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I wrote an article the other day, and a reader left a message saying that he wanted to buy a ring. This reminds me of another reader's contribution.

This contribution was made in 2006, when I just resigned and wrote it. It doesn't involve emotion, just a book review. She talked about her fiance with resentment. She said that this man is very kind to him, and they have something in common together. When doing housework, this man will also help. However, she is as bad as this man, except that she can't mention money. When it comes to money, two people will quarrel. The root of the quarrel is nothing more than that: she wants to buy something, but the man doesn't want her to buy it.

Here, advice to all girls: Before getting married, you must look at men's three views. The most important of these is values. For example, you want to buy gifts and rings, but he doesn't think they are needed in life.

If you often quarrel about such things, I advise you to get married carefully. Because before you get married, because your finances are separate, the quarrel and contradiction in this aspect will not be too obvious, but once you get married, your money will be together, which will be the biggest contradiction in your life.

Because the essence of life is spending money everywhere.

The reader's thought at that time was that these were trivial matters. If a man doesn't want her to buy it, she won't buy it. Because of her accommodation, the two went all the way to the point of talking about marriage.

My advice to you on this matter is: if you stumble a lot before marriage, then you must have different views. This kind of thing, accommodation itself can't solve the problem, because you can't accommodate him all your life. Even if you can accommodate him for a lifetime, this life is doomed to be wronged. Because, you can't live according to your own wishes.

She chose to accommodate, and the man acquiesced that she could live like this.

Therefore, when it comes to marriage, men also think that they should not spend money where they can and try to save trouble.

When a woman asks for marriage, a man must buy a diamond ring, any one carat will do. Because this is a sense of ritual in marriage. To a great extent, this ring represents her understanding of marriage. She secretly thinks that a woman is a real bride only if she wears a ring.

But men don't think so. He found countless reasons. For example, his parents didn't buy rings when they got married, and many people around him didn't buy rings when they got married. For example, those women who bought rings rarely wear them after marriage, so they put them in boxes, which is meaningless. For another example, this money can obviously be saved and used in more practical places after marriage. There is absolutely no need to spend so much money on this ring.

Men are determined not to buy, and women have to buy. Contradictions soon arose. The woman threatened not to buy a ring or divorce, but the man had no choice but to compromise. The two families finally had to buy rings together, and the seven aunts and eight aunts of the man's family followed suit. There is only one purpose, to persuade women to buy cheap rings, and it is best not to buy them. And men keep pulling their faces.

He felt how much he had suffered and how much he had been wronged in buying a ring.

The woman's side just follows her mother. A woman's mother also advised her not to buy too expensive, just buy a similar one. Buying too much is not good for two people's married life.

Women don't want to be ugly on both sides, so they think I can buy a similar one. I don't buy anything too expensive, but I don't buy anything too cheap. Just buy a different one.

However, when she was choosing a ring, the man suddenly said, "You must buy a cheap ring. If you buy expensive ones, I will turn my head and leave. "

All women's compromises disappeared in this sentence of men. If you don't let me buy expensive ones, I'll look at expensive ones. Why buy a very cheap ring as soon as you get married?

This woman chose an expensive one. The man looked at it and asked, "Are you sure you want this ring?"

The woman said, "Can't I try?"

The man didn't answer, turned and left. Leaving a woman and such a large group of people, everyone around her looked at her like a joke. The waiter was embarrassed and didn't know whether to introduce him or not.

At this time, the woman's mother-in-law is not going to hold her son.

Instead, she acquiesced in the fact that her son turned away. She stood there blaming her daughter-in-law: "If you choose the cheap one, you must choose the expensive one. Pick a cheap one. Rings are a waste of money. Do you have to waste this money? With this money, you might as well keep it for your future children. When you get married, there will be more things to use money. "

After that, the man's seven aunts and eight aunts came up and took turns to persuade the woman. It's like how guilty a woman feels when she gets married and buys a ring. If she buys an expensive ring, she will be condemned or even blamed by the man's family.

The reader told me that she was so ashamed that she wanted to find a crack in the ground. Especially when she heard people talking around her, the waiter kept looking at her.

She thought that she had to fight for her breath. She tried on another expensive ring, not the one she wore when she got married, but the tail ring worn by girls. She bought a ring on the spot and said to her mother-in-law, "Do you think I can't even afford a ring? If you don't buy it for me, I'll buy it myself. I won't marry this marriage. "

She later told me that the man wanted to get back together with her several times and promised to buy her an expensive ring. However, as long as she sees the tail ring on her hand, she will think of her humiliation and embarrassment that day. She knew better than anyone that he didn't want to buy her a ring, but he was disgusted and gave in.

This matter will never cross her mind, and men will always remember how "vain" she is.

They didn't end up together. Later, this woman told me that they should have broken up long ago. Since she wants to eat a durian, men only think she is "extravagant". Since she wanted a rose as a Valentine's Day gift, men only thought that she would not live.

By that time, she should have broken up. It's just a waste of yourself to accommodate each other for so long.

People with different values are wronged in this life.

Because of a reader's message, I thought of another reader's story. So, I want to talk about the ending of this reader. She finally married a man who bought a ring on his own initiative and proposed to her on his knees.

She said, "You don't know how bad a bad person is until you meet a really good person. I gave up when I felt uncomfortable about getting married. Because, you are not this choice, a lifetime thing, why not choose one that makes you comfortable. "

Finally, I want to say that men don't care about the sense of ceremony.

There are two kinds of men who don't care about the sense of ceremony.

One is that he really doesn't know because of the environment in which he grew up. It's not that he doesn't love you, but that this way is not suitable for him. This kind of man will accommodate you when you ask for a sense of ceremony. Because he thinks that if you want it, you can have it. Csillam, for example, thinks it's not necessary to give roses as a gift on Valentine's Day, just be nice to women at ordinary times. However, Anita Yuen asked him to do it. Because, since you care, I will accommodate you.

The other is that he doesn't disapprove of the sense of ceremony, but thinks you are worthless. This kind of man doesn't want to worry about you. For example, some men never divorce their wives on Valentine's Day, let alone go out for dinner and date. However, for other women, he said that he was willing to spend money and time to buy flowers and gifts to please. This kind of man does not recognize the sense of ceremony, but does not recognize you enough.

As this reader said.

Women should actually have a better choice. This choice is not vanity, but a combination of three views and the spiritual world.

I remember last Valentine's Day, a bricklayer in our community was covered in mud, but he still bought a big bunch of roses for his wife. He said foolishly, "Pity ourselves, not our poor wives."

His wife may be just an ordinary woman, and when she sees that big bouquet of roses, she may scold the man for not living. However, holding that pile of roses, she will definitely think, "So, I cherish it. Even if I am ordinary, I deserve the most beautiful thing in a man's heart. "

Reading Shen Fu's Six Chapters of a Floating Life, Shen Fu was down and out all his life, but his wife always took pleasure in his sufferings. They are in rags and live in shacks, but they cook wine and make tea, talking and laughing.

Because she got the most sincere love from Shen Fu. This love is like a diamond ring. No matter how down and out you are, how down and out I am, it shines, much like the true meaning of marriage.