On education: Should parents play mobile phones with their children?

On education: Should parents play mobile phones with their children? There is a disease called "cell phone syndrome". The symptoms are as follows: you can't leave your mobile phone, you can't leave the internet, or you can't hang out in areas where there is no signal. You are so anxious ... But as a parent, do you know how much harm it will do to your children if you always play with your mobile phone in front of them? Find the answer from this short story shared below!

I had a problem with my daughter.

After a busy day, I just got home from work and received a complaint call from my daughter's class teacher, Mr. Wen: "Sisi is very unreasonable. Let her get up in class to answer questions, and she doesn't care. Ask her why, she loves to ignore it. "

My daughter has always been a very polite child, which is nothing like what she can do. I looked at her doubtfully, and I couldn't see any clue from her face. I had to apologize to the teacher: "Mr. Wen, I don't know the situation for the time being." I'll talk to her first, okay? "

After answering the phone, I couldn't help asking my daughter, "What did the teacher say?" I tried to understand my daughter's behavior. "What's the misunderstanding? Mom knows that you are not a rude child. " My daughter raised her little head and gave me a look. No one answered.

"Mom just needs an explanation, not blaming you." The daughter is still silent. I sighed and said, "Then think about it first."

Until dinner, my daughter still ignored me and ran to the TV to watch cartoons. I sat next to her and watched it with her for a while. After reading the cartoon, I patiently asked, "Can I talk to my mother?" The daughter sighed and stared intently at the TV advertisement.

"Why don't you listen to the teacher today?" I tried to make my voice sound gentle. Are you in a bad mood?

"hmm." The daughter replied casually, her eyes still staring at the TV.

The feeling of being ignored makes me feel bad. I have always tried to talk to my daughter on an equal footing. My daughter once told me happily that all my friends envy her for having a reasonable and good mother. This time, I just needed a reason, but she turned a blind eye. When my words are air, am I too kind at ordinary times and lose the dignity of my parents?

A fire rose from my heart. I stood up with a bang, grabbed the remote control from her hand, slammed off the TV, and shouted at my daughter condescendingly, "What's the matter with you!"

My daughter was startled and looked at me dumbfounded, with a flash of panic and injury in her eyes. My heart ached, but I still maintained the dignity of an adult and ordered, "Go back to your room at once and find out what you really want!" " "She bounced off the sofa and disappeared behind the door, her ponytail shaking and full of sadness.

I sat on the sofa in frustration, and my husband, who had never spoken, came over and patted me on the shoulder: "Calm down, you know your daughter best, so you have to trust her!" "

Yes, I know my daughter best. She is not an indifferent child. There must be a reason. I stood up, took a deep breath, calmed down and wrote a note: "honey, you ignored your mother, and her mother was very sad!" " I was angry with you earlier. I'm sorry. I hope you will forgive me. "I knocked on the door and then put the note under the door.

The real reason of the matter

Two minutes later, the door opened and my daughter stood at the door with tears in her eyes. Seeing me, she immediately rushed to hug me and burst into tears. Cry and tell me why. It turns out that my daughter decided to do an experiment as soon as she got up today-she ignored everyone's words.

While patting her on the back, I asked inexplicably, "Why do you want to do such an experiment?" My daughter looked up from my arms and gave me a look: "Mom, are you very unhappy that I ignore you?"

I nodded, and my daughter asked, "Are you unhappy that I didn't talk to you seriously when I was watching TV?"

"Yes, my mother feels very uncomfortable."

My daughter whispered, "I am often unhappy!" " Mom, you always work overtime and have no time to play with me. "I sighed and said," Mom has been too busy recently, but I took you to the park at the weekend! " "

The daughter has tears in her eyes and her raised face is full of grievances: "You didn't play with me. When playing the slide and swinging, you are playing with your mobile phone! "

My daughter's words flashed through my mind like a bolt from the blue. Now the function of mobile phone is more and more powerful, and I am addicted to it. I took my daughter out to play many times. When I was bored, I took out my mobile phone and brushed WeChat to send a message. Somehow, I remembered that when my daughter was four or five years old, I took her to the park to play. She was having fun with other children and ran to me laughing again and again. The sweat in the sun was crystal clear, and her eyes were full of excitement. The corners of my mouth are full of happiness, and it's silly to run to my side. It was not until I smiled and nodded at her that she jumped away like a happy rabbit.

