Tell me about revenge for my teammates.

Talk about "avoidant love", take a deep breath first.

Let's talk about avoiding lovers in need.

Ta needs to fight side by side and jointly resist the hardships of life. So in their minds, the other party "can't be too bad, otherwise it may face the risk of failure at any time."

At the same time, to avoid fragile self-esteem and fear of being despised, the "value" of lovers should not be much higher than themselves. If the other person shows half a "you pig teammate" look, avoid it. If you can't stand this anger, you will turn and run.

It should be noted that avoidance will be attracted by the strong, but it is also easy to feel unbearable pressure. For example, if you rote a math problem, your brother casually said that today's homework was too simple, and I finished it in 5 minutes. Do you want to play games together?

If you are ashamed, then the feeling of avoiding is shame? 10,? 20

Therefore, lovers who avoid hope are "evenly matched" and they will have a value evaluation of themselves. Their continuous progress and active efforts are also out of a clear understanding of "I must be good enough to find a high-value lover."

Therefore, it is his own "value"-material, money, rights, status-that will avoid thinking that he can provide the greatest value to his lover.

Some people are reluctant to spend money and like to save money. In fact, they also lack a sense of security and hope to give more security to the future.

They won't talk empty words, but they will plan ahead for the future, so they will spend more energy on what they think is meaningful.

So what does avoidance mean when lovers need to look up at the moon with avoidance in love? I will bend my head and pick up sixpence. Don't delay me.

In fact, there is nothing right or wrong, just different needs.

If you are eager to accompany, pay attention to and avoid your lover, it is not appropriate. If you have experienced too much emotional blackmail when growing up and want to make your partner emotionally independent, then avoidance can really digest your emotions.

Whether you can get along with avoidance depends on whether you know your real demands and goals.

What do you like about Ta? (Value and Attraction)

What kind of person do you want to be? (Your goal in life)

How did you wake up and grow up with Ta? (Find your own problems and improve them)

If you have experienced a lot of trauma with avoidance, you will fall into anxiety and cannot extricate yourself. Then save yourself first Think about feelings again.