Why is my mother so hard and soft, and many people are not? How to explain it? Eat soft and not hard, I sometimes hate it. Look at the supplement

This is more influenced by social environment and history and culture. The tradition in China is that comity comes first. This concept has always been rooted in our hearts. We should be polite, otherwise we will be considered as having no tutor, so we will pay great attention to restraint in our behavior.

But this logic will accumulate some emotions that should be vented at many times. In this way, when the other party is quite ruthless and unreasonable, the accumulated emotions will be exported, and the unreasonable behavior of the other party is just contrary to traditional morality. Venting behavior itself will not be a manifestation of insufficient tutoring and self-cultivation.

First of all, irrationality and insolence stimulate the defense mechanism of personality, and then the accumulated emotions can be vented.