As a mother-in-law, how can you not be angry with an idle daughter-in-law?

I also talk about my own views on this matter. I have written many articles about my mother-in-law.

Now my in-laws are in their eighties and my daughter-in-law is in her twenties. My daughter-in-law has never done housework for five years. Now my little grandson is four years old and we live together. My daughter-in-law just came in and cooked porridge once, but she didn't cook it again. I didn't ask her to cook and do housework. I take care of everything by myself, and it becomes a habit after a long time. She didn't ask me if I needed help after the Spring Festival.

At first, my wife didn't do any housework. I don't care about her. I'm not satisfied because she ate me and lived with me. I cook for her and help her wash clothes every day. Besides, she's not grateful. She didn't even say hello to me when I was sick. My neighbors will ask me if I'm okay. As a daughter-in-law, she didn't ask, and her mother-in-law was like a stranger.

Later, I figured it out, and my daughter-in-law was unreasonable and ignored her. When she married our family, she was my son and daughter. I also thought that before my daughter-in-law came in, I was also cooking and managing the house, but her daughter-in-law just had a little more housework.

I also thought that when I was a daughter-in-law, I cooked and took care of my family every day. Get up before dawn to cook, and young people can sleep better. I am very tired every day. Now it's my daughter-in-law's turn to be young and old, and I grew up here. I'd better let my daughter-in-law sleep more and make breakfast by herself. My daughter-in-law never eats breakfast, but she sleeps with her grandson until noon.

At present, most daughters-in-law only help with cooking, not housework. For the family, for everything, my mother-in-law will do housework as long as she is healthy. If they see their daughter-in-law doing nothing and don't like it, they will live separately, so there is no need to get angry.

My wife is much better now. Occasionally washing dishes, sweeping the floor and cleaning, she takes care of the children by herself. I will take care of my daughter-in-law like a child, and my mood will be smooth. This is my current state of mind, and I don't care about my daughter-in-law.

If I can't move, I will give it back to them now. They don't want it. It's not that I want to do housework.

I have my own property, I support myself, and I don't need a daughter-in-law to support me. I have children when I am sick. As long as the family is healthy and happy, it doesn't matter how much we pay as parents.

Didn't you say when you got married that you would be your own daughter? You take it for granted that your son does nothing and your daughter-in-law does little, so you can't be angry.

Actually, I don't do anything at home, even if my parents-in-law and neighbors say I'm lazy, I still don't do it. Why? Because my husband wouldn't do that. They are all pampered at home, so why should I start a big momma's lifestyle when I get married to your family?

I especially remember that my husband went to wash the dishes after dinner, and my mother-in-law wiped her tears and said how boys could wash the dishes. Since then, I have never washed dishes on my own initiative.

My parents-in-law came to live in my house, and I cooked seven or eight dishes in advance. My grandfather picked it out with chopsticks and asked me to get married for seven years. As long as they are in my house, I won't go into the kitchen.

I mopped the floor, and my grandfather stood beside me and told me what to do. You should mop the floor like this, you should mop the floor like that. I haven't touched the mop since. Whoever does it well will do it.

When my parents-in-law are away, I do all the housework, and my parents-in-law come. Since I lost control of my home, whoever does well will do it.

A daughter-in-law can't do well, not only because of her daughter-in-law, but also because of her parents' behavior.

Tell you about my mother-in-law. I have been married 10 years since I first went to her mother-in-law's house. When my mother-in-law is away, my husband does housework, I buy food and cook, and my husband cleans, because we are both office workers. We feel that there is nothing to do, and we should allocate housework reasonably. My husband also dotes on me, and basically won't let me sweep the floor. He is used to sleeping after going to bed. But at first, when my mother-in-law was in our small family, she didn't like her husband doing housework. She felt sorry for her son. She told her neighbors that I was lazy, but after all, she did all the housework on her own initiative. After watching her do it, I often say, "Mom, you are so diligent that you have finished all the housework. What am I doing? When I come back from work, the meal is ready again. " Every time she is so happy, her husband often does her ideological work and says I work. Slowly, she got used to it. If she were here, she would be happy if I took the initiative to do some housework. Then slowly, now she supports me not to do housework and leave it to my husband, so that I can concentrate on helping him do a good job in the company, arrange the family economy and take care of the children. When she gave birth to Bauer, she often had headaches. As long as she is here, she often cooks pigeon Tianma soup for me. Therefore, some people and things have two sides. They don't like doing housework. Maybe they are good at other things. Just get used to it. Every couple has their own way of getting along. As a mother-in-law, you can make appropriate suggestions, but as long as the couple are happy and have good feelings, as others, just bless them. There is no need to say too much to affect their feelings, it will not pay off.

