Why are there more and more stay-at-home mothers now?

There are more and more stay-at-home mothers around me. I was a full-time mother until my child was three years old. I didn't start working again until she went to kindergarten, but there were still many mothers around me who really didn't look after the children, so although the children went to kindergarten, they were still full-time mothers. From my own observation, there are several reasons why there are more and more stay-at-home mothers now:

1. A large number of mothers have no one to take care of their children, so they have to be full-time mothers themselves. Because our generation has broken the distant geographical boundaries with going to college, many people will stay in big cities for development after graduation, and our parents are too far away, and the elderly are particularly unaccustomed to living in cities, so many mother-in-law living in other places really have no one to take care of their children, so they have to be full-time mothers themselves.

2. More and more highly educated and high-quality parents pay more and more attention to their children's education. Nowadays, many families have only one child. How to raise children and what to do is better for them. Parents are more likely to follow the scientific way of raising their children than to follow the tradition and feel like our parents. So many parents are willing to sacrifice their careers to spend the most important first three years with their children.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting harder and harder. In today's society, although women have not yet achieved complete equality between men and women, they have been able to achieve economic independence and ideological independence. Unlike our parents, many women are attached to men and have no independent right to speak. They may look at their mother-in-law's face. But now the times are different, the status of women is different, and her mother-in-law may be more conservative. In addition, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along more, so in order to avoid the intensification of family conflicts, many mothers prefer to take care of their children alone.

I have been taking care of my daughter since she was born. As a full-time mother, I have a deep understanding of this center. When I was a child, I was breast-fed and seriously lacked sleep. When I was sick and threw up on the toilet, my daughter stood at the door of the bathroom and watched me cry. I have to take care of my daughter's three meals a day because of my sprained ankle.

Many people find it easy to be a stay-at-home mom. Just look after the children and tidy up the house. How tired you can be. But friends who have been full-time mothers know that taking care of children is really more tiring than going to work. Influenced by thousands of years' thinking that men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside, so once someone wants to go home to take care of the family, most people will think it is a woman. Although there are now full-time fathers, in most families, full-time mothers are still the mainstay.

So, if fathers can't come back to take care of their children, be considerate of your wives!

A few days ago, a former colleague of mine told me that she officially joined the team of stay-at-home mothers. Let me congratulate her. At that time, I was surprised that such an excellent white-collar worker, who had just given birth to a child, would insist on giving up his job. How could she send her child to kindergarten and lose her job?

Later, she told me that for so many years, she put her work first. Although the mother-in-law helps with the children, she is also resentful. She thought that her mother-in-law could relax by sending her children to kindergarten. I didn't expect her child to catch a cold and get sick every once in a while, so her mother-in-law called to urge her child to see a doctor, or asked for leave to accompany her child at home until she was physically and mentally exhausted, and simply resigned and took care of her at home.

So, why are there more and more stay-at-home mothers now?

1. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been at odds. If two people are grumpy, it is even more impossible to live together. At this time, when I had a baby, my mother-in-law couldn't count on it, so I had to resign and take care of the children.

2. After some children are sent to kindergarten, they are very prone to catch a cold and get sick due to physical reasons. When a child is sick, he is most worried about being a mother. It is unrealistic to ask for leave from the leader frequently, and the leader will have opinions. I have no choice but to resign and take care of the children. It is important to take care of this child.

3. From the birth of the child to the kindergarten, many mothers persist in the workplace, but the child does not persist in primary school. The child is difficult to discipline when he is old, and the child doesn't listen to the old people at home. In addition, in the rebellious period, parents have to have one to discipline their children at home and have homework to help.

Tell me about myself. I am full-time for eight years and graduated with a master's degree. Resign from a large foreign company to take care of the children.

There are three reasons to be a stay-at-home mom:

First, I don't want to fool my work and my leaders. The working atmosphere of the unit is relatively relaxed. Although I have no ambition, I can't change my serious attitude. You have to be a qualified employee after a day's work, and you won't say that you are fooling around with your salary every day. The unit allows special circumstances to work at home. My mother can't take good care of her children. She asks me every morning, can I work at home today? After a long time, I am not too embarrassed myself. After all, working from home still needs to delegate some things to colleagues. Nobody owes you anything, so I always help you.

