In fact, we are all the same, we want to be warmed - sharing a house is a kind of loneliness in the bustle

In fact, we are all the same, we hope to be warmed

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A flower will eventually bloom - sharing a house is a part of the excitement A Kind of Loneliness

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I laid out a yoga mat in the only ten-square-meter room, prostrated my whole body on the mat, took a deep breath, and tried to calm down. Unprecedented fatigue hit every capillary in my body, and I finally fell asleep on the yoga mat.

In my sleepy state, I heard the gurgling sound of the kitchen faucet, the clinking of chopping boards and kitchen knives, the whirring of the range hood, and the sizzling sound of oil in the pot.

In a daze, I got up and went to the bathroom. On the way back to the room, my roommate asked me if I wanted to eat together. I quickly thanked him and said: No, no.

When I returned to my room, I was still lazily slumped on the yoga mat, but now I smelled the aroma of food, heard the sound of my roommate and boyfriend clinking dishes and chopsticks, and my roommate. She was praising the delicious food cooked by her boyfriend.

At this time, it seemed that an invisible loneliness was surrounding me, and my stomach began to protest against me. Looking at the direction of the energy-saving lamp, it seemed that I was seeking warmth, and at the same time I was persuading myself to go downstairs. Eat a bowl of Pianerchuan. At this moment, I strongly don’t want to go out of the room, or to be precise, I don’t want to pass by the restaurant, in front of the extremely in love young couple.

I was still staring at the energy-saving lamp, and the light hurt my eyes. Little did I know at the time that loneliness was invading my whole body. This loneliness started with pain in my eyes.

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I joined the roommate group on the first day I moved in. The group owner posted some rules about the harmonious living room, water and electricity consumption, and small daily incidents. All can be solved in the group.

I live in a three-bedroom house. A couple lives in the master bedroom and works at an Internet company. The second bedroom I live in has a balcony facing south, and a live-streaming girl lives in the small room. , appears in front of us in different styles every day, and the small room is also filled with neon lights and filled with dolls of all sizes.

In fact, our living situation is quite harmonious, and I seem to have integrated into this shared life.

The only thing I can't stand:

I saw a pair of men's navy blue socks and bright red underwear in the washing machine. It was very hard for me to understand and I couldn’t let it go. I posted a message in the group calmly: Please don’t put small things like socks and underwear in the public washing machine!

The male roommate in the master bedroom responded politely: Okay!

At this time, I am really grateful for the existence of the WeChat group. I would never say such words in person.

If a roommate forgets to bring his key, he will also ask in the group if anyone is home and help open the door. You will find the express delivery you didn’t have time to collect lying quietly at the door of your bedroom, and the takeaway you didn’t have time to pick up, you will also find it sitting hot on the dining table.

Roommates are such a silent existence. Only people who live together can experience this emotion firsthand!

Now I understand that loneliness is not a bad thing. Life is so long, there will always be times of loneliness, but warmth will also be added bit by bit.

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On most days when we live together, sometimes we go to the kitchen to eat, and it will still be awkward if we encounter roommates cooking or roommates and friends having a party. You can only stop eating and wait until there is no one in the kitchen or the restaurant before going out.

Except for eating and washing in the room, everyone spends the rest of the time in their own territory and basically does not go out. Occasionally, when there is only one person in the house, I will choose to turn on the TV in the living room. Take out the ice watermelon from the refrigerator and eat it with a spoon.

I have also thought about whether this phenomenon can be changed, or whether everyone can truly become friends like we did in college.

In our free time on weekends, we cook a meal together, go to the supermarket together, and talk and laugh together in the living room.

But the reality is when you walk in and out: it’s time to get off work! Back! Out! Friendly Q&A.

Sometimes I don’t see my roommate for a whole month. In fact, we are together every day, because when you come out, she is in the room, and when you are in the room, he comes out. Basically, this is the best way to live together. The most tacit way of getting along.

Because sometimes after taking a shower, my hair is wet and messy, and I am wearing pajamas, and I meet my male roommate, the air becomes stagnant for a moment, which is extremely embarrassing, and my pajamas are silently changed into a T-shirt and shorts.

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The new unit is not far from where I live, but I still have concerns about working the night shift. When a girl is out alone, she still needs to pay attention to her safety. At that time, Qianjiang Road was not as bustling as it is now, and the subway had not yet opened. There were almost no cars, let alone pedestrians, in the middle of the night.

Every time after the night shift, my boyfriend would call me on the phone until I got into the elevator. Every time I would gather the courage to tell him that I was here and everything was fine. Looking back now, I felt really big-hearted at that time.

The security in the community is quite reassuring. It was already past one o'clock in the night when I returned to the room. I quickly packed up my clothes and toiletries and went into the bathroom to wash myself.

