How should professionals socialize?

Whether in the workplace or in life, we will always meet different social parties, friends dating, company parties, receiving customers and so on. Some people think it's fun to socialize, eat, drink and chat together, while others are particularly afraid of socializing, especially in the face of some wine table culture.

Once, I just graduated from college, and I was not familiar with the world. I thought it was fun to socialize. It's so pleasant for everyone to get together to chat and taste delicious dishes. Then when I worked for a period of time, the reality immediately hit me in the face, which made me begin to understand why my sister, who has worked at home for many years, always complains that she has too much entertainment and it is not easy to eat at home every week.

When I first joined the work, I was assigned to work in villages and towns and became the secretary of a female leader. A township corresponds to many departments, and different working groups will come down to check the work every week, so there will be various entertainment more or less every week.

At the dinner table, I should take care of the needs of the leaders. If your leader is drunk, you should do a good job in the aftermath and arrange your leader properly. Sometimes the working group comes down late, but I still have to arrange all the work. Once I went to bed after 10 in the evening and got a call from the leader saying that I had just come down from a working group and asked me to accompany me to pick it up. I have no choice but to get up and tidy up and go to socialize. The work during that time really made me afraid of socializing. Fortunately, after I came out of the township, I no longer need so much entertainment at work.

When entertainment becomes a routine job, I believe no one will like it. After that, I also participated in the entertainment of some companies. Seeing that some colleagues obviously don't like drinking, they have to drink in order to talk about business. Everyone was very busy at the party and the guests were very happy. But perhaps, in Ode to Joy, Rainbow Baichuan, in order to get the list, they had to continue drinking. In such entertainment, there should not be many people they really like except for necessity.

Besides work, let me talk about life. Once, a good friend of mine called me and said that I was invited to a great party and I could meet many interesting friends. I didn't want to go at first, but I went on at the repeated invitation of my friends. But when we arrived at the meeting place, we found many people, but everyone went their own way and rarely communicated with each other. My friends are all kinds of people. They want to talk to someone. I'm not particularly active. I just sat in the corner and played with my mobile phone. I was bored all afternoon.

In fact, there are too many strangers at some parties, so don't go, because unless this kind of party is centered on you or for a friend, it will only be boring and a waste of time. Unless you are lucky, don't expect such a party to attract any contacts for yourself. Really effective contacts come from one's own strength, not from friends made on purpose.

And the most controversial reunion. The year before last, most of our high school classmates got together. There were many people, so we divided several tables. When eating, I found that ordinary students are consciously sitting together, mixing well and making a big difference. Students who mix well are very active and often propose a toast to everyone. There are company bosses or various leaders, and everyone pats their chests to assure their classmates that they can help if they have any difficulties in the future.

Sitting next to my close classmate, she saw this scene and secretly told me. She heard that a classmate in her class lost his job because of company layoffs, and found a classmate (company boss) who wanted to find a job in his company. As a result, he was rejected. This is what they say to help each other in difficulties, and the students show contempt. I said with a smile, this is human nature, don't worry, and we can't ask others to do something for you with our classmates.

Although they are all classmates, there are always many people toasting around the big boss and leading classmates, trying to narrow the distance between them. After all, after many years, apart from the long-lost classmates' feelings, it is more of a bond of interests, and you will naturally not give up such an opportunity to deepen your feelings.

After three rounds of drinking, everyone's joking scale is also big. Some students in high school played jokes on each other who were ambiguous or gossiping. At first, they were a little stiff. The more you go to the back, the more exaggerated you are. They started drinking wine, snuggling up to each other and even taking pictures of their friends. I am particularly worried about how their families will react when they see such photos.

I was really bored after dinner, so I left first and made an appointment with some good classmates to get together the next day.

It's good for small classmates to get together, remember the New Year together and feel about life, but the life trajectory of big classmates has long been different. How can I find * * * Ming? Aside from these, the only thing left is to show off, be ambiguous, or link between classmates. It is better not to go to the stale classmate party.

I haven't attended any class reunion since then.

There are many kinds of entertainment and parties in life, some of which are really necessary, such as friends getting married and working, but some of them are of little significance, so try not to go. The older you get, the more you can feel it. It is the warmest moment to spend more time with your parents at home.

For professionals, time is the most precious. Time has three characteristics: transaction, consumption and investment. Going to work is selling your time, which is a transaction. Used for ineffective entertainment and games, that is, consuming time; Taking time to study is an investment in yourself. We should learn to put an end to all unnecessary social activities and use them to learn and improve ourselves. When the workplace crisis comes, ability is our biggest backer.