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Why now, it seems unnecessary to worry about children's future?

Let me start with an example around me. A very good classmate of mine has been the principal since childhood. He has a brother, who has been a student since he was a child, but he likes playing with electronic products very much. My brother's college entrance examination coincided with SARS. That year, the college entrance examination questions were particularly difficult, and many scholars also suffered from waterloo, so their scores dropped a lot. My brother missed the last bus and pushed his scores to an ordinary university. Because I like electronic products, my brother wandered alone in Shenzhen after graduation. After accumulating some experience, he aimed at the prospect of smart phones, founded a company to develop the application market and successfully seized the market share. A few years later, he made a lot of money. It goes without saying that my younger brother was admitted to a university, successfully admitted to a famous university, and was recommended to graduate students of Peking University after graduation. When looking for a job, my brother, driven by his brother, also entered the internet industry, and now he works directly for his brother.

Therefore, parents really don't need to worry about their children's future. I think the reasons are as follows:

1. Today's society is a diversified, dynamic and information-based society. There are almost many jobs provided by society, and even the best games can be used to make a living and even live a good life.

It is not a hero to learn from tyrants and scum when you are a student. Presumably, everyone will have an example of the reversal of school scum. After many years, the former Xueba may still be a small clerk in a national unit, and the former Xueba is already an influential local entrepreneur. Of course, this doesn't mean that you can stop trying to be a bully, because the probability of a bully's success is definitely much higher than that of a scum. Just as a parent, you can't deny his future just because his child is scum.

The development of society is unpredictable. Jobs that parents used to think were stable and promising are now sunset industries or objects eliminated by society. Now we believe that with the rapid development of artificial intelligence, money-making and promising jobs will be replaced by artificial intelligence. Therefore, we can't judge the future by our present cognition. Too much worry and intervention may limit children's development. What parents need to do is to cultivate their children's skills and ability to adapt to and keep up with society, which is king.

My daughter graduated from three schools, but she couldn't find a job or be admitted to a teacher. She studies in a normal school. At that time, it was called Qianchou. It happened that my brother-in-law found a job in a central enterprise for my sister's child. He was a junior college student. He had not graduated and was not hired because he had never seen the world. I found the right opportunity and asked my sister to arrange it. This is not a robbery. My brother-in-law's relatives are all junior college students, so people can't do without academic qualifications. My daughter's interview has just been successful, and my 2-room public rental house has also come down, just as the children have a job and a house to live in. True men, we don't know which life we have accumulated great virtue. According to my husband, there is smoke on the ancestral grave, which makes the children so smooth. The key is the house and the job. We didn't do anything, but my sister and brother-in-law helped to deal with it and didn't spend a penny. The child is also sensible, knowing that she loves her aunt and uncle, and often buys gifts to see them, and the relationship is very good. May all children in the world find good jobs and arrange their lives.

I used to be a child who worried my parents, and now I am a father, so when I saw this problem, two words came to my mind: if you are poor, you will think about it, and your descendants will have their own blessings.

When I graduated from college, I entered the top 500 in the world. At that time, my parents were very proud of me Everyone likes to talk about what my son is like (maybe not very likable, but I understand that mood now), and my relatives also regard me as an example for their children to learn from me. But at that time, I was bent on starting a business and changing the world, so I resolutely resigned, regardless of everyone's opposition, and borrowed 300,000 yuan to open a shop. My parents quarreled with me many times about it, and I never went home during that time. At that time, it was almost a shame for my parents. Every time someone asks you what your child is doing now, he always doesn't know what he is doing and doesn't listen to us. To tell the truth, I was very sad at that time, and sometimes I wanted to make up. I just went to work according to their wishes, but I persisted. I thought I was on the right path. I want to do what I want, and one day they will understand that I am right. As a result, my shop closed down and I owed hundreds of thousands of foreign debts at once. I am ashamed to go home. My parents also think I raised it for nothing. For so long, I have not made any money, but I still owe them astronomical foreign debts, and I have never mentioned my name in front of my relatives and friends.

At that time, I felt guilty and complained. I feel that I've been cruel enough, and you're still hitting people when they're down. Later, I learned that my parents didn't really want me to be their show-off capital, but really wanted me to live a good life. In their view, having a stable and well-paid job means living a good life, but it's different from our idea and we are not good at expressing it. That's why I said I felt sorry for inheriting the wind. No parents don't want their children to live a good life.