Tears welled up in my eyes instantly, and I held my daughter tightly in my arms. Children love their mothers so much that they are always eager for their mother's response and look forward to sharing it with their mothers when they are having fun. Later, when my daughter grew up, I didn't think she needed it. Perhaps, my daughter gave me expectant eyes many times, and I ignored them.

I suddenly understood: "Do you want me to taste the feeling of being ignored by people by doing this experiment that ignores people?" My daughter nodded and looked at me timidly. I couldn't help laughing. I dealt with you as you deal with me. This method really impressed me.

I took my daughter's hand, bent down, looked her in the eyes and sincerely apologized: "Mom is not right to play with her mobile phone. You can come up with this method, which shows that you are good at thinking and have your own opinions. You showed your mother your shortcomings. But next time, you can communicate directly with your mother, don't take such an extreme approach, ok? "

The daughter nodded heavily: "I will apologize to the teacher tomorrow!" " "

The polite daughter is back. I decided to turn off my cell phone when playing with my daughter and enjoy high-quality parent-child time.

▊ What are parents? A title? A force of nature? Yes, but ... parents are a profession!

You think you are with your child, but the child finds that his mobile phone has robbed his parents!

Don't think that sitting next to your child and watching your mobile phone is to accompany your child.

Don't think that you are playing with the computer on. Urging the child with your mouth is controlling the child.

Spending time with your child delays your time, but you delay your child's life.

American psychologists have found that 20% of a person's achievement depends on his acquired efforts and 80% depends on his father's teaching.

As an "important person" in a child's life, the same affirmative words, if spoken by the father, will have 50 times greater influence on the child than the mother.

The influence of mother on children is whether children can become independent people; Dad, on the other hand, shaped the child's outlook on life; It has something to do with the formation of personality.

Who is more important in family education, father or mother? The answer is that everything matters. Whether the relationship between a person and his mother is harmonious will affect the happiness of his children's future marriage; Whether the relationship with the father is harmonious or not will affect the success of the child's future career.

▊ Give children 15 minutes a day, you can't do it?

Establishing a close parent-child relationship with children needs to be accumulated bit by bit every day, not overnight. The establishment of high-quality relationship needs to spend 15 minutes with children every day. The so-called high-quality companionship means that when accompanying the children, the father or mother is interacting with the children wholeheartedly, without distraction, without thinking about work or pressure; Of course, these all exist.

Friendship: looking for things to do together.

It can be reading and telling stories with children;

It can be playing games or playing ball with children;

It can be listening to a piece of music and singing together;

It can be sitting on the beach, listening to the sound of the waves with the children and explaining the knowledge of nature.

It can be climbing mountains with children, sitting on the ground together to study nature, observing small animals, flowers, grass and trees.

▊ companionship: listening+physical contact

Contact can be without judgment, blame, contempt, blow or interruption. Just very simple, very appreciative, very focused and very happy, quietly listening to the children.

In the process of listening, parents can have: hmm, oh, wow, yes, then what? What else is there? What's next? Waiting for a response. In the process of companionship, make physical contact as much as possible: pat the child on the shoulder, touch the child's head, put the child's little hand in his own, hug the child and so on.

Also, admiring eyes are very important. There are many ways. The most important thing is: Are you a parent at that moment?-Be there wholeheartedly.

Believe it or not, parents need training most, but they also lack it most.

The characteristics of this "occupation" of parents are: the most needed training is the lack of training! Maybe you have a successful career, but the success of your career can't make up for the failure of family education. Whether it is a child, the child is not the mother's alone. You only have one chance to grow up and educate your children. Don't miss it!

