What kind of experience is it to wean children?

My biggest regret since I became a mother is that my daughter/kloc-only drinks breast milk for 0/5 months. I still remember the pain of breastfeeding, no less than the pain of childbirth. If Ma Bao's breast milk is very good, it is suggested that the baby be weaned naturally, which not only enhances the affection between mother and daughter, but also benefits the baby's health. Breast milk is the healthiest food for babies, without any pollution and bacteria. Those who say that girls eat less milk will lose nutrition in seven or eight months, or women will lose nutrition when their physiological period comes. Such words are nonsense, and it is also a kind of pain for mothers to wean their children directly, especially when they return to milk.

Mastitis, mammary gland blockage and chapped nipple also appeared many times during feeding. But weaning the baby is also a brain tonic, and I have been regretting it ever since. I feel sorry for the baby, because my milk has been very good. When the baby was born, the baby born three months earlier than the family next door had no milk to drink. I have been relying on my own milk, and I have to pour hundreds of milliliters of milk every day to put my mother on the balcony. Every time I feed my baby, I feel particularly fulfilled because I save a lot of money on milk powder. And there is a feeling of enjoyment, because this is my time alone with my daughter [shy]. Therefore, it is suggested that Ma Bao insist on breastfeeding her children until they are weaned naturally. Enjoy the unique time with children.

Life was still very difficult at that time. From pregnancy to breastfeeding, I have no special nutritional supplements, just a normal meal. I only ate one chicken a month, but my milk is very rich and nutritious. Four months ago, my son had to get rid of the extra milk every day. My son was fat, strong and cute, and he could communicate with me before the full moon.

Because of fatigue, I lost weight quickly after going to work after maternity leave. By the time the son 10 month, there is not enough breast milk, just like the son can eat rice porridge. At that time, the little guy could eat a bowl of rice porridge in one breath, so I naturally reduced my feeding. I have only been fed once at night in the last two months, and I have been fed normally during the day. Then when I was one year old, I decided to wean my son without hesitation. We just took the weaning with us. The last time we decided not to feed him at night, we fed him full of rice porridge. We woke up in the middle of the night to eat milk, so we fed him some calcium milk biscuits and ate some biscuits in the middle of the night. This habit lasted for several months. My son won't cry, make trouble and never give up, and he will be weaned smoothly in one day!

It's amazing. From that day on, I really don't have any milk anymore! Later, someone asked me about the experience of weaning my child. Few people believe that I weaned my son like this! But this is the case, so my weaning experience should not be suddenly broken. First, I will gradually reduce breast-feeding and increase normal food feeding, especially during the day, which will naturally break, and neither adults nor children will suffer.

Never wean unless there are objective circumstances.

Tell me about my situation. I haven't been to work since I got married, and I'm waiting for delivery at home.

When my son was over one year old, I felt a deep economic crisis and wanted to wean him and go out to find a job.

Now that I have made up my mind, I left the child with my mother-in-law, and I left quietly before he woke up in the morning.

The family is fully supportive. They say it used to be like this when children were weaned. It will be fine if mother and son are separated for a few days.

Because I am a first-time mother and have no experience, I believe.

I didn't expect the next thing to become my most regretful decision in my life.

After I left, I heard from my family that my son couldn't find me when he woke up and cried his eyes out. When he was tired of crying, he lay still in bed, didn't eat anything and didn't give him his favorite toy. He finally slowed down for a while and began to cry again.

In the next few days, although I cried less, I was cautious in everything, insecure, afraid to grab toys with other children and unwilling to play with others.

Especially at night, I feel uneasy and don't want to sleep. I often wake up crying at the night I just left.

I, on the other hand, foolishly believed the old people's experience, because they said that children were weaned in this way.

About a month later, my son's condition improved and I went home. I regretted my decision as soon as I saw my son.

The chubby face has lost weight. I feel much thinner in my arms. I can almost walk when I leave, and now my weaning strength is not as good as before.

He hesitated when he saw me and asked me to hug him when he was sure it was his mother. At the age of one, he couldn't speak, but kept gnawing at my face, laughing and dancing excitedly.

He's been pestering me all day. Although I still remember my mother, I obviously feel that he is a little strange to me, mixed with temptation, distrust, timidity and flattery. I have completely lost my former willfulness and arbitrariness.

But at night, I must find my grandmother. I coaxed me to sleep with me, but I woke up in the middle of the night and found my grandmother.

In a month's time, my son changed from a lively, cheerful and somewhat overbearing carefree baby to a frightened bird.

I can't imagine how helpless and desperate a one-year-old child has experienced in this month.

In a world dominated by adults, his only trusted mother abandoned him, leaving him alone to face the sudden change of food and psychological loneliness.

