You can't be a good person at work. Tell me about it.

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very kind, friendly and easy to talk to in his work and life. Others rarely refuse his help, but basically help with a smile. I never care about things that I have suffered a little, so I feel unnecessary and open-minded. In his mind, the world is simple. If I am friendly to you, you will be friendly to me.

However, this world is not simple, and it is extremely complicated. This is human nature, and it is naturally ugly and selfish. The reason why we can see so many modest gentlemen and live in harmony is only because human beings have culture and suppress their nature.

Too easy to get often do not cherish, the more you can't get, the more you want, and do your best.

You listen to others, care nothing, do anything, don't complain, don't take the initiative to take credit, just take action, what can you get? What you get is superficial praise from others. Behind your back, they think you are a weak person and a "good guy" who is easy to bully. You will only push your luck and trample on your bottom line step by step.

Truly kind people always think of the world too simply, don't care about eating small losses, help others when they have something, and never expect anything in return. However, do you think it's over without asking for anything in return? Not only did you not come back, you were waiting for evil. Today you helped 10 things, and tomorrow others will ask you for 20 things, without any inner gratitude, just saying "thank you" as a pet phrase.

That's not all. If you are really in trouble and can't help them, they will blame you instead. "Oh, you didn't help such a small favor. Didn't you just help them before? "

Then, if he is not so accommodating, he will generally not bully others, but he will not cater to everything without complaint. Even if he suffered a loss, he would make a few jokes and grumble. Sometimes he really helped others, and he would express it in words or ask for a negligible return. Then the person who is helped will be grateful to him from the heart and will cherish this help.

Why is this happening? A person who is not so easy to talk to has won the attention of others and won their sincere thanks.

This is human nature, human nature is despicable, bullying and afraid of hard work, afraid of what is engraved in the bones. When getting help is not so simple and requires a certain cost (time cost, material cost, emotional cost, etc.). ), people will pay attention to it, they will feel hard-won and they will cherish it.

Of course, the ugliness of human nature does not mean that you hate others and violate human nature, but that you should recognize the essence of human nature, make good use of human nature and live your own life. After all, people from good backgrounds shouldn't be bullied, right?

Human nature is suppressed, but when you don't give him the conditions to suppress it, it will be terrible for him to grow up without restraint, and it is himself who is injured.

Therefore, those kind friends, in this ugly and evil world, learn to protect themselves, change their way of doing things, learn to refuse, be smooth, relax, be rigid or soft, use your masculinity to make those disgusting guys converge, and use your gentleness to make this ugly world a little better.