Will the old man really wait for his missing relatives to come to him?

Let me share my father's real feelings before he died here.

My father died in the winter when he was 62. He has cerebral thrombosis. Recurrent. My father is a blacksmith. He didn't go to school for a day, but he can read and write.

I've always wanted to write an article about my father's life, and finally I feel clumsy and can't express my father's intelligence, wisdom, kindness and so on. My father can tell the Romance of the Three Kingdoms from beginning to end, and he can also tell Liu's life. My father never hits us or scolds us. If he makes a mistake, he guides us by telling stories. We listened to the story and corrected our mistakes from it. My father is highly respected in the local area. If there is a major problem or dispute, my father will be invited. As long as he comes forward, it will be almost calm. His prestige can be compared with or even better than that of the local village party secretary, perhaps because he has no dispute with the people.

But my father got sick prematurely and stayed in bed for six years. Over the past few years, I have gradually realized the hardships and impatience of my father in bed for several years. ...

My father has seven children, and I am the second. My fourth sister has no education, so her living ability is relatively poor.

When my father is dying, he will always breathe a sigh of relief. My mother and we always think that my father has something on his mind, but everything we should think of expresses our thoughts or methods to my father, but none of them is what my father wants. We looked impatiently at our father's dying bed. ...

But in a flash, my father suddenly left. At the moment when my fourth sister opened the curtain and entered the room, my father swallowed his last breath!

My father has been waiting for his daughter!

Because this daughter is his most worried child! Because my fourth sister went to my brother's house and fell asleep, she dared to go back to my father's house when she woke up. )

I have always been very kind to my sister. I invite her to my house at least twice a year. She also regards my family as her maiden. She will call me when she is homesick and say that she is homesick. Then I'll invite her back to my parents' house.

Being kind to my sister is a feeling and an obligation. At the same time, it is also a filial piety to the late father. It is also a little reward for the father's concern for the children.

June 27th this year was the day when my mother-in-law died of illness, at the age of 83. I will never forget this day, because it happened to be my birthday.

My mother-in-law has been in poor health. I remember when I first got married, my mother-in-law had lung problems and had been taking medicine. She is thin and tall, and looks very fragile. Mother-in-law speaks softly and is good to everyone, especially our children. I have been married for more than 20 years and have a good relationship with my mother-in-law. I have never blushed. The occasional unhappiness will soon pass. My mother-in-law's health is getting worse every year. A few years ago, my mother-in-law fell ill and went to the hospital for treatment. At that time, my mother-in-law weighed more than 70 kilograms at most. There are two aunts in the ward at the same time. They all have daughters with them. An aunt had several operations on her stomach. She is only over 60 years old and skinny. She can't eat. She closes her eyes every day and refuses to turn on the TV. Fortunately, I downloaded a TV play at home to kill time. Another aunt is in hospital because of a bad cold. Her daughter said that her mother had to go to the hospital several times a year, but she didn't just transfer from Chinese medicine hospital to people's hospital. The week my mother-in-law was in hospital, I got up in the morning and boiled water, then helped her up and asked her what breakfast she had, and then went downstairs to buy breakfast. My mother-in-law eats less, so I always buy half. After breakfast, the nurse will give her an intravenous drip. I have to ask her mother-in-law when I have an intravenous drip. Sometimes my mother-in-law can't hold her breath for fear of disturbing me. I just watch her drip into the medicine bottle from time to time. I guess she must want to go to the toilet, so she told her mother-in-law not to hold her urine and go to bed when it was time, and her mother-in-law agreed. Later, I asked my mother-in-law if she wanted to go to the toilet, and she said yes. Hang the water at noon and buy Chinese food for my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law has bad teeth, so I have to buy her something to bite. Meat dishes bought braised pork or braised pork. After lunch, I took my mother-in-law downstairs to get some air. My mother-in-law has no strength to walk around. I wheeled her downstairs, walked around outside and came back. Her mother-in-law went to bed. When it's time to go to work in the afternoon, it's time for an intravenous drip, a few bottles of water and dinner. My mother-in-law didn't go, saying that she had a bath and had a rest. I put water in her bathtub. When I rubbed her back, my mother-in-law repeatedly said to be gentle, and I felt that her mother-in-law was too thin to live to 79 years old.