Because the bathroom light is outside the door, several times late at night when I was in the bathroom, the light was turned off and on by my roommate outside the door. When I was in the bathroom in the dark for the first time, I was as frightened as a frightened deer. I was as frightened as shouting outside the door: Who is it!

The roommate outside the door will answer with one word: me!

Then it’s like nothing happened!

Using the bathroom is the least common resource that co-tenants want to use. I remember that there was a roommate who would take more than an hour to take a shower and would never stop until he finished rinsing the water in the water heater. Later, when I got home and the toilet was empty, I got in and took a shower first. In fact, it is also very helpless!

Never thought I would be fighting for this - grabbing the toilet! ! !

When you feel abdominal distress and pain and want to let go, your roommate is probably still in the bathroom listening to music or watching a TV series and occupying the toilet and refusing to let go. This is also common.

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Three months later, a roommate moved out. She called a moving company and packed her bags alone without saying goodbye to any of our roommates. I caught a glimpse of the room that was empty and open when I was going to work early the next morning. She had moved away. The master bedroom told me that she moved alone yesterday. Only then did I realize that you still have to pack up the belongings that have been with you for several years, and be ready to leave at any time and move into a new residence.

The new roommate closed and opened the door very loudly, which made me unable to sleep well. The next day, I put a sticky note on the door, please close the door softly, thank you!

In fact, choosing to live together means choosing to live together, a lively but lonely life.

After living in a shared house for half a year, I spend most of my time in my room except for working and having dinner with friends. Sometimes I don’t go out for two days on weekends. If I stay there for a long time, I will become depressed. , you will start to have random thoughts, your anxiety will be infinitely amplified, and you will spend the rest of the holiday in confusion and uneasiness.

It doesn’t seem like a big deal now, but at the time I felt really helpless. When my mother called me to show concern for me, she stubbornly said: I’m fine. I simmered the pork ribs soup. I was very full and healthy.

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Most of the time I go to work and get off work alone, go to the supermarket, eat, and watch movies alone is something I still don’t want to do, let alone go. try. Maybe I'm different from many people, but I can't accept coming out of a movie theater alone, at least not now, so I've never had to watch a movie alone.

My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship in college. Long-distance relationships are very difficult. The drive takes about four hours and we see each other once a month. We have lived like this for several years, communicating almost exclusively through mobile phones and the Internet. We don't know how long we can last with each other. But as long as I don't speak first, he won't give up.

I think he should think so too.

It is said that loneliness is a virus that spreads, especially in the only narrow space. I didn’t want to cook when I was hungry, so I ordered takeout because I had to collect the minimum delivery amount, only to find that I couldn’t finish it by myself.

I felt a little bit lonely that day, and my heart seemed empty.

When I was a child, I would often play with myself and have a lot of fun, but why not now?

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Repeatedly tell yourself that loneliness is a normal state, and everyone is an individual. Most people often don’t like loneliness.

In a cold winter, I went to the hospital fully armed, my voice was hoarse and my body was hot. The doctor prescribed me a series of Western medicines and Chinese patent medicines. Because there were too many and I had no experience in going to the hospital, they did not provide plastic bags. I was embarrassed and stumbled back to my residence holding large and small paper boxes.

I slept all day the next day. I think the most lonely thing is a bad cold with no one to hand you porridge.

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One person is afraid of being alone, two people are afraid of letting down

——This is what Liu Tong wrote in "Your Loneliness, Even in Defeat" Yes, it reminds me of a male roommate I once had. As far as I know, there were three different girls living in his room. In the last month after he moved out, his first girlfriend came back.

I once struggled with whether I should tell his girlfriend, but in the end, I gave up on the persona of this lively Lei Feng. After all, we are just in a flat-house relationship where we don’t know each other well, otherwise it would appear that I am nosy and nosy.

Later, I met my roommate at the elevator entrance of the unit building in the community who was talking on the phone with tears streaming down her face. I also didn’t know in what capacity and how I could comfort her.

I was confused and overwhelmed, unable to communicate with everything in front of me. I could only stay in a small space, and during the short 30 seconds while waiting for the elevator, I could only lower my head and play with my phone.

I am afraid that the relationship brought about by sharing a house will not get rid of this sense of alienation!

Thinking about it now, even handing her a tissue at that time was a kind of warmth! Everyone in the flat seems to be afraid of taking such a step: handing over their sincerity!

We are afraid to hand over our true feelings and be hurt.

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During Christmas, my girlfriend from the master bedroom knocked on my door, reached out and stuffed a big red apple into my arms, and said she had bought several roommates for each one. one. I kept saying thank you.

Each of us sent a series of Merry Christmas messages in the group!

We all slept wonderfully that night!

In fact, we are all the same, we want to be warmed.

At this time, I have been living with my roommates for a year.

This year, 2013.