Thinking of this, I feel terrible and can't forgive myself. If I stayed with him all the time when I was weaned, if I left him after weaning, but there was no if, I abandoned him when he needed me most.

I resolutely resigned. This time, I don't care how much my colleagues and leaders in my new job despise me, what my family thinks of me, whether I have wasted all my efforts or whether I am willful.

Yes, I went back to before liberation, although the salary was not bad at that time.

But I have no regrets.

My son is now five years old. Before one year old, he was lively and cheerful, and loved to laugh. He rarely bullied and trusted his mother.

I also have a good job on the premise of accompanying him.

At the age of five, he doesn't stick to me as he used to. He likes to do everything independently. I'm proud of him.

I don't know what will happen in the future, but I will never regret the company before I was 5 years old, no matter what I lost during this time.

Only that month became my lifelong regret.

Therefore, the subject must not listen to what others say. In addition to the nutrition of breast milk, premature weaning will have a certain psychological shadow on children. If you have to break it, you must also take a gentle and acceptable way for children.

If it's not easy, the child can't accept it, and you want to feed it, then don't listen to others, go your own way and let others talk. This is also the practice of being a mother.

Hello, Ma Bao, I'm a breastfeeding mother.

At present, the baby is one year and five months old. She has three meals a day and can have breast milk whenever she wants.

My mother, including my mother-in-law, asked me when to wean my child. Even my mother-in-law will say something embarrassing when the child is nursing. Of course, I don't care. My children want it, and so do I. Why not give it to him?

Fortunately, my husband is very open-minded. I told him that I took the child away before he was three years old. If I earn less money for two years, I won't die. If I earn more money for two years, I won't become rich.

My child's childhood is gone forever, so I choose to accompany him.

I have plenty of time to spend with my children. Let nature take its course about weaning. Maybe he won't eat it himself one day!

Hello, Ma Bao, after listening to your idea of starting weaning, it is actually very similar to my time. I think most of the time you rely on your daughter a little more, and you don't need to rely on it all the time when you are weaned. I feel empty now when I think of all the hardships you have suffered to give your child a sip of milk. Plus, if you are weaned and the child cries, you can't bear it.

Tell me about me, we also have the saying that "girls should be weaned early and boys can eat for a few more months", but I didn't do it. My daughter has been eating until she is about one and a half years old, and it is easy to wean at that time. I told her that she could not eat any more, and she understood. I see, weaning is neither crying nor noisy, and it is very smooth. I took it myself when I was weaned.

In fact, Ma Bao doesn't care much about what others say. You can cut it off whenever you want, as long as you want to feed it, you don't have to struggle!

There are still a lot of breastfeeding around me until I was two years old, so there is basically no argument that "the baby is still breastfeeding at this age"!

My baby is currently 23 months old, and the weaning plan was officially implemented at the beginning of the month. But the baby's habits are not very good, such as sleeping, loving breastfeeding during the day and breastfeeding once or twice at night. From 1 1 month, I tried to breast-feed my baby at night, but failed several times, because the baby always took it by himself and didn't follow anyone at night. If I don't eat breast milk at night, I will cry my eyes out, and my heart will always break. It has been dragged on until now.

When I was one and a half years old, I added 200-240 ml of pure milk and a bag of yogurt to my baby every day on the basis of breast milk. Later, I bought a picture book "Goodbye, Mother's Milk". At first, it didn't go well. I either squatted in my arms and wanted to eat when I saw my mother's milk, or I read other foods I wanted to eat in books. I turned over a few books and haven't read them for a long time. Until the end of last month, I showed it to him several times. He turned it himself, and I'll talk about it next to him. Sometimes I will give him Doby while breastfeeding. I said you are a big baby. Are you ashamed? Ha ha!

The real start of the weaning plan is to wean and sleep first, then stop breastfeeding during the day and get used to it at night.

On the first day, after getting up in the morning, I had breakfast and played at home. The baby wants to nurse, so he gets dressed and goes surfing. After lunch, I played at home and watched cartoons until I was sleepy. I sat on the bed and hugged him, listening to the soothing music and flapping rhythmically. It is probably uncomfortable not to eat milk. I cried in my arms every few minutes, so I used a small video taken by my mobile phone to attract my attention. After repeated several times, I finally fell asleep in my arms and covered the bed with a quilt. At the end of a sleep cycle, the baby wakes up crying, and all kinds of crying can't be coaxed, so he has to wear clothes and go out to play. Sleeping at night is also very sleepy, repeating the way before taking a nap, and it takes almost an hour to fall asleep. Sure. Night milk. Go on.

The next day, like the first day, I took a nap, cried when I slept, and slept for an hour at night. Divert your attention when you want to eat milk during the day.

On the third day, I took a long nap for an hour and a half. I didn't cry when I woke up. I slept for an hour at night and seemed to forget to eat milk during the day.