Stay in hospital for a week and do the same thing almost every day. I racked my brains to make my mother-in-law happy. I let my mother-in-law chat with my clinical aunt, which is easy to kill time. My mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital a week later. After returning home, my mother-in-law was very happy, saying that she was uncomfortable in the hospital, couldn't eat well and couldn't sleep well. My mother-in-law and I share a bed every day, so I can't sleep well. When I got home, I killed the old hen and made soup for my mother-in-law. Mother-in-law's health is getting better and she can help with some housework at home. She insisted on not doing it, saying that her body was still very painful because of inactivity, so she had to let nature take its course.

Until June 25 this year, her mother-in-law complained of a stomachache, her husband drove her to the hospital, and her second sister came to the county people's hospital for examination. Her mother-in-law has a perforated stomach and asks for a doctor's consultation. She is 83 years old and is not suitable for surgery, so she can only be treated conservatively. Her husband came back in the evening and called the second sister and mother the next morning to ask if they still hurt. Second sister said she didn't cry out in pain. My husband has to go to the hospital. It happened that on the 26th, some friends came early to celebrate my birthday. This is their first time. My husband didn't go to the hospital and helped me buy food at home. I cook for myself and my friends come for lunch. After lunch, my husband called a friend's car to pick them up. Sister's phone call came, indicating that Tianhe went to the hospital to see her mother with DaJieFu. Husband said to go together. While talking to the elder sister on the phone, the second sister's phone came. She hung up on her sister and got through to her. The second sister on the other end of the phone said that her mother had never spoken to me since she spoke to me this morning. I thought her mother was struggling and didn't want to talk. Just now, someone in the same ward asked me to dig her feet, but her mother didn't respond. Please a little faster. When I brought my mother back, my husband immediately called my sister and asked her brother-in-law to accompany him to the hospital. It took more than an hour to drive. When I got to the hospital, I saw that my mother's condition was very bad. It was impossible to use her husband's car, so I found an ambulance to plug in oxygen and drag my mother back. Mother-in-law got home at eight o'clock in the evening, and the oxygen bottle was not taken down, because the eldest brother, the second brother and the younger brother were all working outside and were on their way back. I got home at eight o'clock the next day and did business in a place more than ten miles away from my mother-in-law's house. When I got home, I went to my mother-in-law's bedside and called her mother several times. My mother-in-law only turned to look at me. Her mouth was open and she couldn't speak. Suddenly my tears came out. My second sister said stop yelling and let her rest. She had to wait for a few relatives. It pains me to see my mother-in-law panting with her mouth open. I can only touch her head and chest to comfort her. At ten o'clock in the morning, eldest brother, second brother-in-law, nephew and nephew drove back. When they ran to the bed and called their mother-in-law, her mother-in-law finally looked at them and couldn't speak. It's three o'clock in the afternoon and my little brother hasn't come back yet. We see that the mother-in-law is getting harder and harder to breathe. We called her and insisted. Your little son is on his way and will go home soon. You must insist. Needless to say, her breathing is more even. We all gathered around her, and the eldest brother went to the bed and hugged her. After more than twenty minutes, my mother-in-law's breathing became urgent again. The second sister said that her mother-in-law turned her head at this time, and her eyes were so disappointed that tears came out. Then eldest brother said that her mother-in-law had no pulse, her mother-in-law didn't breathe, her mother-in-law left and we cried. The mother-in-law left at 3: 00 10, and the younger brother and two daughters arrived at kloc-0/5. In a few minutes, there was a gap between yin and yang. My brother knelt in front of his mother-in-law and cried bitterly. Two daughters, the eldest daughter 14 years old and the youngest daughter, 8 years old, cried and knelt in front of grandma. The scene is very bleak.

I sent my mother-in-law away for four months and my father-in-law died. I lost two relatives in one year.

As the saying goes, children go to Wan Li Road, but mothers worry. From the moment you fell to the ground crying, you were the meat left by your parents.

From small to large, no matter where you are, your parents' hearts will always guard you and wait for your return.

Longsheng Jiuzi is very important. Before the old man dies, he will really wait for the death of his most missed relatives.

Let me share my mother's experience of waiting for her family before she died.

