What is social phobia and how to alleviate it?

Social fear, also known as social anxiety disorder, is a kind of anxiety disorder. The disease usually begins in adolescence, and the prevalence rate is 3%~ 13%, accounting for 10%~20% of anxiety patients.

Social phobia patients show obvious and persistent fear of interacting with others. Once faced with such an occasion, they will be at a loss, don't know what to do, show tension, anxiety and fear, often sweat, dry mouth, dare not look at people, and show obvious anxiety symptoms. Because patients are afraid of attending crowded occasions, they will try to avoid all kinds of social occasions, which obviously affects a person's life and study and seriously damages social functions. Serious patients even dare not go out, stay at home all day, dare not contact with people, and even leave society for a long time.

If your social phobia symptoms are mild, you can enhance your self-confidence through self-adjustment. First, to be clear, communicating with people is not a terrible thing. Gradually build up confidence in dealing with people. After a stage of self-confidence, you can gradually get in touch with people simply, go to places where there are few people first, and try to overcome anxiety and anxiety. It may be difficult at first, but you must work hard to overcome it, because this step must be taken.

Next, communicate with people in places with relatively many people. Don't be afraid of making mistakes, and don't be afraid of other people's strange eyes. Everyone makes mistakes. Step by step, through step by step, it will definitely improve.

If your symptoms are serious, you should get involved in medication. Benzodiazepines, such as lorazepam and alprazolam, can relieve patients' anxiety to some extent, but patients are prone to psychological dependence and habitual use of these drugs, so it is not appropriate to use them repeatedly or for a long time to avoid drug dependence.

Antidepressants: paroxetine, sertraline, etc. Usually used as a first-line drug. These drugs take up to 6 weeks to take effect, usually 9 months to 1 year. If the drug is stopped early, nearly half of the patients will relapse.

This is Uncle Zuo, a psychology teacher. Let me answer your question.

Zuo Shu, a psychology teacher, is engaged in psychology and mental health education, and consults on students' mental health education in a university. The problem you mentioned is also quite common among college students. Students often come to consult this question. They dare not speak in public. When they talk to girls, they stutter. When they met boys, they turned red.

I will answer you from three aspects.

First, what is phobia?

Let's talk about phobia first, because social phobia is a kind of phobia.

Phobia is a neurosis characterized by excessive and unreasonable fear of external objects or situations. Patients know that there is no need to be afraid or afraid, but they still can't control the fear attack, which is more common in teenagers; Panic attacks are often accompanied by obvious anxiety and autonomic nervous symptoms; Patients try to avoid the objects or situations they are afraid of, or endure with fear.

There are three main types of phobia, one is agoraphobia, the other is social phobia, and the third is phobia of special objects or situations.

Second, social phobia Social phobia is a kind of phobia, which occurs mostly in teenagers. It is manifested as fear of examining and avoiding social occasions, such as eating in public places, being nervous when talking with the opposite sex, and being afraid of being watched and monitored.

Patients know it's unnecessary, but they just can't control themselves; In addition to anxiety, patients' social fear is accompanied by symptoms such as blushing, palpitation, tremor, sweating, nausea, shaking hands and urgency. Some patients also show blushing, and some patients dare not look into other people's eyes, that is, they are afraid to look.

Third, how to alleviate social phobia?

In clinical psychology and psychiatry, the principle of combining drug therapy with psychotherapy is generally adopted to alleviate social phobia, which is also the long-term exploration experience of clinical psychology and psychiatrists. First, use drugs to relieve patients' fear symptoms and stabilize anxiety; Then carry out psychotherapy to correct the patient's wrong cognition through cognitive therapy; Social skills training is used to cultivate patients' social interest, social self-confidence and social skills, and improve patients' social self-confidence.

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Friends with social phobia can live a good life. Choosing quiet jobs that don't need to deal with others too much, such as illustration, painting, reading, writing, scientific research, etc., can keep you away from the fear brought by social interaction and have a different and better life.

Does my son belong to that kind of social phobia? What should I do? He is 25 years old this year. He graduated from college and has been working for almost two years. He hasn't had a girlfriend since he fell in love. He was naive as a child. Now he is less and less fond of talking and making friends. The leaders in the company attached great importance to him and sent him to training and study. He also works hard, but he can't talk. Especially when there are girls around, he is far away from communicating with others, giving people a cold feeling, and there is no shortage of girls at work. He just doesn't take the initiative. Is he too proud to fall in love once he fails? Parents' anxiety can't help, and he doesn't want to communicate with us. What's wrong with this kid?