Now that I have a daughter, when I get along with her, there will always be times when I can't help but want to take care of her, including some habits that I feel bad or some behaviors that I feel inappropriate. For example, when she was particularly clingy, I was worried that she would not be independent enough when she grew up, so I told her not to be so clingy, and so on. I often tell my wife what habits my children have that I feel bad about, and I am afraid of what will happen in the future. My wife said I was too alarmist, and my children and grandchildren have their own blessings. I just figured it out. I have the same mentality as my parents now. So why bother? Everyone has his own way to go, even his own children.

Therefore, if your parents are too worried about you, you should first understand their feelings, and then go your own way to reassure them; If you are too worried about your children, try to let go. You can't control them forever. Children and grandchildren have their own blessings!

Internet freelancer, engaged in search engine marketing, self-media marketing and store marketing planning.

Continuous entrepreneur, won the outstanding college students' entrepreneurial project award in Jiangsu Province, and won the million angel investment and government bonus allowance.

Tell me about my sister-in-law, ordinary two books. When I majored in the college entrance examination, I chose kindergarten teachers and teachers.

At that time, my in-laws somehow insisted that I guide her to apply for the exam. You know, my brother-in-law's aunt has a higher education than me. In order not to disturb us, my parents-in-law took my 6-month-old child.

I rejected my sister-in-law's two application directions.

Sister-in-law said that she could be a teacher, be close to home, enter the system, eat and die. I said young people can't have ambitions. I gave her two directions, one is the law, and the future society cannot be difficult. Second, in finance, people die for money and birds die for food. This business has advantages over ordinary people in quick money and unhappiness. At her insistence, the teacher was left in the third place.

She said that she couldn't get into the law major, which was not low. I said there are two, and the graduation major is more important than the school. Let her evaluate two schools with law majors and apply.

There are high and low occupations. Don't be fooled by books. Some jobs, you have worked hard all your life, even worse than the starting point of other occupations. She accepted them under my brainwashing.

Later, the first choice was admitted by the law major. She is very happy. My grandmother said that it would be nice to be a teacher if she got a teacher qualification certificate after school and found a school nearby. When I say vomiting blood, I mean low expectations, just like a girl.

I went to college and really got a teacher qualification certificate. I tricked her into getting a lawyer's license. She said that in her school, there are only four exams on average every year. I said you can't be one of those four people. If you want to enter, you can enter the public security law. Your personality is suitable for mixed institutions. Trust me, you will be admitted. Sister-in-law looks ignorant, and I don't know where I got my confidence in her. After half a year, I lost most of my hair and passed the exam. No civil servant in the provincial examination failed the national examination. Later, they reported to the court in Dongguan, Shenzhen. Hundreds of people broke through. After careful consideration, they stayed in a court in Shenzhen as contract workers. Now I am taking the national examination to see if I can enter the system.

My grandmother said that she was very happy. I didn't expect that there would be children working in the courts. She tells her relatives and close friends every day.

So, sometimes in life, gears will push you forward.

It's not redundant at all! I am an art training teacher, engaged in art college entrance examination training. My children have never learned drawing from me since they were young. When I first entered junior high school, I found that he had no initiative in learning because he had no goals. I suggest that he learn to paint and take the road of artistic life. He was disgusted and said not to impose my will on him. I have no choice but to let him go. As a result, I found that he was addicted to online games in the second day of junior high school! He became an out-and-out "Internet addiction teenager", even hitting his mother because of playing games. At this time, I had to "shoot". I moved with emotion and reason, and finally let him "submit" to me. After a period of painting study, I gradually became interested. I have the idea of testing Yangmei. So I took advantage of the opportunity to emphasize the importance of cultural lessons, and he also willingly began to make up lessons in culture. When you enter high school, you can take the initiative to study both professional courses and cultural courses.

