Never do anything for your husband's family, and don't do it easily.

Some people say that women will always have low IQ in the face of love, and they will always be more emotional than rational.

I am convinced that most of the people who get hurt in their feelings are infatuated silly women.

Many women always want to give all their good things to men after finding true love. It's no problem to be nice to the man you love, but women should remember one thing: everything must have its own bottom line.

Even if you love another man, some things should be carefully decided whether to do or not.

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Even if you have deep feelings for your boyfriend, don't ask for bride price money for him.

Xiaoxi is the only daughter in the family. When she got married, she persuaded her parents not to ask for bride price money from her boyfriend's family because of difficulties at home.

She thinks that she is so considerate that her husband's family will be good to her after marriage. However, what she didn't expect was that her husband's family not only didn't take her seriously, but also said in front of relatives that she was not worthy of their son.

People are often so strange. If you don't take the initiative to pay the bride price, your husband's family will think you are upside down, but they won't pay attention to you.

The married life of my friend Xiao Liu is completely different from that of Xiaoxi. When she got married, her husband's family bought a house, and Xiao Liu's parents asked for 80 thousand bride price, but she got married with a car and gave her 6.5438 million more.

After Xiao Liu married her in-laws, she was treated like her own daughter, and she was not even allowed to do heavy work at ordinary times.

Xiao Liu said that it is natural to get married with bride price money, which also represents the respect of the man's family for the woman. So, you can't save what you want.

Although the bride price is not the standard to measure the happiness of marriage, if a woman gives up the respect and attitude of her husband's family before marriage, it will only make the other person less aware of you, and the life after marriage will naturally not be satisfactory.

Some people may think that talking about bride price hurts feelings too much, but the feelings that can be hurt by bride price are doomed not to last long.

So, don't think talking about money is vulgar. If you can't save face and talk about money now, most of the contradictions in your future life will be brought by money.

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If the husband's family wants money again, women should stop asking their parents for money.

A reader once complained to me that five years ago, my husband needed capital turnover for business, but all their savings were used in business.

So, they went to borrow money from their in-laws, who answered "no money".

Later, her husband knew that her parents still had money, so he asked her to borrow money from her family. He also said that it was only a temporary transition and she would pay back the money as soon as she earned it.

Her husband is also for this family, and she can't sit idly by, so she thought about it and decided to collect money from her parents.

At that time, their parents gave them 6.5438 million yuan, and their husbands promised to pay them back one year later in front of their parents.

However, five years later, her husband never mentioned paying back the money. Every time she says that she wants to pay back her parents' money in front of her husband, he will impatiently say that she is a fool, the money has been paid back, and your parents have not given it all to your brother.

Later, the two started an endless quarrel over the 65,438+10,000 yuan, and even divorced several times.

In marriage, a woman who is considerate of grievances is doomed to be unhappy, because your grievances only help others, not yourself.

Therefore, after marriage, women must be clear, don't spend all their savings easily, and don't foolishly use their parents' money to supplement their families.

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The contradiction between husband and wife should be solved as much as possible, and women should not talk too much, let alone take the lead in rushing to the front.

We often say that when two people get married, they become a family, and your mother is my mother.

This sentence sounds right, but it is not completely correct in essence. Because couples have to face three families after marriage: their own family, in-laws' family and parents' family.

Once these three families have any contradictions, other families should not interfere too much.

I have an enthusiastic colleague. After marriage, she adhered to the concept of "your mother is my mother, we are a family", and everything was for her husband's family.

For example, brother-in-law doesn't work hard and idles around every day. After getting married and buying a house, she emptied her in-laws' savings. Later, when my brother-in-law was short of money, he would ask her for it, and she never refused.

Later, the brother-in-law lion opened his mouth, and one mouth was 200 thousand, saying that he was going to invest and do business. This time, she didn't agree, but she didn't expect her in-laws and brother-in-law to blame her for being rich and unwilling to help her family.

At this point, she felt that she had helped too much before, and now she is trying to be ungrateful, making herself not a person inside and outside.

Whether it's her parents' family or in-laws' family, women should realize from the wedding day that although they are all relatives and family members, they should always keep a sense of boundaries.

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No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, don't do these things for your husband's family easily, or you will hurt yourself.

Everything goes too far. Being a measured daughter-in-law in life can avoid more contradictions.

A really good marriage is not to give and highlight blindly, nor to contain your every move with love, but to respect each other and grow together.