I have a serious communication problem. Excuse me, communication heroes, how to talk nonsense with customers or friends?

Don't worry, speaking is something we have to learn all our lives. In view of your situation, I give the following suggestions (the purpose is to prevent you from "breaking communication taboos" because you want to communicate well with others, so you can think carefully before adopting them)

1 Many people have the same problem: they can't hold back their worries in their stomachs, and they always want to talk to someone for a little bit of joys and sorrows; What's more, regardless of time, regardless of object, regardless of occasion, everyone has seen their worries.

In fact, this is not wrong. Good things should be shared with others. Of course, bad things can't be settled in your heart. You should say yes, but you can't say it casually, because everyone you talk to is different. To tell the truth, you must have a "heart". What should be said, what should not be said.

Be careful when dealing with troubles, because pouring out troubles will expose a person's fragile side and change people's impression of you. Although some people appreciate your "human nature", others will subconsciously look down on you. The worst thing is that the fragile side will be mastered by others, which will lead to fatal injuries in future fights. This may not happen, but you must stop it.

Secondly, some concerns are dangerous and confidential, such as the pressure you are under at work, your dissatisfaction and criticism of someone. When you pour out these troubles to others happily, maybe one day it will be used as a weapon to refute you, and you don't even know how you suffered. Then, you should be able to pour out your heart to your good friends! The answer is still: don't say it casually. What you have to say should be screened, because your "good" friends now may not be your "good" friends in the future, which you must understand.

When talking, you should turn the situation into your own advantage. Say unimportant things to people around you, and listen to others' thoughts, and others will talk more because you listen more. The more he talks, the more you know! Talking less can not only guide each other to talk more, but also avoid revealing their inner secrets. Everything is under your control. Nod often. This is not to be a yes-man without a definite view, but to avoid becoming an inappropriate person in the eyes of others. In other words, when listening to others, nod your head more, which shows that you are concentrating and echoing. If you have different opinions, you should also nod your head before putting forward them, and then express your views according to the other party's ideas. Don't be too opinionated about unimportant things, just nod your head more.

It is a hidden rule not to tell each other your secrets completely. Don't bury a bomb for yourself. Remember, under any circumstances, you should only say three words to everyone, and you can't throw my heart out little by little.

6 seek stability and perfection, don't expose the shortcomings of others, avoid contradictions in life, seek stability and security, and don't talk less about scenes. There are two points to be mentioned in particular: first, praise that is not outrageous; One is a promise that may not be fulfilled immediately. Be measured when you speak. Once you touch each other's privacy and shortcomings, it is equivalent to stepping into a social "minefield". Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. To make good use of "avoiding contradictions and seeking stability", the key is to be good at discovering each other's strengths, rather than making a fuss about others' privacy and pain. In addition, since language is a communication tool, it has its advantages and disadvantages, just like a pool of water can feed fish and shrimp and drown the living. Because of the fuzziness and uncertainty of meaning, language is sometimes easily misunderstood. It is for this reason that "good words are afraid of triple". A sentence can be understood in one way or another. If you don't pay attention to what you say, you may be misunderstood by others and think that what you say is very good, but others don't understand it according to their own intentions, causing misunderstandings and cracks between the two sides. Sometimes you might as well say a compliment, but what you need to overcome is psychological problems. Don't think that flattering the leader is flattering. These compliments should be based on facts. At some point, you might as well praise something you should praise, and praise the advantages and disadvantages of others appropriately. This compliment must be sincere. This is a recognition of others and an emotional investment in you. When talking, taking the method of promoting first and then restraining will often get the ideal effect. When you speak, you should pay attention to sincerely praising each other's strengths and weaknesses, making them feel happy, narrowing the distance between the two sides and eliminating barriers. Then, step by step, you will tell the whole story. In this way, you will skillfully use words to guide the other party to hear what you have to say layer by layer, and you will not get angry without listening to a few words and break up in a bad mood. Laozi said: "Good words can be respected by the market." From a certain point of view, if a person is good at mastering languages, he can get what he needs. This illustrates the importance of speaking from different aspects.

7 speak to know how to package.

Although "good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, advice when unhappy is good for action", in reality, few people are really willing to listen to advice when unhappiness is true. In the study of interpersonal relationships, we should pay attention to respecting others, even if it is criticism, it should be packaged and decorated, which is easy to accept.

I hope it works for you, hehe.