In the college entrance examination, both the unified examination and the single-recruit professional performance were excellent, and the cultural class also passed the second line. When I volunteered, because there was no parallel volunteer in those years, I chose a 985+05438+0 college in the province to be on the safe side and was admitted. On the other hand, combined with the results of Chinese and American culture classes, I can also be admitted. But he said he didn't regret it, because he said that if he hadn't chosen art at the beginning, according to his learning state, even if he only studied culture, he could only do so, and he couldn't go to colleges. Not to mention two first-class institutions! Now that children have graduated from college and entered the technology company for the second year, their annual salary has also risen to more than 200,000. Although the local house price is very high, he is still very satisfied compared with his classmates' monthly salary of four or five thousand. Now he has learned to save money and won't let us help him buy a house. Now that I have become very sensible, I can stand on my own feet completely, and we don't have to worry. Therefore, as parents, we must worry about the key points of children's growth! We should be good at guiding, stimulating children's interest points and avoiding blindly "preaching", so as to get twice the result with half the effort.

As the saying goes, "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren's blessings", it seems that it is absolutely true now. I have a friend who is eager to see her son succeed in life. She has been doing homework with her son every night since he was in primary school. After the teacher arranged it, she arranged a lot of extra things for him. Mother and son often stay up until 11: 00 in the middle of the night ... By the second day of junior high school, her son's rebellious period came, and she was no longer willing to listen to her mother's arrangement. Instead, she made a scene with her and made her son almost jump off a building several times. Once, her son took one. Seeing that her son's grades are getting worse and worse, although her mother is anxious, there is nothing she can do (because her son is tired of studying under her strict discipline). In the end, her son only got into the worst university ... Just when my friend was sad and disappointed, her son fell in love with webcasting and sang in it. I heard that he also makes a lot of money every month! I don't know the details. My daughter heard of it and said it was very good. Because her singing skills have been affirmed by fans, her son is now full of confidence. After saving more money, I plan to attend a regular conservatory of music and learn more professional knowledge, so that I can become a musician in the future. I heard that it's a long way ... since her son started this business, the conditions are not bad, so my friends are much happier, even though we are mothers. Therefore, there is also a saying in our hometown: "You can't calculate the road by calculating the road". It doesn't mean that what you want your children to be, they will succeed. Just let nature take its course, as long as you don't let the children go with the flow!

Parents are children's umbrellas, and often parents will worry about this and that for their children. Worry about it, and finally find it unnecessary. I have a cousin who was the last in the primary school exam. Even if the academic performance is not good, I often make trouble, which really makes my parents very sad. Parents really think that their children's future life will be bleak. Besides, I study hard and my grades are OK. They think I should be more charming in the future. But nature is deceptive. Now I can only live an ordinary life in a small city. After graduating from primary school, my cousin went to Guangdong to work, and later partnered with others to run a steel plant. He's the only one now. Life is really a storm. In a word, "one person works and the whole family enjoys happiness". He formed their family by himself.

Parents are worried about their children's future out of kindness, but children have opportunities for development. After all, children still have to do things, and it is futile to worry too much. Now it is a diversified society, and business opportunities are everywhere. Some people may be placed in a stable institution by their parents, but they are not satisfied with this institution. After reading this story, they want to start a business. Entrepreneurship is risky. Although there are not a few winners, there are also many failures. Telling this story here is just to show that "don't make unnecessary consideration for your child's future". The child has his own interests and hobbies. As parents, as long as they guide him well and prevent him from going astray, there is no need to make too many arrangements for his life planning.

The development of the great era and the ups and downs of personal destiny are important factors that determine the direction of our lives. As parents, it is easy to set the growth of children according to their own experiences, and this application sometimes corresponds to the development of the times, and sometimes it does not. And "mother's body, self-growing heart", everyone has their own destiny trajectory, which is beyond the control of parents. It is natural to "look back" and naturally think that it has not been realized as planned.

Like the growth of our brother and sister. When my father was young, he was the only high school student in the town. At that time, workers, peasants and soldiers recommended him to go to college. It should be no problem for him to be recommended to go to college. But when he should have gone to college for more than six years, he just caught up with three years of difficulties and various sports, and the number of university places was seriously reduced. This became the biggest regret in his life and lost the opportunity to change his destiny. I can only say that time waits for no one, and my father has no such life!