As a mother-in-law, it is almost impossible not to be a daughter-in-law or get angry in the face of anything. Even if there are those who are not angry, they must be very few.

If this happens, we shouldn't be too angry. We should be open-minded, get used to it, be tolerant and understand.

Mother-in-law should also learn to empathize with this problem.

First of all, we need to know why the daughter-in-law does nothing. Is it physical, emotional, or lazy? Then we will deal with it, targeted treatment.

Usually communicate with your daughter-in-law and learn as much as possible about them. Of course, a daughter-in-law may not be willing to tell us everything, so go and find out about it with her son. In fact, we can also see their general situation in our daily life communication.

If it is really the daughter-in-law's physical reason, then as a mother-in-law, she should take on more responsibilities at home and help her daughter-in-law share what she can. This is to help my son reduce worries, and it is also the responsibility of a family member.

If the daughter-in-law is a hard-working person, she is unwilling to do anything just because of temporary emotional problems. As a mother-in-law, you should understand more, do your own things quietly, and try to help your daughter-in-law share some. Never complain to your daughter-in-law at this time, which will only intensify contradictions and undermine family unity.

If the daughter-in-law is a natural person who doesn't like to do things. One of the best ways to adjust your mind is to treat her as your own daughter as much as possible. Think about it. If your daughter comes home from work and does nothing every day, you won't blame her. You must still feel sorry for her. You think she is too tired after a day's work, and you will think about letting her rest more. If you can treat your daughter-in-law like a daughter, you can not only avoid paying too much attention to your daughter-in-law, but also enhance the feelings of your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

When the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also speak properly when doing things, so that daughter-in-law can help do something. Some girls are spoiled like babies by their parents before marriage, and they don't have to do anything at home. They have long formed the habit of not taking work seriously and not taking the initiative to do things.

In fact, if they are allowed to do things, they will do them quickly and well, but they are used to other people's arrangements. What people like them lack is consciousness, and sometimes they don't want to fight against their mother-in-law or deliberately escape.

If the mother-in-law really doesn't like her daughter-in-law's inaction, can't treat them as spoiled daughters, and doesn't want to indulge their laziness blindly, then the mother-in-law had better not live with her son and daughter-in-law and let them live their own lives.

There is a saying that "out of sight, out of mind". If you can't see what's bothering you, you won't be angry.

Then you can always say: I'm not angry, I'm not angry, I'm definitely not angry! ..... will really not be angry. Psychologically, this is called psychological suggestion. (Laughter)

Since the implementation of family planning, every family has fewer children, and "things are rare." Boys and girls were spoiled into little emperors and little princesses. How many people are working? How many people can still work?

My second sister's family, two grandchildren, the older just went to kindergarten, and the younger is only 1 many years old. My second sister is watching. The son and daughter-in-law come home from work without even cooking, waiting to eat. At night, the children don't hug, and both of them sleep with grandma. Once, my little grandson caught a cold in the middle of the night and vomited all over the bed. None of the young couple next door got up to help. My second sister said to me, little brother, I am so angry that I scold you, two turtle grandchildren, you are really nothing! I asked: Did they get up after scolding? Still can't afford it! Well, I was angry and scolded for nothing. (Laughter)

My sister and in-laws who are far away from home help to look after their two granddaughters. The two old ladies have been busy all day, but what can the young couple do when they go home? As soon as I sat on the sofa, I started surfing the Internet like a pickpocket.

My middle school classmate's daughter lives in Shanghai. Students and in-laws take turns serving each household for 4 months. Buy food, cook, clean up the housework, and look after the grandson. The young couple don't eat before meals, don't brush bowls after meals, and push bowls to the study.

These examples are to make the landlord feel more balanced after reading them. It's not just your home, it's not worth making a fuss about, and it's not worth getting angry about. It's not worth getting angry about your health.

Come to think of it, this is the bitter fruit of our generation. Treat children as treasures, don't let them do this, don't let them do that, spoil them from childhood to adulthood. Can you change it?