On the fourth day, the state was obviously much better. You don't need to watch a small video before going to bed. I fell asleep after a nap and stayed up late.

On the fifth day, when I woke up in the middle of a nap, I picked it up and patted it. I could pick it up without feeding, and the bedtime was shortened.

On the sixth day, when I was sleepy, I put it on the bed and patted it. Stay with me at night and turn off the lights. I slept for ten minutes.

On the seventh day, I weaned myself at night, looked for milk at two in the morning, hugged me, patted me on the back with nursery rhymes, sat on the bed and hugged me until I fell asleep, looked for milk at five in the morning, didn't coax me before repeating reading, fed a small bag of yogurt (the baby's favorite), and continued to pat me and fell asleep after drinking. At half past eight in the morning, I asked for milk before I woke up. Too sleepy, lazy, fed the last mouthful of breast milk.

On the eighth day, it was a smooth day. At 1: 30 in the morning, I found milk and went to bed. At 4: 30 in the morning, find milk, feed yogurt, sleep, and put it down after falling asleep. At eight o'clock, I woke up after eating milk. I didn't give it to me. I cried, hugged all kinds of toys, and went to the balcony to watch the bus (the latest and new fun).

On the ninth day, for three consecutive days, people woke up around one o'clock, all kinds of people walked, clapped their hands and fell asleep, woke up around four o'clock, fed yogurt, slept after drinking, slept until around eight o'clock, and woke up in Doby, then dressed, watched cartoons and waited for breakfast.

On the twelfth day, I woke up at night and fell asleep.

After that, I stopped eating or drinking at midnight. It has been more than two months since weaning. Under the premise of regular work and rest during the day, you can stay up all night until dawn most of the time, and occasionally wake up at night and sleep with your arms in your arms.

At present, my feeling is that I am happy for my baby to stop breastfeeding and sleep by myself, but I am sad that my baby will never eat his mother's milk again (in fact, I can't bear to part with it myself). My mind always flashes the picture of my baby smiling at me while nursing in my arms. Reason tells me that learning to let go is love, but watching a little person grow bigger and bigger is sweet and sad!

Your question suddenly brought my memory back to six years ago. I can still remember the scene of weaning my son!

My son was born on New Year's Eve 26, and his family was worried that because the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck twice, he chose caesarean section. Because I don't know how to feed correctly after delivery, the baby was fed milk powder twice half a day after birth, and each time it was 90 ml. After eating too much and sleeping, the baby vomited and was sent to ICU by the doctor.

My son is not around, and I have a lot of milk the day after delivery. In order to feed my son, I get up every three hours to get dressed and drink milk. That cold winter, caesarean section hurt everywhere, and I endured the severe pain and squeezed around. That day lasted seven days. Seven days later, the doctor couldn't find the cause of vomiting and let my baby out of the hospital.

Because of hospitalization, the baby is used to pacifiers and doesn't want to suck them. As a new mother, it hurts everywhere during caesarean section, so I can't hold and feed my baby correctly. For many reasons, babies cry when they drink milk. My mother-in-law has been criticizing me since she heard her grandson cry. Unlike a mother, I can't even breast-feed my children. I listened to the baby crying and my mother-in-law blaming me, and my resentment deepened. After much deliberation, I began to feed the baby in the bottle again.

Every time I touch my baby and feel hungry, I hug him in my arms and coax him to eat. Unfortunately, my baby cries every time. My mother-in-law scolds every time. One night I was tortured to death, and the amount of milk in my breasts was really too much, and it rose badly. Dad Bao is lying on my chest sucking milk, which makes me feel better. At this time, something magical happened. The baby burst into tears and bared his teeth at his father. I quickly picked up the baby and coaxed it. The baby was looking for a nipple in my arms and sucked it.

You have no idea how soft and happy my heart was at the moment when the baby was sucking with his mouth open. My husband tells me now that he teaches his son to suck milk. Since then, I have been holding my baby to feed, lying down and sitting down, and all kinds of postures can make my baby satisfied.

The baby will be one year and three months old. Breast milk must be thin, without the golden yellow and milky white at first. My mother-in-law began to urge me to quit milk, and I was disgusted that my milk was not nutritious enough. My baby is like drinking rice soup. Husband also said that babies who don't give up breast milk always get up at night to drink milk, which affects sleep and growth. I felt very uncomfortable after listening to it.

I get up early every day to nurse, and then I go to work. I'm not afraid to go home at noon to nurse. I don't think it's too difficult. All that talk is not breast milk. I'm actually happy when they don't know how to breastfeed. Think I am the closest person the baby needs most. Then I couldn't stand what they said. I am weaned. On the first night of weaning, the baby refused to sleep in the middle of the night and soon woke up and cried. I was arranged to sleep in the next room. Listening to the baby's heartbreaking cry, my tears kept flowing downwards. Mother and son are connected, and at that moment we are all calling each other.

