Should my mother-in-law tell her father-in-law when she finds fault?

Not really. Why should I discuss with my mother-in-law, whether it's taking photos or booking a hotel? Are your in-laws in charge of all your money? If you are financially independent, you must be financially independent, because you will build a home, which is composed of a host and a hostess, just like your parents-in-law's home. It is the host and hostess who have the final say in family affairs, not another hostess (including the mother in her family and her husband's family). If you or your fiance's money used to be in his mother's charge, it should be in your fiance's charge now, because he will be the man who leads his own family. When your finances are managed by yourself, of course, there is no need to discuss such things with them. That doesn't mean you don't respect them. Dealing with these household chores is your own responsibility, and you don't need to report to anyone other than you. Just like a country, no matter how friendly and respectful it is to other countries, we don't have to ask another country if we can do this. This is a truth, and it has nothing to do with respect and filial piety.

On the other hand, if this kind of thing is not clear for the time being and needs to be discussed with his parents, it is not appropriate for you to discuss it. It is most appropriate for your fiance to go. It's subtle. When one day we become mothers and our children happen to be boys, we can probably understand why this is happening now. As a future daughter-in-law, you haven't become a real daughter-in-law in their family. Not only is it not suitable to discuss these things with your future mother-in-law (especially money, which is too sensitive and subtle), but it is also not suitable to talk with your future father-in-law. In fact, no matter what you say to your father-in-law or fiance now, you can only make your mother-in-law accused by everyone and polarize the contradiction, and you are not happy.

In fact, it is not easy to be a mother-in-law. It is hard for every boy's mother to see the man she brought up and marry a woman who will be closer than her in the future. Every mother-in-law is the same, but in different ways. Be sure to take care of the helpless woman's heart. Accepting her may sometimes be unreasonable. But that's because she is also very helpless. I am also someone else's daughter-in-law. I have been a daughter-in-law for seven years, and I have never blushed with my mother-in-law. Not because my mother-in-law didn't have a chance to get emotional, but because I decided that I must love my mother-in-law when I got married, because we are both women. Make sure that the mother-in-law feels that she is still the most important woman in her son's mind. In our marriage, first of all, everything to be discussed with my mother-in-law is done by my husband. I never go out. My husband says yes, but no,no. I will never let my mother-in-law get yelled at by her husband if there is anything to communicate with her privately. Second, no matter how much my husband loves me, I remind him not to behave too much in front of his mother-in-law. Every time I meet my parents-in-law, I remind my husband and mother-in-law to sit together in advance, first give her food, and hold her shoulders when walking. I will also hold my mother-in-law's hand. 3. I am grateful if my husband wants to help me do some housework at home, but I must do it all when my in-laws are at home; Sometimes my mother-in-law will come to me directly to discuss our family affairs. It was obvious at the beginning of marriage. She will suggest what we should do. Although I feel uncomfortable, I will say, "Well, my husband is the master of our family. Why didn't you tell him? " It won't embarrass me, it won't bring her emotions, and it won't let her go down the steps. At the same time, she may be very happy,' Great, my son is in charge, much better than my daughter-in-law. My son is really promising, and this kannika nimtragol is not a threat to me at all. Isn't this killing two birds with one stone? Don't be too smart in front of your mother-in-law, don't be too smart. It's good that the really smart daughter-in-law and in-laws know it in their hearts ... In fact, there are many details. This is not a show, but taking care of a woman's heart and protecting her from being misunderstood, which leads her to make a judgment. Make her feel that she is still so important. In her later years, she felt that her son's love was not lost because she had a daughter-in-law, and her performance and reaction would be normal. On the contrary, she will do things that we find difficult to understand or even hurt, but I believe that the original mother is not like this, just because this woman will share her son's love with another woman one day, which should have a great impact on any woman.

Dear sister who is getting married, sometimes life is like this. Although marriage is a matter for two people, we should also take care of the hearts and feelings of people around us. This is not an easy process. I believe you must feel wronged, so give yourself a small gift as encouragement. When you turn around, you still have to face your own marriage and learn to be a smart woman, just leave your mother-in-law alone and don't embarrass your husband. When you go back to your husband and give him some money, he will accept it because you have done your homework in front of his parents. He is very grateful to you. Come on, happy wedding!