What words do parents often say that make children particularly insecure?

Some things parents often say can make children feel insecure, such as:

1. If you don’t obey me, I won’t want you anymore.

Once my 5-year-old daughter insisted on buying Barbie dolls in the supermarket. There were already two sets of the same ones at home. I thought it would be a waste to buy them. The child kept crying, so I said to the child: If you cry again, I will I don’t want you anymore. The child came over quickly, hugged my legs and cried loudly and said: Mom, Mom, don’t leave me. I regretted it after saying that, and my heart hurt so much. From then on, the child did not dare to ask for toys because she was afraid that her mother would not want her.

2. If you cry again, get out of here.

Sometimes when a child cries and the adult becomes very irritable and anxious, I will tell the child to get out if he cries again. One day my daughter kept crying and I was a little irritable after a busy day, so I said this to her, and the child cried even harder and felt aggrieved.

3. If you don’t obey me, I won’t love you anymore.

The child is the saddest and saddest to hear this sentence. Every time when a child challenges a parent, the parent is impatient and says this to the child. In fact, every time after saying this, the parents would regret it and swear in their hearts that they would never say similar words to their children again. But the next time a child challenges us, we might as well say this on our own initiative.

In fact, these words are quite harmful to children, so much so that they will feel particularly insecure if said too much. Please parents should pay attention to the methods and language when speaking to their children in the future.