After the Spring Festival, many left-behind children shouted: Mom, don't go, Dad will come back. ...

I saw a very heart-wrenching video yesterday: the Spring Festival holiday is over, and my mother is leaving home for work. The children are reluctant to leave their mother and hold on to her hair. This scene made me cry!

In this scene, countless netizens cried. How many are children and how many are parents?

Hi, Jia Ling's mother expressed the love between parents and children, which was very touching.

Art comes from life, but life is often more sad and moving than art.

In China, there are 6.97 million left-behind children whose parents go out to work, and 58 million left-behind children whose parents go out to work unilaterally.

It's disturbing to see such data, which means how many children are facing parting since childhood, and how many parents are struggling to make choices in their children and life?

Read such a sentence:

Even a piece of paper used to blow your nose and a thread used to pick your teeth are covered with the shadow of banknotes.

Poverty has caused many families to move from gathering to parting, from fatherly love and filial piety to mutual disgust, and from affection to sadness.

Parents have been forced to seek a life elsewhere.

When I was very young, my father was away from home all the year round, and my mother took care of me and my brother. It was the rainy season, with heavy rain outside and light rain inside. The leaky house trembled in the rain and seemed to collapse at any moment.

At that time, poverty made all the adults in the village go out to work. For poor rural areas, only going out to work can have a way out, and barren land can't make a family eat and wear warm.

My mother also made a lot of efforts to accompany us. While taking care of our two children, she weaves fishing nets to sell money, and one person also cultivates land to subsidize the family.

Others advised my mother to go out to earn money, saying that she earned more outside. Mother said, "We can't leave our two children at home. Let's talk about it later! "

Mother became the only left-behind woman in the village.

At that time, my mother was like warm sunshine, shining on our little home.

A few years later, because the house was really uninhabitable, my father borrowed 20 thousand yuan to build a house outside, and my mother was forced to go out to work with her father because she owed a lot of foreign debts.

My brother and I will become left-behind children completely, and grandpa will take care of us.

Zhang Ailing once said:

In the adult world, there is no such word as easy. The world only wants a few taels of silver, but this broken silver forced the family to separate.

There is a hot topic on Zhihu:

Although opinions vary, there is one answer that hurts people the most, and that is:

I won't do it for work, but I will do it for children.

It's not that parents are too cruel, they will cry in the dead of night because they can't be with you.

They will also feel guilty for not being with you when you need them most.

They will also hold your photo for countless days and nights, never forgetting it.

There is a video that has always impressed me deeply and made me cry.

In the video, children crawl back and forth on their parents' wedding photos. He kissed his parents in the photo, a child who can only crawl. How much did he miss his parents before he made such a move?

The subtitle of the video is: If life doesn't force you, who will part? Son, you will understand your parents one day.

Yes, one day, children will grow up, one day children will understand, one day children will understand.

But growth, understanding and re-understanding all require a struggling process. After the struggle, all that remains is endless loneliness and indifference.

A cousin of mine went out to work when her child was 3 years old and left it to her mother-in-law, who likes playing mahjong. She left the child alone at home, and the child's screaming and crying did not respond, and she was scared by the barking of dogs nearby, leading to autism.

A very healthy and lovely child will not communicate with others. At first, my cousin also went to major hospitals for examination, but after 1 year passed, she still chose to leave her children at home and go out to work by herself.

I once advised her to leave the child with me. I said, "Autistic children need more company. Even if you go out to work, it is not impossible for you and your wife to take care of the children. If you work together, your children will have a good chance. "

She doesn't think so, saying that I don't understand how difficult it is to take care of autistic children. She is in a special situation.

There is a good saying:

According to authoritative media reports, 30% of left-behind children in China suffer from autism, and they are excluded from communication with the outside world.

I remember once my parents were going to return to work after the Spring Festival. I sat alone on the stool outside the house, silently watching them pack their bags. I didn't say a word, and I don't want to say it. I have mixed feelings in my heart.

Later, my parents packed their things and said to me, "Daughter, let's go!" " "

I didn't say anything, just looked at them in dismay.

Then they leaned over and said, "Do you want to send mom and dad?"

I still didn't speak, my eyes were cold, and I was shouting in my heart, "Mom and Dad, don't go! ! "

But I just couldn't say it at that time, and I felt it was useless to say it. It's better for me to digest it myself ...

I looked at their back slowly away outside the house, tears streaming down my face. After the expectations in your heart fail, the whole person will become extremely indifferent.

So far, my friends have said that I am like a cold-blooded animal, and it is difficult for ordinary people to enter my world. Even my husband will say that I am cold, whether to my family or friends.

A writer wrote:

I once saw the feeling of a left-behind child:

As the saying goes:

Many families have to bow their heads to life, so that their children can leave their homes and get care from their distant parents:

1, call them regularly:

Parents go out to work, no matter how busy they are, they should call their children regularly, chat with them and care about their life and study.

Parents are not around to take care of themselves, and children already feel very lonely. If they can hear their parents' phone calls, they will feel very comforted and warm.

2. Give your child a gift on holidays or children's birthdays: No matter how busy you are, it is no reason not to take care of your child. Parents must prepare a gift for their children on holidays or children's birthdays, so that children can feel their parents' love. Parents didn't abandon themselves.

3. Parents should care about their children's mental health;

When parents call, they should not only ask their children about their physical life and study, but also ask them more about their thoughts, so that they can talk about their feelings and care about their psychological dynamics. If the child has any wishes, parents must agree and overcome everything to help the child realize them.

4. Parents tell their children to be strong and understand their parents:

Encourage children to be strong and let them understand their parents' hard work. Parents love them and don't want to leave them. They also want to take care of them and let their children know how to thank their parents instead of hating them.

5. Express your thoughts by letter.

When necessary, it is more meaningful to express it by letter, and it will be more loving to express it in words, so that children can feel their parents' concern and thoughts more deeply.

6, when conditions permit, pick up the children to the side:

During the winter and summer vacations, pick up the children to live in the workplace for a period of time to increase their feelings. You can also go back to your hometown to see your children during the Chinese New Year holiday, so that children will not be alienated because of lack of parents.

Every child is the darling of his parents,

Every parent is the sun in the child's heart.

Russell said:

impressive

Let's give parents who go out to work more understanding and care for left-behind children, the world will be warmer and more sunshine will shine into life.

May every child be accompanied by his parents, and every parent can accompany his children.

* * * and friends.

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