The Marriage Customs of Nu Nationality

In the old society, Nu people arranged marriages for their parents, often running away and stealing marriages. Before liberation, the remnants of the original marriage with the characteristics of Iacone's marriage were preserved, and the "transfer system" was widely popular. Family property is mainly inherited by the youngest son, and the lineage is calculated according to the paternal line. Bijiang area implements the father-son joint system.

Brief introduction of Nu people's marriage customs;

Nu people are basically monogamous and can fall in love freely. In the old society, parents arranged marriages, and there was often a phenomenon of escaping from marriage and stealing marriage. Before liberation, the remnants of the original marriage with the characteristics of Iacone's marriage were preserved, and the "transfer system" was widely popular. Family property is mainly inherited by the youngest son, and the lineage is calculated according to the paternal line. Bijiang area implements the father-son joint system. The wedding banquet is the biggest banquet in all manners. Before getting married, the groom should take pork, rice and other things to his father-in-law's house to help cut wood and farm the land, and then he can hold a wedding reception. At the wedding banquet, not only the wine and meat should be rich, but also the venue should be arranged. At that time, the bride and groom would have a wedding toast together, and the girls would throw flour at them to show good luck.

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Nu people's marriage custom-robbing marriage and smashing bamboo tubes

The Nu people living in Guke Township, Bijiang County have the custom of grabbing marriage, and they regard it as a prelude to the wedding. In order to rob a marriage, we must first inquire about the places where a girl often goes. After inquiring about the reliability, we should choose an auspicious day. The man gathered three or five unmarried strong men and lay in ambush in the jungle by the roadside. When the girl who wanted to rob passed by, she waved her hand to arrest her. Everyone immediately surrounded her with a smile and quickly grabbed her hands. The girl knows that this practice is to rob the marriage, but at the moment she can't figure out which young man to rob. She is not practical in her heart, she will feel scared and cry and scream all the way. Several boys dragged her to the man's house before letting go.

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After the man grabbed it, the crying and laughter quickly spread in the village. When the children in the neighborhood hear the sound, they come out to watch the fun first, and the adults will follow. The crowd crowded the man's house. When the guests arrived, the host family was very happy and took out the sorghum wine that had been prepared for everyone, each with a horn cup and drank it in one breath. Two women, as bridesmaids, said to the girl, "Don't cry, we all came here like this, and we will be fine soon." After some persuasion, the girl was silent. Two invited male matchmakers rushed to the woman's house with two bamboo bottles of wine to propose marriage. After entering the house, explain your intentions and quickly hand the marriage proposal wine to the woman's parents. At this time, the woman's mother pretended to be angry and stamped her feet. The matchmaker has always interceded for both sides calmly.

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The matchmaker went back to the man's house to report the good news without much effort. After everyone heard the good news of the matchmaker, the man's father had the pig killed at once, welcoming the matchmaker to return home in triumph. Then announce the wedding. The groom's partner (a smart, capable, healthy and very good at doing things) takes the groom, bride and many guests to the woman's house for the wedding. Everyone was talking and laughing, and the groom kept toasting his parents-in-law, saying that we would be a family from now on. When I got home, it was already the climax of the wedding. The fire is very strong, and it keeps baking wine, drinking, singing wine songs and dancing without accompaniment. This kind of dance is very intense, and the rhythm of footsteps and the vibration of the floor can be heard across the river. The wedding will last one day and one night.

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The next morning, the bride and her date went to a pond one kilometer away to fetch water. Here, the bride smashed a Hsinchu water tank, indicating that her body will always belong to her husband. After the wedding, the guests dispersed one after another, and the bride and groom returned to their parents' home with a piece of pork to celebrate the New Year. The woman's parents cut the whole piece of pork into several pieces, put it on one by one with bamboo silk, tied the knot, and ordered the newlyweds to send it to every household. This old custom of robbing marriage continued until the early days of liberation.

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Nu people's wedding custom-dancing in circles at the wedding.

Yunnan Nu men play pipa and women play strings. They used pipa and strings to exchange thoughts and feelings and pour out their love until the wedding date was set. After the engagement, give each other tokens. The man gave a homemade rope, and the woman gave a homemade embroidered cloth cigarette bag. There are signs on the cigarette holder and the cigarette bag that show that both sides really love each other and will never change their minds. Young men and women with deep feelings also cut each other a pile of hair to show life and death.

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On the wedding day, the groom invited several best friends to pick up the bride with a basket of akiko (flammable pine soaked in turpentine) and a can of wine. When you get to the woman's house, it is convenient for her to cook wine, kill pigs and cook well. Then the bride's best friends and relatives will accompany the person who comes to pick up the bride to send the bride to the man's house. At this time, the groom's uncle or aunt will present a bamboo bottle of wine to everyone who sends the bride before the bride steps into the man's house. As soon as the bride entered the house, the groom greeted her hand in hand, and the young men and women of the same age who came to congratulate her also rushed up to form a circle with the bride. * * * danced "circle dance" and sang "pipa music". Four days later, the man killed a pig and brewed a can of wine, which was taken by the bride and groom to the woman's parents to show his uncle's first filial piety to the old man after marriage. Then, lead the bride back to her family, and the wedding will be over.

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Marriage Custom of Nu Nationality-Wizarding Marriage

The young men and women of the Nu people who are engaged are first selected by wizards for divination, and the villagers of the groom help build new houses. On the wedding day, the man invited a dozen relatives and friends to pick up the bride, including an expert singer. Because when you pick up the bride, you have to sing with your relatives and friends, and you can pick up the bride only after the duet is successful. The wedding ceremony is relatively simple. The bride and groom must sit together, and the wizard wishes the parents of the newlyweds "harmony between husband and wife, many children and happiness, and no worries about food and clothing". Then the host entertained the guests with wine and meat. In the evening, newlyweds sing and dance with their relatives and friends. The next day, after the wizard sacrificed the ghost with a pig's head, he blessed the newlyweds. When the guests dispersed, only the relatives of the woman were sent away, and the man's father handed a bottle of good wine to the elders of the woman's family to drink. The woman's elders took the wine and offered hope and good wishes to the groom while drinking it.

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The Marriage Custom of Nu Nationality-Changing Houses

In the past, the custom of "changing houses" still existed in Nu society. That is limited to the transfer of "brother, wife and brother", that is to say, if the brother dies, the brother can marry his sister-in-law as his wife; When my brother dies, he can marry his sister-in-law. The transfer procedure is very simple, and the parties need to kill pigs to make wine and treat them to dinner. According to the past habits of Nu people, widows are not allowed to remarry after their husbands die. Widows can remarry only if their in-laws and brothers are unwilling to accept the transfer. There are certain conditions for remarriage: first inside and then outside, from near to far. That is, first choose the object among the close relatives of the family; If there are no suitable candidates among the close relatives of the family, they can only marry foreigners with the consent of the family. The bride price obtained when getting married abroad belongs to the deceased family.