Second, I don't want to throw the pot to the old man. After all, they have been busy all their lives. My mother was not brought up by myself, so she is not very good at raising children, and she has no legendary long-lived relatives. She will complain if she stays for a long time. Conceptually, unlike young people, there must be contradictions. At that time, my mother was in poor health and didn't take the children outdoors. Husband takes advantage of the gap between work every day to go home and take the children to the park to bask in the sun. He also complained that taking care of the children delayed him a lot of time and had an impact on his career.

Third, I want to give my children the best childhood. There is nothing better than companionship. It's boring to do it after it's over. I was brought up by my grandparents, and I didn't go to kindergarten, because the old people thought it was more troublesome to pick up and drop off, so they might as well play at home. So that when I was in primary school, I knew nothing about it and I knew nothing about it. I don't know what art is The old man can't read, so he won't meet him when he is reading. No one will explain it to me, he can only dig it himself. I asked my neighbor to sign the paper for me, and I copied the dictated words myself. Think about your miserable childhood and hope to make up for it from your children.

Mr. Wang and I talked for a long time, which is no good. In order to take care of children, our work will be affected, and children will not be accompanied by high quality. The old man still feels very tired. One of us must retire. Considering income and development, I resign.

But after resigning, there is no such thing as a chicken flying a dog jumping. The old man is free. If he wants to help, he can. It doesn't matter if he doesn't want to come. He can concentrate on his work, his position keeps rising and his income keeps rising. Children can also get better education and companionship. When the boss is older, we have a penis again.

Eight years have passed, the children are getting older, they are all studying, and their grades are not bad. I can be more relaxed. Mr. Wang understands that it is not easy for me to take care of my family, so he helps me take care of my children after work. I appreciate his hard work for his family, and I try not to let him do housework. So every day after dinner, we will rush to wash the dishes. Sometimes the eldest daughter will say, what's the point of washing a bowl [I want to be quiet]

In fact, maintaining a good family requires the efforts of both sides and mutual tolerance and recognition. Every family's situation is different, and stay-at-home mothers are not a scourge. There is no need to belittle them. They all contribute to society, but their division of labor is different.

After reading so many answers to this question, I also talk about my own experience and thinking.

Whether you can stay at home full-time depends on the economic conditions at home and the mother's personality. This is a protracted war. Mothers who want to stay at home should be mentally prepared.

Going home full-time for the first time (child born 1 year and 4 months)

Everything seemed fine before the baby was born. When a child is born and needs help from home, things at home follow. I had to leave my job after four months' maternity leave, but I still feel guilty about my former unit.

The child has gone to work again, and it has been 4-5 months. During this year's stay-at-home mom, it was really miserable. I don't want to go through that process again. During this period, the baby can't talk, walk or communicate. I feel like a walking kangaroo. Eating and sleeping are based on the baby's time; What breast aversion, diarrhea, thrush, cold and fever did not fall.

At that time, it is no exaggeration to say that going to the toilet quietly was a luxury.

When a child is young, he takes care of the baby at home full-time, more because of physical fatigue and the inability to communicate with language, and there is a kind of worry and anxiety that is out of touch with society.

Second full-time home (just in the first grade of primary school)

In fact, this time, strictly speaking, it is not a full-time home. It's just that I'm too tired from my previous work and want to have a rest. I just happened to catch up with the baby's first grade, so I stayed a little longer to help her transition.

This time I started my summer vacation and went to work in 65438+February. It took four months, and finally I ran away in a hurry to find a job. When children grow up, those trivial things are gone when they are young. What they get is that adults eat slowly, don't get up in the morning, don't know what their homework is, pencils and erasers are often absent, and their handwriting is like a ghost, and they don't know what to do. It is no exaggeration to fly a dog at home when the child goes home.

Taking care of the baby at this time is mainly due to mental fatigue. I always feel that such a small thing is very difficult for children. It is also difficult for children to calm down and think about it. After all, I may not be as old as him, but people sometimes lose their temper and may get more and more angry. I don't think it's good for the parent-child relationship at all. Maybe it's better to be apart for a short time, so 10 started looking for a job again in early October.

Finally, talk about my own feelings. Although it is difficult to bring a baby at home, it also witnessed the growth of children. This sense of participation can not be experienced at any time;

During work, if everything is normal and nothing happens, if the baby is sick, the school will organize another parent-child activity, and there will be all kinds of mourning in my heart. I will ask you countless times in my heart, I can't even control my own baby. What's the point of taking this class? Why do you go to work to earn money? It's disgusting. It's really on pins and needles.