So sometimes old women get angry and feel that their daughter-in-law does nothing when she goes home. How can I convince her? "I can move myself and serve them. This is my blessing. I can't move, wait for them to serve! Be content! "

After reading this topic, I have a lot to say: when our son got married, we prepared a house for them, but they didn't live for a day, and they were willing to live with our old couple and my daughter. My son and daughter-in-law have been in love for five years and have been married for eight years. There has never been any contradiction. Until my granddaughter is going to school, she still doesn't want to be separated from us, because my son's house is a good campus room, which is close to the school. If children need to get up early to take the school bus here, they will agree to live by themselves after complete balance. I can see that I am very reluctant. To tell you the truth, I am used to children. Born with nothing, neither can a daughter-in-law. I didn't expect them to do it either, because the old couple did all the work at home. We need not help our daughter-in-law. She is very tired every day. I'll tell her when she comes back. I'll call you when the meal is ready. I am kind to her, and she knows how to be grateful. She buys us clothes, our favorite food and cosmetics. She is a very kind child. Cooking is her shortcoming, and being a man is her first! People are still beautiful, and the young couple never quarrel, respect each other and give in to each other. Sometimes I think of them. They are a perfect couple. Look at them. We old couple are happy from the heart! Since their independence, we have often helped them so that they have no worries in all aspects. After so many years, my daughter-in-law is still so outstanding in my heart. The relationship between my aunt and my sister-in-law is also very good. Now that my wife has left, I will never forget the day when my wife left. It was the day when my daughter-in-law warmed up, wiped her body and got dressed. Crying and saying: Dad, don't worry, let's go. We all remember your kindness to us. Don't worry at home. My mother has us. We must take good care of her! Please rest assured, dad! Now I have a home that I can never come back. If I want to go home, I won't come back I will call you again and again. If I don't go back, I will drive to pick you up. Do everything possible to make you happy. I said that I was getting old these months, my eyes were black and my skin was wrinkled. The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. I bought it all for you. Not too cold, cotton-padded jacket. All my boots are here. I want to be independent, and she was the first to disagree. Seeing them, my thoughts gradually faded. What a good boy! How can I not cherish the present! Daughter-in-law is a medical worker who treats patients wholeheartedly and has a very good reputation! She has a kind heart! People say: flowers are not red for a hundred days! But the flowers in our hearts will never be inferior! My son and I didn't choose this beautiful flower wrong! ! !

I am a mother-in-law. My daughter-in-law lived in my house before her marriage. After she got married, we lived together until her grandson went to primary school. My grandson eats, drinks and sleeps 24 hours a day, including washing clothes, cooking and cleaning. Daughter-in-law reads books after meals and doesn't help with work on holidays. She had to take the self-study exam, first in junior college and then in college. I changed my job, got a professional title and got a raise.

Grandson grew up, I am old, useless, except for the Spring Festival, my daughter-in-law politely bought a dress, had dinner together, and never came to my house again!

The idle daughter-in-law may not have grown up yet, please be more tolerant. If she is kind and grateful, it will be better when she is older. If you stand on inferior quality, you should accept your fate! Who called himself unlucky!

People often say that my daughter-in-law and I get along like mother and daughter. I didn't say that. A daughter is a daughter and a daughter-in-law is a daughter-in-law. As long as your attitude is the same, my son has been married for twenty years and my grandson is nineteen. My daughter-in-law hasn't cooked a complete meal for us yet, and sometimes I wash her clothes. She gets up at work and washes after work, so I feel that she is tired at work. I can do some exercise, so it doesn't matter. We haven't quarreled for twenty years, and she's not angry with me. If there is any difficulty, I will try my best to help her family

In the first few years of marriage, I also did housework. I stopped doing it later. When the old lady stares at you, she screams a lot when there is too much oil. Later, when I started cooking, she went to supervise. The steamed bread can't be heated any more. If it's not enough to eat, the whole family will say that they are not hungry, because the old lady said that she was in a hurry to eat enough, so when she saw that she didn't eat, she said she was full. Clean up the house, and I'll throw her to pick it up. There are piles of rubbish in the house. The old man likes shopping. Hundreds of things can be forgotten when piled in the garbage. Once I packed my things, 5 thousand yuan, and put it in a broken book. I threw the book on the ground and cleaned it with the garbage. I gave a dollar when I threw the book. I took the book and looked at it. 1000 yuan. I quickly picked up other books, a * * five thousand pieces. A lot of broken pieces, spelled more than 2000, they forgot themselves, and they blamed me for cleaning up. So I don't like doing housework from there.

Born in 8 1 year, 39 years old, almost 40 years old. I stayed at home for four or five years. At that time, what I did was to complain. If my work was high or low, I stayed at home, usually picking up and dropping off my children and tutoring them ... Later, I studied semi-permanently and did it at home ... until now. One day when I was bored, I suddenly became interested, picked up the strokes I hadn't taken for years and began to draw. Don't say I feel better than before. Many people ask me if I have studied major. I said I didn't have anyone else who didn't believe me ... I practiced it myself ... and a friend suggested that I sell paintings. I'm trying to sell it now, and the effect is not bad. All my friends have joined! This is also my best state at present. I don't have to go to work. I paint and sell at home ... as a hobby, I don't think about what I can paint. When someone appreciates me, I am very happy ... and it gives me more motivation!