Social phobia is the fear caused by introversion or dislike of dealing with people. We live in this world and there are people around us. Dealing with people is a necessity in daily life. You have to deal with people when you buy things, with people at work, and with your family at home. This is also called dealing cards.

I see many introverts don't like dealing with people, don't like talking to people, and don't like communicating with people. These are all signs of self-distrust. Afraid of making others unhappy, afraid that they can't say it well, afraid that they will be laughed at if they say it. Exercise more, communicate more, learn more from others, and take your time. Like my son, I was timid when I was a child. I took him out to play, but I wanted to eat but was afraid to buy anything. I told him not to eat until he bought it. Don't eat once, twice and the third time. You have to bite the bullet and buy it yourself. After you buy it once, you won't let me or anyone else help you, because he has broken through himself.

Don't worry, learn to be bold. Only when you take the initiative to deal with others will you understand that the world is beautiful. Many good people and people will be willing to communicate with you and make friends with you. Only by taking the first step bravely will you overcome yourself and stop having social phobia.

May it go well!

This phenomenon is also a common phenomenon of people, so don't suppress yourself too much. Brave people are not without fear, but face all situations with fear, and they will master this ability through constant tempering.

There are many ways to alleviate it!

1. First of all, we must accept our imperfections and shortcomings and encourage ourselves to face any state. This is just a skilled process.

We can have more contact with people with more experience and communicate with people with more ability. We will find that we have learned a lot from these people, which will change our cognition and make us more and more confident!

We should understand that everyone has his own temper and personality, and he will have the attitude and ability to handle things. Don't be attracted by each other's state at that time, and don't have too much separation. This is also the detail that we have been paying attention to since childhood.

4. When we understand people and things.

After the law, all phenomena are nothing more than a process. From inner sufficiency to continuous self-awareness, the cognitive height of facing life will continue to improve!

It's my pleasure to answer your question!

Speaking of social fear, let's take a look at what social fear is.

Social anxiety is a kind of mental illness that produces strong fear or anxiety for any social or public occasion.

How did it come into being?

In front of strangers or people who may be carefully observed by others, patients have obvious and persistent fear of social or performance occasions, fearing that their behavior or nervous performance will cause humiliation or embarrassment. Some patients find it difficult to attend parties, make phone calls, go shopping or ask authorities. Psychologically diagnosed as social anxiety disorder (SAD), it is a kind of anxiety disorder. This disease originated in A.D. 1985, which was considered as neglect anxiety. 14 years later, it was gradually taken seriously.

For people with social phobia, there is no way to live a normal life and have no social interaction.

How to solve it?

Step 1: Cultivate self-confidence

People with social fears will find that you are not brave enough, that is, you are not confident enough. Therefore, in order to go out in the future, you have to exercise your "courage" and make yourself confident. You can mentally hint to yourself "I am the best" and "I can do it" every day, and we will have confidence in the long run.

Step 2: Go out.

If you have self-confidence, you should take the first step bravely. You can go to your familiar environment and get in touch with people outside your family, such as shopping in the supermarket, paying your own bill, eating out, paying your own bill and so on.

Step 3: Enrich yourself

After you can go out, you should enrich yourself. In the process of trying to go out, we should learn more, practice more, talk more and enrich ourselves, so that we will be fearless and full of confidence in the next social interaction.

Step 4: Persist.

Treating social fear is a difficult and long process, and there will be more or less disappointments in the process. At this time, we should cheer ourselves up, be better next time, socialize more and attend more parties. Only in the long run can we really relieve or cure.

To sum up: everyone has social fear, and no one is born to be social. Only by defeating yourself and being confident enough can we avoid it!

Come on, I wish everyone no social fear! Get away from him!

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What is social phobia and how to alleviate it?

I would rather take a detour than avoid the "anti-reconnaissance socialization" that acquaintances greet;

I would rather eat, go shopping and watch movies alone than take the initiative to meet new friends.

Fear of making public speeches or performances will make people feel "I am ignorant" and "I should be rejected when I speak".

Do you feel uneasy in social situations and worry that others will talk about you? Social phobia is slowly invading our lives.

Social phobia is also called social anxiety. From job interviews to dating lovers, we are all nervous to some extent, but when social anxiety seriously affects or hinders our daily life, it will become a mental health problem.

According to the data of the Institute of Mental Health, 1/8 people have experienced social anxiety in their lives. As many as 40% of the population in Britain suffers from anxiety disorder, and150,000 American adults in the American Association for Anxiety and Depression (ADAA) suffer from social anxiety disorder. If left untreated, social anxiety disorder may accompany you for life and seriously hinder your work potential.