So in his understanding, going to school is the only way to change our destiny, so we should go to school with our brothers and sisters. The requirements of our family are strict and simple. As long as we study hard, we don't have to do any work in the fields. Both brothers came from the early 1970s. At that time, no one in the countryside would work hard for their children to study. Usually, if they can't learn well, let them go home to farm, and my family is different. Take the most difficult second brother as an example. He can fall asleep on the platform when he is punished in elementary school. I haven't been to school since junior high school, fighting in groups, stabbing billiards all night ... Only his parents refused to give up, dragged him into high school, borrowed land from the east and the west, and bought him an orientation junior college (it is estimated that many people don't know what orientation is). Finally, he stayed in the city. Compared with other peers in our village, they are the best grades. In the era of two brothers, for rural children, studying and going to school is the most far-sighted investment.

By the time I was over 80 years old, my parents were still very strict with me and gave me all my strength to study. But at this time, the times have changed dramatically. In 2004, when I went to college, the country had begun to expand enrollment on a large scale, and the marginal effect of going to college was decreasing year by year. Although I studied best among the three of us and went to the best university, college students are everywhere, and it is difficult to find a job after graduation. In addition to the general environment, there is another very big factor. In the ten years after I turned 20, I was at a loss. I didn't have the courage to leave home to find a job by myself, and I didn't take the exam seriously. I didn't find a stable job until seven years after graduation.

So my mother often says, "People …" are getting stronger all their lives. Looking back at her in her seventies, there are only two words. With the ups and downs of the times and personal destiny, especially for the middle and lower classes, parents really don't have much ability to control the future and the next generation. The birth of a child is like parents releasing a boat on the sea. It has its direction.

There is really no need for parents to worry about their children's future.

As the saying goes, "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren." What parents want their children to do, the children are not necessarily obedient; Even if you bite the bullet and do it, you may not do it well. Poverty inherits the wind! It is understandable that parents are eager to make their children become talents, but children have their own interests and hobbies, and parents can't intervene.

Take one of my classmates as an example. After failing in the college entrance examination in the 1990s, his parents asked him to repeat it, but he refused. He started farming at home, because he had no experience and skills, he lost everything, so he couldn't just find a job on a big farm. Because of his high school education, the company arranged for him to raise poultry. After several years of work, he accumulated experience, and the company promoted him as a technician and gradually became a site manager. Now I am a department manager with an annual salary of more than 200,000, which is more beautiful than the students admitted to the university.

As long as the child does not go astray, parents should respect his choice. Perhaps "if you have the heart, you can't spend it, but if you don't have the heart, you will have a willow tree."

Parents sometimes think about their children's future, and worrying about their children's future or interfering too much is really a thankless thing. First of all, this is not only a generation gap between the two generations, but also an old-fashioned view of new things, which is far less extensive than our children's knowledge and comprehensive perspective; I was also bewitched by my classmates, and thought it was a hot job for my daughter to learn computer software. So, in the summer vacation of 20 16, let my daughter go to Beijing to study computer school; It is still very hot in summer in Beijing. At that time, my daughter was also very fat and afraid of the heat. At that time, she was reluctant to spend only 10 thousand yuan to go to Beijing for a computer training, so she was in a bad mood, and the school was not as formal and good as she thought when she went to school. In addition, it cost her more than 1000 yuan to come to Beijing all the way to suffer. My daughter has been yelling at me with nameless fire and abnormal emotions, even calling me an idiot and listening to others' nonsense. As an elder, it's really not good to be scolded by children. Since then, I have left a shadow in my heart. I don't know if you can find a good job after graduating from college, or get a loan to train you to learn computer software. You are ungrateful and have such a big opinion. There is a way to do bad things with kindness. So since then, I have never asked my daughter about her work. Even if sometimes she wants to discuss with me, she chooses to work and jump to another company to let me express some opinions and suggestions. We just say that she should pay attention to her health and safety when she is outside, as a polite expression that the elders care about the younger generation; Besides caring about the next generation, knowledge and the generation gap between our two generations; That is to say, the popularity of an industry is not static. Perhaps it is a good industry that is popular today, and it will become an outdated industry tomorrow. Another point is to consider children's interests. If you force your children to do things they don't want to do or learn, parents will impose their wishes on their children and their unfinished wishes on the next generation. Some children even go to extremes under the pressure of their parents; Now, my daughter has chosen her favorite copywriting job, chosen her own path, assumed the ups and downs, and will have the motivation to try to adapt to her own path; And copywriting is also something more suitable for girls to do. We are also very supportive of her current choice. So now it seems that it is unnecessary to worry about the future of children.