The next night, our mother and son continued to cry like this. On the third night, our son is expected to be "desperate" and will grow up independently sooner or later. The baby stopped crying, so I finally gave up. At that time, I thought it wasn't that the baby couldn't live without his mother, but that I couldn't live without the baby.

It's too late to breast-feed pictures now. Thank you for your questions. I wrote so many words in 20 minutes.

Hello, Ma Bao, please let me talk about the first time I weaned my child.

First of all, I want to say that I have experienced many of your feelings and express my understanding. I was weaned when my child was one and a half years old. In fact, if my son's weight and height are up to standard, I really want to breastfeed him until he is two years old.

My son was very thin since he was a child, and he was once questioned about his milk. Well, I started feeding complementary food after six months, but I was allergic, and I got pimples after eating a lot of things, or I had diarrhea or constipation. I also bought milk powder. I felt that milk was not good, so I added more milk powder. But, to be honest, my family changed more than seven or eight brands of milk powder for my son, and he didn't drink any of them.

So I insist on breast milk. Children really depend on me and sleep next to each other. Because I am a full-time mother, I have to take care of the baby alone, and the child is asleep. I have to clean up the housework quickly. But I often wake up after leaving the bed for a while. Although there is no freedom, I still feel that I am needed by my children, and I am very happy!

I had to wean him when he was one and a half years old. When I went to the physical examination, the doctor said that every child was different. According to my child, he won't like drinking milk powder unless he is completely weaned. The doctor said that the nutrients in my milk are obviously not as comprehensive as milk powder.

For the sake of the child's health, I am willing to wean him and replace him with milk powder. My mother-in-law went to stay for a few days and helped me wean him. Unexpectedly, the process of weaning my son went smoothly. Tell him I'm hurt and he really won't touch me. When he wanted to drink milk, he looked at me and frowned and said, Mom is hurt!

So, dear Ma Bao, if you can't continue breastfeeding your child for some reason, don't be afraid to lose your son's dependence on you, and don't feel sad because you are no longer needed. You know, your children will grow up and travel without us, but the love and trust between you will go hand in hand!

The above is my answer, I hope it will help you!

It is really reluctant.

When my son gave up breast milk, he also had an ideological struggle. Give him up when he is eight months old and let him eat more other complementary foods. Every time my father says quit, I always say in my heart, wait! Looking at his miserable appearance, you have ten thousand reasons not to give up on him!

Until one year old. I really have to make up my mind to resign. Children don't eat for half a day. If he always wants to get into your arms, he will put some toothpaste on it to make him feel unable to eat. It's medicine He also has doubts. He wanted to eat but dared not, so he kept muttering. Because I stopped giving him milk and left him, he wanted to eat when he saw me. In fact, he is a good boy, and the day has passed.

Night is the hardest time, and we are both miserable. We don't eat milk for a day, and it hurts when we touch it, which is extremely hard. Children are addicted to it, and crying makes you feel distressed! Alas! When there is nothing to do, the father of the child gets up and hugs for a while, and when he calms down, he goes back to sleep! The first two nights were the hardest time, and then he stopped crying. Slowly, he gave up in a week or so!

Because I take care of the children alone, my father goes out early and comes back late every day. I didn't leave him half a step to give up milk. Among them, suffering, addiction, crying, sadness, love and thousands of emotions are disturbing. At this stage, the inner emotional drama must be brewed. When you quit breastfeeding, you won't be defeated by this emotional drama, hahaha!

Finally, I wish you success in quitting milk!

Am I the only one who thinks weaning is too cool? My two children were weaned in four months. First of all, there is not enough milk to eat. In fact, mixed feeding is also possible. I can eat 3-4 meals a day. But my husband said that if I feel hard, I should stop. Anyway, my children are used to milk powder. I eat a lot of soup and water every day, which makes me feel uncomfortable. Moreover, the weather in Sanya is hot and it is uncomfortable to raise milk. The whole family agreed that I was weaned, so we broke up smoothly. My mother-in-law cooked for a few days, and I was completely out of milk. And then I realized it wasn't cool at all. After weaning, the baby breastfeeds regularly. My husband gets up at night to nurse. I slept well, my figure recovered, and my whole popularity was good. Take care of the baby during the day and eat snacks from time to time to make yourself happy. In the evening, my husband and I can go out for a drink Anyway, it's all kinds of fun. When the second child was four and a half months old, my husband asked me if I wanted to wean. It's been half a month since milk powder was added. I decided to start weaning, and then I started fooling around with my boss. My brother basically gave it to my mother-in-law and husband. The most amazing thing is that my children are weaned so easily that they never need milk. He makes milk powder when he is hungry.