You may feel powerless in the face of social phobia, but there are many things you can do to help yourself fight this anxiety. The first is to challenge your mentality and find out the negative thoughts that cause fear in social situations.

Learn to question your negative thoughts: "Do I have to screw up?" Or "How do you know if you will lose this opportunity without trying?" Learn to evaluate your negative thoughts in this way, and you can gradually reduce your anxiety in a more positive way.

Someone once asked Freud, "What do you think is the standard of mental health?"

In fact, anxiety and tension are not as obvious as you think. Even if someone notices that you are nervous, it doesn't mean they have an opinion of you. Maybe others are as nervous as you are.

Face the social environment you are worried about bravely, instead of running away. Escape will also hinder what you want to do or what you want to achieve. For example, fear may prevent you from sharing your thoughts at work or making new friends at school.

Learn to build self-confidence, keep yourself confident and build a ladder for yourself to overcome anxiety. You can read some books that can communicate with people and strengthen your heart in time to find your confidence.

Do something you like, listen to some relaxing songs, release stress when you are anxious, watch movies, exercise actively, enrich your life and so on. Let you get to know some like-minded friends while focusing on activities. At the same time, we should also improve our communication skills with others.

When you don't get enough sleep, you are more prone to anxiety. A good rest can help you stay calm in social situations. Improve your lifestyle. Tea, cola, coffee and some energy drinks will aggravate anxiety symptoms. To limit the intake of these drinks, you can even consider giving up coffee completely, smoking less and drinking less.

Actively seeking help is another effective way to overcome social anxiety. You can take training courses such as social skills and self-confidence and eloquence, so that you can have a new understanding of yourself and improve interpersonal anxiety. You can also try to seek the help of professionals and improve social anxiety through psychological counseling.

I hope everyone who is in social anxiety can meet a better self, get rid of anxiety and return to normal social interaction.

Nowadays, many young people have social phobia when they leave society. The general causes of social phobia are mainly related to personality, and the main symptoms are fear of expression and being watched by others, which is not conducive to their own development.

Social phobia is mainly manifested as excessive and unreasonable fear of some external objective things or situations. The patient knows that this fear is overreacted or unreasonable, but it still appears repeatedly and is difficult to control.

Social phobia can be divided into two categories: one is called "general social phobia", that is, no matter what social situation you are in, you are afraid of being noticed, being introduced to strangers, and even making eye contact with others.

The other is "special social phobia", that is, fear of certain special situations or occasions, such as fear of speaking in public.

To overcome social phobia, we must master scientific and reasonable methods, both objective and subjective methods should be tried to see which method is more suitable for us.

1, do some exercise to overcome shyness.

For example, stand firm, then gently lift the heel and hold it for a few seconds before putting it down. Doing this 30 times each time, two or three times a day, can eliminate the feeling of uneasiness.

2. Shyness makes people breathless

Therefore, forcing yourself to take a few deep breaths and rhythmic breaths can relieve tension and lay the foundation for building self-confidence.

It feels safe to hold things in your hand.

When you are with others, at first, you might as well take something in your hand, such as a book, a handkerchief or other small objects. Holding something like this may make some shy people feel a little comfortable and secure.

4. Learn to look at others fearlessly and concentrate.

Of course, it is difficult for a shy person to start doing this, but you must learn. Imagine, if you always avoid the sight of others and stare at a piece of furniture or a distant corner, isn't that naive?

Aren't you equal? Why not show some courage and look at others boldly and confidently?

Sometimes your shyness is not entirely due to nervousness, but because your knowledge field is too narrow or you know too little about what is happening at present.

If you can read some extracurricular books, newspapers and magazines to broaden your horizons and enrich your experience, you will find that you can express your views in social situations without difficulty. This will also help you build your self-confidence and overcome shyness and fear.

5. Communicate with friends and family.

Active language communication is a magic weapon to overcome fear. In our communication with others, we can relax effectively and learn a lot of unexpected knowledge.

Step 6 be friendly to others

Helping others is the foundation of happiness. When helping others, you can forget your troubles and prove your value.

7. Talk to someone

If you are in trouble, you must say it. Find a trustworthy person to tell your troubles. Maybe others can't help you solve the problem, but at least they can let you vent.

Step 8 dispel doubts

Dispel your doubts and relieve the feeling of being "peeped" and "seen through". If others knew your "problem", they wouldn't stare at you all day.

Because most people have a strong "self-centered" tendency, they care more about themselves than others, and they feel that they are staring at others or squinting at them, and they also have great imagination. In other words, eliminating suspicion is the premise of good social communication.

Of course, if you are a patient with severe social phobia, it is recommended to seek the help of professionals as soon as possible and cooperate with the treatment.