1992 After the Spring Festival, I went back to my hometown and saw my mother living in four old houses with single-family houses.

During the Spring Festival, due to illness and poor health, there was no fire to cook. An old man lives in a house. The empty house is very cold.

Pictures of my hometown

So I went back to work, and the next day I pulled a gas stove and sent it home for installation.

My mother dragged her seriously ill body and lowered her head. At noon, I cooked some rice with gas, and my mother watched me eat.

While eating, explain to your mother how to use the gas stove and pay attention to safety matters.

I saw my mother sitting on the kang, one hand pressing on the edge of the kang, supporting the upper body.

I said to my mother, "Don't burn firewood in the future. Cook with gas. I'll buy you tons of coal to keep warm in winter."

Mother said, "Is it better to spend money or burn firewood to save money?"

When cleaning up the rice bowl after dinner, I found that my mother's hands, wrists and arms pressed against the kang to support her body turned purple.

An ominous sign rose in my mind, and I instantly felt my scalp swish like an electric shock.

I said to my mother, "You have a good rest on the kang, don't go down to the ground, and when you are ready, ask my second brother and them to do something."

Mother said, "The doctors in the village have prescribed medicine for me these days. Your brother said that the doctor would come home to check on me tonight. "

In the afternoon, I had a talk with my mother. I said to my mother, "I will come back to see you in two days." If it really doesn't work, I will stay in the hospital of the unit for a few days. "

Mother said, "Let's wait until the doctor has finished reading it."

I left home and went to my aunt's house in a neighboring village less than 1000 meters from my home, and told me about my mother.

I said to menstruation, "I guess my mother is very ill this time. She is at home alone. I hope you will stay with my mother tomorrow. "

My aunt said, "Don't worry, I'll arrange it when your eldest brother comes back tonight, and I'll go tomorrow."

My sister-in-law will take my sister-in-law to my house in a stroller at night and let my mother accompany me.

Old man's photo

On the morning of the third Sunday, I went to the office and had a rest. I went home.

Several of my colleagues called me and said, "The manager is not here today. Let's go fishing by the river. Come! " "

My colleagues and I went fishing by the river and walked more than ten miles along the river all morning.

This morning, I was upset and my eyelids kept jumping. I'm thinking this may be a sign that my mother is seriously ill.

At noon, some of our colleagues took out some fish, went to the hotel in the town for processing, and drank several bottles of white wine on the spot.

Then I said, "I don't drink except today." I think something may happen at home. "

Colleagues had a few drinks in a hurry, and we rushed back to the unit.

As soon as I got home, my lover and relatives saw me and said, "You called from your hometown at seven in the morning and asked you to go home indefinitely. I have been looking for you all morning, and I don't know where you have been. "

I arranged for the driver to drive to school, and my wife called my two children out of school and got on the bus to get to their hometown.

As soon as our family got to the township avenue by car, we saw the big trees cut down on both sides of the avenue in front lying on the avenue, blocking the way.

This is the only way to my hometown. What if the car can't get through?

So I jumped out of the car and found some tree-chopping masters. I bowed my hands and said, "Master! I beg you, my mother is seriously ill, waiting for me to go back, please help! "

I took out two boxes of cigarettes and handed them to them. A few masters swarmed. After spending more than an hour with them, I moved the tree lying on the road.

At 4 pm, the bus arrived at the village street. I got off the bus and ran home. I heard the villagers standing in the street say: she waited all day and her eldest son came back. It's time to die.

Old house photo

I ran home and saw my mother lying on the kang and all my relatives on the kang.

My sister-in-law said to me, "You can come back. Your mother talked about you all last night and called you this morning. I said, sister, you must persist until the eldest son comes back! "

When I saw my mother dying, I put one hand on her head and the other on her wrist.

He said, "I'm back. Give me a minute. I'll go out and arrange a car to go back. I'll be right back! " "

I ran out of the door and told the driver to go back to work. I ran home.

Cover your mother's head in the same way and say, "My sons and daughters are back!" " "My son and daughter cried and said: Grandma, we are back!

Daughter-in-law said: Mom, I'm back!

I opened my mother's eyes, looked at her eyeballs and said, "Mom! Everything will be arranged when I come back, you can rest assured! The third and fourth brothers are on their way home. Please tell me if there is anything! "

Mother opened her mouth, tilted her head at me, closed her eyes and shed two tears.

