how can they want their children to study? How can children fall in love with going to school?

Whether or not to learn ancient poetry and whether a child is happy or not are two different things. At the same time, they can be combined into one thing, so that children can learn in happiness and realize that learning is fun. thing.

If you want your children to learn ancient poetry happily, it is very important for parents to have the following methods:

1. Understand the age-appropriateness of the child. A 3-year-old baby is still in the enlightenment stage and has limited attention span, so learning must be carried out in the form of games. You can play ancient poems to your child. Don’t worry about whether he is listening attentively and learning seriously. The constant repetition of the sound will enter the child’s brain and he will naturally learn it.

3. Avoid preaching and forcing children in the learning process. Parents are their children's first teachers, but some parents accidentally become the first "killers" and kill their children's interest in learning with their own hands. Inappropriate statements such as "He just doesn't pay attention to learning anything" and "Hurry up, hurry up and memorize the poems", as well as parents' impatience and impatience, eventually become obstacles in the way of children's learning.

My daughter started to recognize words when she was one year old. She was exposed to picture books when she was two years old. She can basically read them all at the age of three. Reading was a great pleasure for her as a child. These wealth are clearly shown in the primary school learning stage. You don’t need others to read the questions, it is easier to understand the meaning of the questions, you don’t have to worry about writing essays, and your language skills are developed... In the final analysis, it is the explosion of accumulation in the early stage.

Accumulating steps can lead to a thousand miles, and move forward in small steps. Your child will not be depressed due to great pressure. Please accompany your child step by step with your heart.

Nowadays, many children have started to study when they are about three years old. In fact, if they are not taught to recite ancient poems and other things, they will not have a happy childhood. They must pay attention to methods in everything and combine work and rest. , according to his preferences, teaching according to the individual, as long as proper guidance is given, the child will have a happy childhood while learning knowledge, and it will be more helpful to go out into the society in the future.

I am happy to answer your question. When the child is three years old, should we teach him to recite ancient poems or something like that, or let him have a happy childhood? I talk about my feelings based on my own experience.

First of all, let me talk about my own growth experience. Because I come from an educational family and my mother is a Chinese teacher, I have been influenced by this aspect since I was a child. Memorizing ancient poems was a compulsory course for me when I was a child. Starting from the earliest "Ode to the Goose", "Quiet Night Thoughts" and "Compassion to the Farmers", I have probably recited all of them. The Chinese people were enlightened by ancient poetry starting from these familiar stories. Looking back now, I don't seem to have any pressure or feel any unhappiness, and it laid a good foundation for my writing during my student days. Although I can no longer remember the author or name of many ancient poems, I can still recall the famous lines.

Then, let me talk about some of my feelings about educating my children. My children are now seven and four.

We started teaching them to recite ancient poems after they became fluent at the age of three. Now the eldest can recite one to two hundred poems proficiently, and the second one can also recite twenty or thirty poems. Perhaps because of the method of education, in the past few years of learning ancient poems, , the child did not feel any unhappiness. On the contrary, the poems he often blurted out inadvertently were so appropriate that it surprised people again and again. My experience mainly includes the following points:

1. Reciting ancient poems is not a task or homework for children before they go to elementary school. Do not insist that they must memorize a few poems within the specified time. Put ancient poems into daily life and games. For example, the most common time I teach my eldest son to recite ancient poems is when I take my children for a walk in the evening. I read and recite them aloud while circling the community. Children have very good memories and can often recite them after reading them more than a dozen times. The second child's recitation time is on the way to kindergarten in the morning. I will play games with him and practice repeatedly. You will say something to me, and you will encourage me in time. I also need to learn to show weakness, so that he can have a feeling of "he can, but you don't." Yes, he will teach you” feeling, and the children will especially enjoy it.

2. For enlightenment, you should choose Tang poems that are simple and easy to understand. They have a strong visual sense or contain simple truths. They must be catchy. Choose five character quatrains first, and then start reciting seven poems after the age of five. Quatrains. It is recommended to buy a picture book of Tang poetry, which can be used as a picture book to tell children. In fact, for children, they rely on image thinking and repeated retelling to remember. Pictures are very important and are very helpful for children's memory. Many Tang poems describe a picture. Tang poetry picture books can give children a very vivid description, allowing them to better understand the artistic conception of Tang poetry.

3. Children often recite ancient poems in short-term memory, and will soon forget them if they are not repeated frequently. Therefore, the principle of Ebbinghaus’s memory curve should be considered and practice frequently and repeatedly. In daily life, when you see corresponding scenes or events, interact with your children to strengthen their memory. For example, if you go out for an outing in the spring, you can ask your children what ancient poems you think of about spring, or about willow trees. Over time, when children practice repeatedly, not only will they not be boring, but they will also find fun in it, and parents will also gain a lot of surprises and happiness. For example, one time, when we were driving, the sunset looked like a salted egg yolk. I said: Look at how beautiful the sunset is today! My Dabao blurted out: The sunset is infinitely beautiful, but it’s almost dusk. There are also some very good review methods, such as poetry competitions. Children like to compete with their parents very much, or making poetry cards, playing cards with children, etc.

In short, don’t set tasks or put pressure on your children. Learning ancient poetry is a happy thing. The key is to use the right method. The above is my own experience with my two babies. I hope it can To help and inspire you.

Hello everyone! Stabilize your own life rhythm and be the most beautiful woman and the best version of yourself! I am Shui Lian!

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