When you learn to shut up. How can you digest yourself if you don't talk to someone and complain?

I am your sister Fei, and your workplace and emotional problems, the world is full of holes. Pay attention to me and never jump into the pit again.

If you have learned that silence is golden, you have learned to put away your cynicism, which I think is not difficult to digest.

Disappointment is the eternal theme of life. We should not only learn to accept it, but also learn to bear it. The world of adults is always full of countless collapses. From childhood to adulthood, we experienced hardships. There are always many bloody facts that make us learn to be silent, learn to be cautious, and never trust anyone again as we did when we were children.

A while ago, the hit drama "I am Yu Huanshui" showed us the vicissitudes of middle-aged people. In the play, Yu Huanshui experienced a bleak and hopeless career management, the relationship between husband and wife broke down, and his friend refused to pay his debts, which was suspected to be incurable. Drama also comes from life, and our life is not like him. Like him, we have struggled, imagining that once we turn over, serfs will sing, but after some efforts, most people often fail, and finally they choose to bow to the cruel life.

In the TV series, Yu Huan refused to pay back her friend's money, but she was sarcastic with pride, full of grievances but helpless, just crying alone. At that moment, I felt desperate. Asphyxiation is hopeless. . . . . .

"Everyone laughs at Huanshui, and everyone laughs at Huanshui." I wonder, in reality, aren't we all Yu Huanshui? Live humbled and timid, unfair everywhere, but there is no room for resistance, only silently bear it.

Life is at stake, and thousands of lives are being robbed. The more you experience, the more you understand: the eternal theme of life is to backfire. And we should not only learn to accept, but also learn to bear. There are no easy words in the adult world.

Learn to live in peace with the world and have fun by yourself. The rules of adult life teach you that hardship is the normal state of adult life.

In places we can't see, how many people stay up late and work overtime until the early hours of the morning for meager income, and how many people walk against the wind with tears in their eyes in the middle of the night. Every family has a hard story to read, and everyone has a song that hurts. Behind every smiling face, there are also bitterness and tears you don't know. In adult life, there are stormy waves ahead and no one behind, which is normal. In many difficult days, we have to get through it on our own. Adult world, no way back. We must learn to live in peace with the world and enjoy the joy of life.

When you understand these truths, what else can't you digest? Everyone in this world is practicing hard. Don't expose your weakness and pain to others casually. Natural selection makes the survival law of nature not biased towards the weak.

Regarding the solution, I think there are nothing more than the following points: 1, calm down and think rationally. Be sensible and calm your impetuous heart. You can try it by reading, enjoying music and movies, exercising, etc., and find the ultimate, perhaps the only, quiet solution that belongs to you alone.

2, learn to be tolerant, maybe we can't repay evil with good and turn our enemies into friends. But learn to understand people deeply, respect them, sympathize with them, care for them, be kind to them and be broad-minded, otherwise, it is time for revenge;

4. Learn to control your emotions. Controlling one's emotions is one's ability and an indispensable skill in life. After deliberate training, you will have this skill.

5. Try to learn more knowledge, knowledge is the power to change everything;

Summary: Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and emotions constitute our life. Only with a good attitude can we go further in the voyage of life. We should be good at adjusting our cognition, learn to control our emotions, try our best to minimize the bad emotional reactions, and think about everything in a positive way, so that we won't have so much pain that we can't let go.

I am your sister Fei, your career and emotional problems.

The world is full of pits.

No matter how big the memory is, the hard disk will be full one day.

So, you don't talk to anyone, and you think about how to digest it yourself.

I won't say much about routine words and passing words. Let me tell you how I digest them.

1. Find a stranger. At first, I found it useless to talk or not to talk to people I knew. So, I simply talk to strangers, but I have to find someone who can make holes in trees. There are always some self-righteous people who criticize you, and it will be much more comfortable to say it.

2. Write it out. There are many self-media platforms now. Create an account and write it out. If you are afraid of losing it, write it out in the form of a story from a third perspective. If you can't say it at ordinary times, you can get it off your chest.

3. play. In fact, everyone is under great pressure now, so there will be some decompression places, toys and the like to vent their inner anguish. You can choose to vent, boxing, swimming, playing ball, KTV and so on. Let your depression go out through heat or roar.

4. cry. Find a place to cry loudly and let the pain flow out with the tears.

Don't run away from your repressed pain, face it squarely and abandon it. Let your heart be in a relatively relaxed state. Patience and depression can only accumulate energy when they erupt.

(My humble opinion is for reference only)

"In addition to life and death, everything is small, look down on disputes and be grateful for everything! A book, a tea and a world! Peace of mind speaks for itself! Why bother!