I said to my sister-in-law and aunts, "Get dressed!"

Dress my mother, we carried her from the kang to the door, and she swallowed.

The only people waiting for you in the world are your parents, so be sure to be kind to your parents.

Parents are here, there is still a place to go in life, and parents are gone, only the way home.

Do more filial piety when parents are alive.

Lest parents leave, leaving eternal regret!

Before the old man dies, he will really miss his loved ones until he dies. I have personal experience. The mother-in-law only gave birth to two daughters, and the eldest son-in-law died young. She has been living in my house. I am a little son-in-law and very filial to my mother-in-law.

When she is in good health, I always take time to chat with her, try not to make her lonely, and take special care of her in all aspects.

She is too old to move easily and her eyes are not good. I like her better than my mother. She often praises me behind my back, which is better than my own son.

The old man was very ill and died. She read my name. I happened to go out for a meeting. I took a taxi home as soon as I received the news. She can't talk.

My eyes are fixed on me and my mouth is moving. I held the old man's hand, and both she and I shed tears. She was waiting for me to come back to see me, and soon she died.

This is certain, I will wait until the person I miss comes to my side and dies! He really wouldn't have died if he hadn't seen the relatives he missed most. I have personal experience! the problem is ...

The last time I answered a question, I mentioned that my grandmother died at midnight. I got a call from my mother saying that my grandmother was going to die. Let me go back and see the last time as soon as possible! On the phone, my mother said that my grandmother kept calling my name and must be waiting for me! After listening to my mother's words, I couldn't hold back my tears any longer.

Tell me why my relationship with my grandmother is so good. My grandmother has been very kind to me since I was a child. When I was young, my grandparents lived by the river. My grandfather has killed pigs all his life and basically calls him. Hands up and down, flat and tidy! At that time, people who killed pig's hoof and pig were brought back. And the main family also gives money, cigarettes and the like. My grandfather also spent his whole life crossing a small ferry, a small wooden boat and a penny. Remember that it takes an hour to ferry back and forth, three yuan for people and five yuan for people to add bicycles. In my childhood impression, my grandparents' income was ok and they were always fat. What impressed me the most was our family, which never broke the meat oil!

Every weekend, I like to go to my grandmother's house best. She cooks good food for me. And sometimes, my grandmother will secretly give me three or five pieces of pocket money. Children, with delicious food and pocket money, must run frequently!

Later, I grew up and went out to college. Graduation, work, marriage and children! But as long as I go home, I will bring something good to my grandmother for the first time. Although it is not a precious thing, she is always happy.

I also said in the previous Q&A that I once went home to start a business. During the time when I went home to raise rabbits, my grandmother would accompany me to cut rabbits every afternoon. Then when I am free, I will buy some cold dishes and beer and drive him to a small house by the river.

Later, when my business failed, I ran away from home and went out to find another way out, so I went home once a year for the New Year. But as long as I go home, I will visit my grandmother as soon as possible. Later, my hometown was demolished and I couldn't live by the river. I will vacate the house in the town for my grandparents to live in. After all, I don't live there, and I only go home a few days a year.

However, just half a year after grandma moved to town, she was diagnosed with terminal cancer. The news made me cry too much silently. So, even if the doctor later said that the operation can only live for half a year. I'm still the one who insisted on the operation.

During the operation, I held grandma's hand and said, when your operation is successful. I'll take you out and take you on a trip! Take you to Tiananmen Square and the Great Wall! I still remember grandma smiling and nodding at me!

I can't stay at home all the time because of work. I went back twice in the middle, looking at my grandmother who was getting thinner, and I left in tears every time.

Off topic, back to the question. When I hung up the phone, I drove home and thought to myself. Grandma, you must wait for me! Do wait for me!

It turned out to be a three-and-a-half-hour drive, and I just ran home in two and a half hours. When I got home at three o'clock in the morning, when I was lying in front of my grandmother's bed, I clearly saw tears running down her eyes, and my mouth was silent. At that moment, my heart ached!

I can clearly feel how unwilling she is to face the world. Her promise to take her to see Tiananmen Square and the Great Wall has not been fulfilled! She's leaving me.

