When they grow up, most children who are withdrawn and feel inferior "come from four families", so parents must not take it seriously!

A child's character needs the guidance of his parents. Don't let your child live in the shadow of inferiority all his life because of your mistakes. A family with love and companionship will cultivate optimistic and confident children.

Fans often ask me backstage, what should I do if my child is withdrawn and inferior and doesn't like to communicate with others? As we all know, apart from congenital factors, a more important part of the formation of children's personality comes from the influence of acquired environment, especially from family background. Every child is born as a carefree angel. Children with low self-esteem are not formed overnight, but accumulated bit by bit in life. Most of the children with inferiority complex come from these four families.

1. There is a word called "excellent inferiority" in families that often attack children. Such people are undoubtedly excellent and successful in the eyes of others, but in their hearts they hide a sense of inferiority and often deny themselves. Jiang Wen is such an "excellent inferiority complex". Jiang Wen, a famous director and actor, is the best director of the Taiwan Golden Horse Award, with a happy family and a successful career. In the eyes of outsiders, Jiang Wen, who can be regarded as a "winner in life", said in an interview that he is a very insecure person. And this lack of confidence has a lot to do with his mother.

Jiang Wen said two little things. One is that he was admitted to Chinese opera and told his mother excitedly that her mother threw the notice aside and asked him to do the laundry. Later, he became famous, made money and bought a house for his mother, but she never lived there once.

Since childhood, Jiang Wen has been trying to please his mother, hoping to get her approval. However, until the death of their mother, neither of them had a chance to make up, which became a lifelong regret for Jiang Wen. Influence education is like a nail in a child's heart. As time goes on, the wound will heal slowly, but the rust on the nail will always exist. If even parents can't see the bright spot of their children, they will only hit him and deny him. Where can children build their self-confidence?

2. A frugal family. I have many roommates in high school. They are 32 years old and have never talked about boyfriends. My family is going crazy. In fact, many relatives have encountered it, but every time it ended in failure, the main reason lies in her inferiority complex. Yun Yun's mother is a very thrifty woman. Yun Yun never wore new clothes when he was a child. Her clothes are either small clothes worn by her brothers and sisters or old clothes bought by her mother from relatives. When I was in the fifth grade of primary school, I was chosen by the teacher to perform on behalf of the whole class on Children's Day, and the teacher specifically told me to dress beautifully that day. People went home and told their mother about it, and her mother said, "Just stand on the stage for two minutes. What are you doing with this money? Just wear your sister's skirt! Although my sister's skirt is old in style and there are some indelible spots on the collar, I still wear it.

Everyone said that she would never forget the way the teacher looked at her and the ridicule of her classmates. Although, now people have earned money from their work and can buy clothes they like. However, she still feels inferior. Every blind date, she always feels that the other person is laughing at her. Those who have a good impression dare not take a step forward because they feel that they are not worthy of each other ... Some people say that "raising children in poverty" is to make children suffer more in childhood and cultivate strong perseverance and unyielding character. However, if you don't control money from an early age, you will not only feel inferior, but also go astray because of your excessive desire for money.

3. Hands-on family, whether between husband and wife or between parents and children, will change the child's personality. The United States has done a survey, and children who live in it for a long time will form two extreme personalities. One is to become a violent person, vent his pain on the victim and find a sense of security from the frightened eyes of others. On the other hand, there will be a serious inferiority complex.

This kind of child has long been out of fear, leaving a shadow of childhood, and when he thinks about it, he will be unconsciously afraid. When I grow up and work, when I face an opponent who is stronger than myself, the first thing I think of is to shrink back. When getting along with others, because of cowardice and inferiority, I will often be bullied by my colleagues but dare not resist, and I often have no outstanding performance in my work.

I have a friend who is a middle school teacher. She told me the story of a boy in her class. The boy is a freshman, and his personality is very withdrawn. He is always alone. One night, the hospital suddenly called her and said that the boy needed surgery, but the hospital could not contact his parents. My friend rushed over and signed it before sending the boy to the operating room. The boy couldn't help crying when he woke up and saw the teacher by the bed. He said that his parents are very busy and have been doing business in other places. They haven't been home for two months. He goes home every day, either making noodles or ordering takeout. No one knows that he is not feeling well. Perhaps, I am not important to my parents at all.

My friend was very sad after hearing this. It turned out that the teenager became so withdrawn and inferior because he lacked the company of his parents. With too little parental company, children will not only lose their sense of security, but also become timid because there is no one to comfort and encourage them in time. After a long time, they will give up on themselves or become inferior.

We always feel that children are still young and there is always time to make up for it. I never thought that childhood passed by quickly. When we want to accompany our child, we suddenly find that he has grown up. So spend more time with your children while you still have time.