On the wedding night, her mother-in-law gave her daughter-in-law a hand and forced her to wash her feet. She was angry. Did her daughter-in-law do it right

Personally, with the development of society, people have higher and higher requirements for their own spiritual level, and the most prominent thing is that people's pursuit of marital happiness has been significantly improved.

It may be the improvement of spiritual needs, but it actually makes people feel unhappy. Therefore, most contemporary couples are dissatisfied with marriage and feel unhappy after marriage.

Whether it is happiness or misfortune, there must be a reason. Happiness is not born, and misfortune is not born. When you envy other people's happy marriage and lament your unhappy marriage, have you ever thought about the reasons?

Except for some external factors and forces that you can't change, the bitter wine in most marriages is brewed by the husband and wife themselves. But we only know how to complain to each other, and we never want to reflect on ourselves.

Some people may not believe it. I have worked hard in my marriage, but contradictions and differences will still appear. Is this my fault, too

In fact, people who have this idea are wrong in their own views. Blind efforts will not change the result, but will only touch yourself in the end. The most important thing for us to run a marriage is to be targeted. Working hard on the problem is the real management of marriage.

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Some people will say that in marriage, I know how to reflect on my mistakes and work hard, but the problems I encounter are not from my husband and wife, but from my mother-in-law. What should I do?

Indeed, the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often not due to the husband and wife's own reasons, and the problems often appear on mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But regarding the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what I want to say is that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a scourge, nor is it invincible. It takes skill.

Why are there contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? I think we have been together for a long time, and the differences in living habits and values between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lead to contradictions.

So if we want to solve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, can we let mother-in-law and daughter-in-law not live together? This reduces the conflict between two people. As the saying goes: the fragrance is far away, and the taste is near. Maybe the distance is far away, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will miss each other, but the relationship will be harmonious.

Personally, I think the method will be much more difficult than the actual one. As long as each of us thinks hard, there will always be a way.

Marriage is a university, love is an art, and couples must communicate in marriage management. Only through communication can we understand each other, what they really need, and solve problems and contradictions.

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Reader Xiao Juan recently encountered a rather troublesome thing, which made her very upset. When talking to me, I can feel her inner hesitation. After my comfort, she regained her confidence.

Xiao Juan's troubles are either because she met a wonderful mother-in-law.

Speaking of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I believe many women will feel the same way and feel helpless about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Of course, today's mother-in-law is far better than her mother-in-law in the past. But we can't think that the mother-in-law in the world is better. Because China is so big and has such a large population, unexpected things will happen. Who can guarantee that the world will remain the same?

Xiao Juan and her current husband, Zhang Hao, have been in love for three years. During this period, they have been on and off, but they finally came together. The difficulty of love makes both of them cherish each other. Finally, Zhang Hao felt that the time was ripe, so he proposed to Xiaojuan.

Xiao Juan was moved to tears and agreed to Zhang Hao's proposal without hesitation.

In fact, people who have experienced marriage will know that it is easy to cause contradictions when two people talk about marriage. Because of some practical things, two people have to face it. Such as buying a house and a car, bride price and so on. They are also testing the feelings of two people.

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Xiao Juan is an impatient girl. She will never change what she has decided. In fact, this kind of personality is really not so good, and it is easy to cause contradictions.

When talking about the details of marriage with Zhang Hao family, Lu Xiao actually considered the situation of Zhang Hao family, so he didn't talk about it. Just speak according to local standards.

In fact, families in Zhang Hao can afford it. Unfortunately, Zhang Hao's mother is a strong woman.

Zhang Hao's mother thinks that Xiao Juan has been in love with her son for three years, so some things can be saved. So she and Xiao Juan had an argument about the bride price.

In the local area, the wedding bride price is around 50 thousand. Xiao Juan asked for 50,000 yuan, and his parents promised 50,000 yuan to marry him. In fact, this is very fair.

But my mother-in-law thinks that two people belong to free love and should not be given a bride price. Because of this, Xiao Juan's temper suddenly came up. In front of Zhang Hao's family, he uttered a cruel remark: The bride price is 50,000 yuan, so don't get married until you take it out. I don't want people to say I'm a man!

In fact, if Xiao Juan speaks in a different way, her mother-in-law may not have a problem with her. But it's happened, and it can't be undone.

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Xiao Juan killed 50,000 yuan as a bride price, and Zhang Hao loved her so much that she went to beg her mother. The mother felt sorry for her son's pitiful appearance, but she was furious at the thought of Xiao Juan's attitude. Things will come to an impasse.

Finally, Zhang Hao's father saved the day and took out $50,000, so the wedding was held as scheduled.

Xiao Juan's personality is hot, but it's also about things, not people. Now that it's over, she feels all right. But in her mother-in-law's heart, she has long been unhappy.

Because the wedding room for two people hasn't been chosen yet, I'll stay at my in-laws' house first. On the wedding day, Xiao Juan was very happy. After all, she married someone she liked. They were busy all day and didn't get home until evening.

To Xiao Juan's surprise, this is the time when her mother-in-law is waiting for her at home.

When I entered the room, I just wanted to go back to the room, but my mother-in-law stopped me. Mother-in-law sat on the sofa and said she wanted to tell them something.

Mother-in-law said, "Today is your big day, and all the mothers are very happy. But now that you are married, Xiao Juan is a member of our family. I'm going to tell you about our family rules today! "

Xiao Juan and Zhang Hao looked at each other, suddenly some understand mother's meaning. May be to give Xiao Juan a duel.

Zhang Haogang wanted to speak to stop his mother, but her mother glared at him.

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Seeing that Xiao Juan didn't talk, her mother-in-law continued to talk to herself, saying things like "three obedience and four virtues" and "honoring her in-laws and taking care of her husband". Xiao Juan more listen to more angry, this all what age, still do these!

Looking at Xiao Juan, whose face was livid, her mother-in-law wanted to "punish" her and said, "The first thing you should do is to be filial to your in-laws. Tell you what, go get some foot washing water and wash my feet! "

Xiao Juan was immediately angered. How can a mother-in-law force her daughter-in-law to wash her feet on her wedding night? Her hot temper suddenly came up and said angrily to her mother-in-law, "I have never seen an old man like you. It's so disrespectful!" Just got married today, and you forced me to wash your feet. I married your son, not your nanny! "

Mother-in-law didn't expect Xiao Juan to scold herself, and her anger came up. Two people quarreled one by one.

It was a happy wedding night, because it made the whole family unhappy. Also let Xiao Juan worry in my heart, her mother-in-law despises herself so much, and she will make things difficult for herself sometime in the future, so how can she live this life?

In fact, in this case, both Xiao Juan and her mother-in-law are at fault, just because of the bride price. Two hot-tempered women become mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Once they encounter contradictions, they will only intensify them.

So I suggest that Xiao Juan, it is best to rent a house and move out. She must communicate with her husband more, let him talk to her mother, and minimize the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. At the same time, Xiao Juan should also reflect on his mistakes and try to correct his temper. Only in this way can marriage management be happy.