From the general trend, there are really many full-time mothers who take care of their babies. After all, not every old man can take good care of his baby. After all, many parents are more willing to spend more time to train the next generation when the economy allows.

From my personal experience, with my personality and such stubborn ideas, I prefer to go to work. I also envy the kind of mother who can take good care of her baby at home and manage herself and her family well. I envy her, but I can't.

If economic conditions permit, I am willing to be a full-time mother.

I am a person who has been a full-time mother for a year and has re-entered the workplace. When I was full-time, it was very hard to take care of my children, but the family of three was together, and the home was clean and tidy, and there were no family conflicts.

But due to the great economic pressure, I have to go out to work, and my parents-in-law will take care of the children. There are three generations and five people under one roof, and many contradictions are exhausting. Stubborn old-fashioned father-in-law, sentimental mother-in-law, even my husband can't stand it, but mortgage, car loan, children's education, old-age care and unlimited desire are all on our shoulders, which makes me have no courage to quit my job and take care of my children full-time.

But how much I yearn for a quiet life of three and take care of my son wholeheartedly.

Many chicken soup texts advocate that women should be economically independent and not yellow-faced, but women are born with more sense of family responsibility and are unwilling to be shopkeepers. It's your own business to go home while trying to make money. On the contrary, you don't have your own time. I have to take care of my baby at two o'clock and one line every day, and I have to face my in-laws who can't get along. It's even more tiring!

In the past two years, there have been more and more stay-at-home mothers around me. However, many of them are full-time mothers in stages. Many mothers believe that children have to re-enter the society and enter the workplace after going to kindergarten or elementary school.

Why are there more and more stay-at-home mothers? I think this is the result of social development.

A very important reason is that people pay unprecedented attention to children. The number of children is small, and each child carries a greater proportion of the hopes of great parents and families. Every parent wants to raise several offspring.

In our parents' generation, there were five or six brothers and sisters and a dozen. If the east is not bright and the west is bright, there are always a few promising ones. Even if there is not much promise, you can still support yourself. In this way, parents will always be supported when they are old.

In our village, an old woman gave birth to seven children, four of whom died before they were raised. Everyone in the village said she wouldn't bring it, but the last three paid special attention and brought it up. Later, people realized that maybe the way grandma dressed was not the biggest problem, and those children might be infected with tuberculosis.

However, this is not the point. The key point is "scarcity is the most valuable thing". When the number of children is getting smaller and smaller, it will attract more attention.

Second, the competition is becoming more and more fierce, and the requirements of social development for children are getting higher and higher. In the past, children were casually stocked or brought by grandparents, and most of them were on the same starting line.

Today's children are different, and both physical and mental development and learning development are paid more attention than before.

Back to some towns and villages in my hometown, I can see all kinds of art training classes.

Many children will go to some training classes, not to mention cities.

Conditional families, of course, want their mothers to educate themselves so that their children can stand on a higher starting line.

Third, with the development and progress of society, people's needs are higher and their educational concepts are more and more advanced. On the basis of solving the problem of food and clothing, people's demand for development and respect is growing.

As the future development of parents and families, children become an important factor to measure parents' sense of value.

Therefore, parents want their children to have a good development in the future, so they are willing to invest in their children.

On the other hand, in the Internet age, it is more and more convenient for everyone to get in touch with educational concepts and knowledge, and knowing the sense of security and scientificity has a far-reaching impact on children's development. They don't want to miss the key years of laying the foundation for their children because they are not around for a while.

Needless to say, intellectuals in big cities and parents in small cities are getting stronger and stronger in this respect.

I have a relative, because the child is about to enter adolescence, he resolutely resigned and returned to his hometown in a small city in the fourth and fifth lines, in order to let the child spend adolescence more smoothly.

Of course, there is still no way to choose to go home and take care of the children full-time. A friend graduated with a doctorate and has two children. His parents are too old to take care of their young second child, so his friend has to quit his job to take care of the children. However, she believes that it is worthwhile to return to the family temporarily if it can lay a foundation for the future development of children.

I am the mother of two children. I have a master's degree in management from Renmin University of China, a master's degree in applied psychology from Beijing Normal University, an American lecturer in active subjects, and a gold medal tutor in parent-child reading, focusing on family education.

Welcome to exchange family education, personal growth, parent-child and marriage issues.

Why are there more and more stay-at-home mothers? I think this is a kind of social progress. In the past, if someone was a stay-at-home mother, many people would find it so easy for a stay-at-home mother to do housework and take care of her children! But now when it comes to stay-at-home mothers, many people will say that it is hard enough for you to stay at home. I believe that with the improvement of social welfare, more women will be encouraged to return to their families.