▊ The mobile phone can accompany you for 50 years, but the time of accompanying children and relatives is gone forever.

For parents: Please put your mobile phone aside. If we are 30 years old now, if we are 80 years old, we still have 50 years to be with our mobile phones. As long as we pick it up, it will always be with us; Listen to our call .....

If our babies grow up to 10, 12, 16, you will find that they will need their own space more and more; They no longer babble to "haunt you"; No longer "unreasonable" to let you accompany him; No longer throw yourself into your arms like a baby; I won't drag you to the bed, and I won't beg you to tell stories to sleep with her like I did when I was a child. You will find that in children, many times closest to you, once missed, will never come back. ......

Therefore, parents who spend more time with their mobile phones than with their babies: Please put your mobile phones aside and spend more time holding your baby in your arms; Slowly appreciate those years when you really have a baby.

Whether the parents of high school students stealing mobile phones should talk to him depends on how you usually communicate with your children.

It's normal for children to play mobile phones. In adolescence, the class is also an atmosphere. If all the students take mobile phones, you will be embarrassed. Older children are sensible and understand the dangers of mobile phones, but they are afraid of ignorance, have poor self-control ability, and prefer playing to learning.

For children, you can only communicate more. Don't argue with parents and children without saying three words, and finally the conversation will go away. Children would rather chat with netizens online than tell their parents the truth.

Communicate well and then understand his thoughts. You shouldn't spoil him and do anything with him. There should be rules at home and be reasonable in doing things. Have authority in front of children. Don't stop him or warn him not to do something without reason.

It's best for him to hold a mobile phone, but if there are conditions, such as improving his grades or maintaining his last grades, he can continue to take the exam, regardless, but as long as his grades are reduced, he is not allowed to take the exam before the next exam. Be sure to pay attention to your way of speaking and be reasonable. Don't be an unreasonable parent in front of children. Parents like that have no prestige.

Regarding whether parents should play mobile phones in front of their children, I think this article is about 10 children. Well, it's hard to say directly.

Especially in this era,

Everyone is empty and lonely,

I don't want to keep looking for something to do,

So the key is self-control.

Should the slag play with the mobile phone?

Should I play mobile phone in the evening self-study? Of course, I shouldn't play mobile phones from the perspective of studying hard. Nowadays, smart phones are powerful, and Weibo, games, socializing and shopping are all done on one machine. People with poor self-control don't study hard. If you can control yourself, it is also a good measure to play with your mobile phone occasionally after studying, so generally speaking, it's up to you.

Pure hand tour, for reference!

Should I play with my mobile phone in class? Turn off your mobile phone in class and attend class with peace of mind. You can play with your mobile phone in the future, not necessarily in class. You have to decide which is more important.

Seek adoption

Should children help parents with frustration education when they fall? First of all, pay attention to children's emotions. We adults should not scream loudly after falling. We can see the children's reaction. If the child is crying badly, check whether it is hurt. If the child just mumbles, we can encourage him to get up by himself. If parents need hugs, we should also try our best to meet their children's psychological needs.

Children do homework, and parents should accompany their children to read books. If parents watch their children do their homework, they will feel nervous, as if they were being watched. Parents are reading quietly, which does not affect their children's homework.

Xiong Haizi annoys me. Should I educate his parents? In the past, the concept of parenting in many families was that children would be beaten if they made mistakes. Nowadays, with the progress of society, beating and scolding children has been resisted by many people, and there are also educational methods to set up "No Child Abuse Day" abroad to resist beating and scolding children. However, there are many Xiong Haizi, and preaching alone can't play any role, which makes many parents feel embarrassed.

Should parents accompany their children to piano lessons? I can accompany you at first, especially for children who are too young. . However, it is not recommended for children who are too young to learn piano. . . It is harmful to the eyes and easy to be nearsighted.