Fifteen minutes after arriving home, grandma swallowed her last breath with endless sadness and nostalgia! Only I know that she is waiting for me. She wants to see me one last time and let me see her one last time. ...

This is life, there are too many parting and giving up in life! Cherish the present and cherish the people around you. ...

This statement does exist in real life, and there is also this phenomenon. Mainly refers to the performance of those elderly people when they naturally age. Because such old people usually have a clear mind before they die. I also know that I am going to die, so I want to see the person I love again. As soon as I saw it, my heart was excited and my heart stopped. This is still science, not superstition.

Before he died, the old man really waited for his missing relatives to come to him. It's true. My wife is one of them.

My grandmother has five sons and three daughters, and my grandfather is doing business outside. My grandmother manages the field planting at home. Before liberation, she was a very rich family and a prestigious family in Qingtian. Two sons graduated from Huangpu Military Academy. In the Huaihai Campaign, one died in battle, and one led an army to rebel and defected to the * * * production party. After liberation, she stayed in a certain unit of Xinjiang Military Region far from home. Two of her three sons went to the army, and one followed.

Three daughters, my mother is the second. At that time, my daughter had no status. Poor my mother was born in such a rich family and was sent out as a child bride. My aunt died before she got married. My aunt graduated from normal school and stayed in Lishui to get married. There is only one son in the family. My grandmother is very good. Although she was rich before liberation, she was kind to the poor. Whenever a woodcutter sells firewood, whether it is sold at her house or not, as long as.

Many years later, the locals were very kind to her. Almost every family killed their pigs and gave them to my grandmother, such as meat, blood and liver. On the 25th day of the twelfth lunar month, when she was eighty-three, her family killed pigs and gave her pig liver. The two old people ate pig liver for dinner and went to bed safely. At two o'clock in the morning, grandpa found that grandma had a strange voice, got up and patted her to see that she didn't respond, and immediately called my little brother, who was there.

The younger brother was in tears and was busy telegraphing to tell his brothers and sisters outside. Because the children are far away, my mother is in Bihu and my aunt is in Lishui. Fifty years ago, the traffic was very inconvenient. I remember my parents took the mountain road to save money and time. My grandmother stayed in bed for a week, but she didn't die. When I went back to my home in Hangzhou and knelt in front of the bed and cried, my grandmother actually opened her eyes to my uncle's family. My two uncles in Xinjiang haven't arrived home yet, and my grandmother can't wait at last. It's too far.

Many years later, my mother talked about it and said that grandma was eccentric. She loved her uncle in Hangzhou the most, and she was waiting for him before she died.

This statement is a bit too absolute. Whether the old man can get his missing relatives back before his death depends on his illness, willpower and the speed of his relatives' arrival. Some old people just died, hoping to see their relatives again, while others eventually died after seeing their missing relatives.

In fact, besides the illness and the speed of relatives coming, the willpower of the elderly is the most important factor to decide whether to see their relatives. In fact, in the process of treating diseases, we should not only emphasize medical technology and drugs, but also pay attention to the patient's willpower, that is, whether he has a strong desire to survive. We often see such cases. When a patient is unconscious, the doctor will say that it depends on the patient and whether he has the desire to survive. If he has his own firm belief and the doctor's treatment, he can finally improve his condition.

Back to the topic, in fact, before many old people die, their families will ask them who else they want to see. At the behest of the old people, they will inform distant relatives to come back to see the old man for the last time as soon as possible. Indeed, some old people made it to the end. When missing relatives come around, the old man looks at them with blurred eyes, and even if he doesn't speak, he will realize his wishes and eventually grow old with satisfaction.

However, there are also some old people who, although they don't have a strong will, can borrow modern and advanced medical means to maintain their lives until they meet relatives they want to see. This has happened to me before. At the beginning of 20 16, one of my relatives was hospitalized with cerebral hemorrhage, and I went to the hospital as a junior to take care of him. There were three other patients in the same ward with him at that time. One is that she just moved in and her condition is not very serious, the other is routine observation in the hospital, and the last one is the old lady. She is over 80 years old, her condition is very serious, and her life has entered the final stage.

