"Tell me, what's so interesting about that?"

At noon yesterday, she chatted with an elder WeChat for 50 minutes. I wanted to comfort my relatives far away from home, but when it comes to housework, we disagree, and what should have been warm contact becomes uncomfortable for each other.

The difference is: because of different values and life concepts, there is little contact between relatives, and the elders feel that she is indifferent and only cares about herself. And she felt that her elders misinterpreted her meaning, but they couldn't explain it, and even explained two sentences, which was even more counterproductive. ...

She said: I don't want to talk about housework, and I don't want to listen to housework. If I can't solve it, the more I talk, the more annoying I get. Say something interesting and happy.

The elders are anxious: "Say one, you say it's boring; Say another one, you say it's boring; Then tell me, what's interesting? "

Talking thousands of miles away, trying to give each other warmth. Unexpectedly, she felt guilty and uneasy about making her elders uncomfortable.

Think about the truth that "acquaintances should be born and strangers should be familiar". The elder is her closest relative. Since their views are different, their starting point is good. They want to see their families live in harmony and love each other, but the reality is that even the closest people are difficult to communicate with each other because of their different thinking, concepts and values. And she is too stubborn and willful to communicate with her elders, so she should be "smooth". Why did she fight for it? I don't know that "an honest official can't break housework"?

In this kind of contact, she deeply felt the difficulty of communication between people, even between brothers and sisters and close relatives. I am confused about how to communicate harmoniously with my relatives with different values.