For many families with stay-at-home mothers, there may be three reasons:

1. Children need to take care of their families without the help of the elderly.

2. I hope to give my children the best companionship. Many mothers think that the first three years of their children are the crucial period for the formation of their personality and habits. They choose to be full-time mothers because they love their children and attach importance to raising them, and because they can afford it at home.

3. The second child is fully open. Some families who want to raise a second child will plan ahead, and having a full-time job is also the best solution to raise a second child.

One of the most important tasks of human beings is to raise their next generation, and in the process of raising children, especially in infancy, mothers are better than fathers or others. Every mother can instinctively become a good mother. Under the care of a good mother, the process of natural growth will be more favorable and happier!

I guess my opinion will hurt some stay-at-home mothers. I went to work after five months of maternity leave, but I insisted on breastfeeding my daughter until she was 2 years old and 2 months old. This period includes reading to her from 1 month, English enlightenment from 1 year, reading picture books with her every night, and speaking English with her every week for eight months. The child is cheerful and confident now, and his reading concentration is particularly good. Of course, I know the hardships.

I took a five-month break and went to work. I was a little scared and didn't want to go back to work. I thought at that time, what should I do if I stay at home for one year or three years? I don't even want to go back. Taking care of children at home is very tiring, but it is not the same as the pressure in the workplace. You might say that you can improve yourself, do yoga and take classes. You and I both know it's fun to play and everyone likes it. Everyone wants to escape the cruelty and complicated interpersonal relationships in the workplace, but you really can't learn these at home. Many people say that children will go back to kindergarten, but many really find reasons not to go to work.

Last but not least, you are you. Don't fantasize about not making progress. You mainly educate children. In fact, the biggest job of educating children is to educate themselves. I have a deep understanding. Now I'm learning to speak eloquence, and I'm much more confident. My daughter is 3 years old, more cheerful and generous. We can be lazy, but be sincere and don't make those grandiose excuses.

My baby is in a big kindergarten class this year. Among her classmates, full-time mothers account for a large proportion, and almost half of them are full-time mothers. So, why are there so many stay-at-home mothers now? I think there are almost several reasons:

1, forcibly "out of work". By my side, there are many precious mothers who take care of their children alone in the second month because no one takes care of them. Although they want to work to give their children a good living environment, they can only be full-time mothers in the end.

I feel more relieved. Many treasure moms feel that the parenting style of the older generation is not scientific enough, and they are not assured to give it to the elderly, so they have to be a little tired and take care of their children full-time. After all, the development of children's personality and habits needs to start from an early age.

Family conflicts can be avoided. There is often a generation gap between the older generation and the younger generation, such as different living habits or different views. Living under the same roof, there is inevitably no contradiction, so many treasure mothers simply take care of their children full-time, but they are much more worry-free than before.

There are many problems that must be dealt with personally. Many people will ask stay-at-home mothers the question, "Why don't you go out to work when your children are in school?" Yes, the children are at school, but who will pick them up? What should I do if my child falls ill regularly and no one takes care of him? Who does a lot of housework at home? I believe that no company can meet such conditions, which is why many stay-at-home mothers still choose full-time after their children go to school.

I am also a new stay-at-home mom. I used to work in a bank for eight years, but for more than four months after Bauer was born, I have been wondering whether to resign. Last month, I finally made up my mind to quit my job and go home to take care of Bauer and five-year-old Dabao. Although the grandmother at home has been helping to take care of it, the old man can't have the energy to take care of the two babies. In addition, when Dabao was working, it was mainly my grandmother who took my father and me to work. Children have many problems that cannot be corrected at all. When Bauer has some economic foundation, he doesn't want to leave his children in the care of the elderly. After all, he graduated from college and hoped that he could feed Bauer more scientifically. In addition, Dabao also needs his parents to finish a lot of homework together before school, such as reading. Although I am not a rich mother, I hope my children can be hugged by their mothers anytime and anywhere. The sense of security that a mother gives her children cannot be bought by any money. I believe that a child who has not lacked maternal love since childhood will be full of happiness when he grows up and will learn to love and be loved. Only by educating the next generation can society make continuous progress, so stay-at-home mothers are also making contributions to society. If family conditions permit, many mothers are willing to sacrifice years of work to change their roles and become full-time mothers!