At first, I didn't know the situation. Later, when everyone was chatting in the ward, including the relatives of the old lady, she said that the old man relied on machines to maintain his life. As long as the machine stops, her life is over. As for why machines are used to sustain life, her relatives told the truth. It turned out that the old man was waiting for his distant relative to come back and see him for the last time. The relatives she misses are all in other provinces, standing far away. These relatives are all on their way to the hospital to see the old man for the last time. When no one is talking in the ward, you can only hear the sound of the machine that keeps the old man breathing.

I went back to rest that night, and other relatives came to take care of the patients. When I went to the ward again the next day, I found that the old man's bed had been moved empty. According to other people in the ward, all the relatives the old man wanted to see arrived in the ward that night 10. Although the old man's consciousness is a little vague, her inner willpower to see her relatives for the last time supports her and them for the last time. After meeting her relatives, in order not to let the old man go on like this,

People are strong all their lives, especially the older generation. After they were born, they faced the hardships of life. After they got married, they raised many children. When their children succeed, they go their separate ways and don't see each other several times a year. Although on the surface, the old man is full of harvest, but only she knows the pain of the old man.

It should be that all the old people want to wait until all their relatives are present, but many of them can't stick to that moment. Everyone has strong perseverance and limited physical endurance. And now most young people work in cities thousands of kilometers away from home, and it takes three or four hours to go home. No matter how far it is, it will take several hours by plane. Even if the old people want to wait, they can't stand such a long time.

However, it is not without the perseverance of the elderly!

There used to be such an old man in Fengxi village, who was terminally ill. The doctor has issued the final notice of critical illness, saying that it will only take one or two days for the family to take the old man home and settle down. The old man has three sons and two daughters. The two oldest sons are married and both work at home. Both daughters are married and married to a town not far from home. Only the youngest son (A Rong's pseudonym) is the farthest, working in a city thousands of kilometers away. On the day when the doctor gave the critically ill notice, eldest brother told Arong's mother that she was critically ill and asked him to come back quickly to see if he could see her one last time, so that the old man could set his mind at rest on the road.

But you know, it's not as convenient as it is now! When the time limit prescribed by the doctor passed, all the relatives stayed in front of the mother's bed and dared not leave for a moment, because the old man could not eat anything and could only feed a little water with a small spoon. A miracle happened when all relatives thought that their mother couldn't hold on any longer. The old man persisted until midnight on the third day. She felt the breath of her youngest son, Ah Rong, and said weakly, "Ah Rong is back, my Ah Rong is back." Everyone was shocked and said that it was dead of night and there was no sound at all! Everyone thinks it's mom's illusion! Ten minutes later, I finally heard footsteps from far and near. As soon as Ah Rong entered the door, he put down his backpack. Her mother closed her eyes and smiled when she left, because everyone she cared about came back safely.

No matter how far away your children are, they care about you the most, and no matter how old you are, you will always be their "child", so children must be filial before their parents die! Life without regrets ...

This will really happen. I have experienced such a thing.

20 19 In April of the lunar calendar, my grandfather was seriously ill. Because he was old, the doctor also told my uncle that even if he had surgery, he might not be able to get off the operating table.

So the family took conservative treatment after discussion. To be honest, this means waiting for the end of life, and people will die. To put it bluntly, it is time to put up with it.

I was in Beijing at that time, and I went back the next day after receiving a phone call from home. I thought I would see my grandfather for the last time. When I got home, I hurried to grandpa's house. As soon as I got to his door, I met my grandmother and told me to go and see your grandfather at once.

My grandfather has been asking me again and again, have you come back and where have you been?

The moment I saw grandpa, his eyes were clear, and he could recognize me, and he was not confused at all.

About three days, all the relatives at home came back, and grandpa saw it.

At three o'clock in the morning on the third day, grandpa passed away. At that time, my children were all around, and my grandchildren were also around. He finally opened his muddy eyes, looked around and closed them slowly.

In an instant, there was a cry in the room and my dear grandfather left us. Fortunately, he has no regrets. When he left, he also saw his children for the last time.

Up to now, grandpa has been dead for a year, and I often dream about him. In the dream, he was still so busy cleaning up the bees he had kept all his life.

My grandfather is a beekeeper. He has kept bees all his life, so he dreamed that he was still playing with his bees in his dream.