Talk about your own advantages and disadvantages.

Everyone is independent, and everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. There is absolutely no perfect person in the world, but if a person can understand his own strengths and weaknesses and their significance to you in different time and space, it will be almost perfect. Some advantages and disadvantages of people are innate and cannot be changed; Others are induced and influenced by the acquired environment; Others have nothing to do with personality, but purely external conditions, such as beauty and ugliness. Whether you like it or not, your strengths and weaknesses will always be with you, even with you all your life, affecting and determining the attitude of others to you, and becoming the help or resistance for you to survive in real life. Logically speaking, a person's advantages should help his survival, while his shortcomings should become a kind of resistance. Therefore, the more people with advantages, the greater the possibility of success; The more shortcomings a person has, the less likely he is to succeed! However, this is not the case. In real life, we can easily find that some excellent people are depressed, while many mediocre people are excellent. There are several reasons for this: (1) The types and nature of advantages and disadvantages. That is to say, although some people have many advantages, they have fatal shortcomings, which will destroy or even destroy the achievements created by other advantages, and most outstanding talents will be down and out; Although mediocre people have many shortcomings, their success can be expected if these shortcomings are not completely destructive and their advantages are constructive. (2) opportunities. A person's success is inseparable from opportunity. Opportunity affects a person's turning point. These turning points are good and bad. As for good or bad, it depends on the relationship between opportunity and your advantages and disadvantages. In other words, when opportunities are combined with human advantages, there will be a good turning point; If it is associated with human shortcomings, there will be a bad turn for the better. However, we must realize that it is difficult to change the essence of a person's advantages and disadvantages, and the opportunity is not completely grasped by people, but a rational and calm person should be able to control his own advantages and disadvantages and not let them dominate himself! We emphasize the word "control" because people's advantages and disadvantages will be different in different time and space. In another time and space, advantages may no longer be advantages, but disadvantages become advantages! Therefore, people should fully understand their own advantages and disadvantages, and it is particularly important to understand the value and existence conditions of these advantages and disadvantages. With these understandings, we should be honest and not have wishful thinking and escapist ideas, and then we can freely "control" these advantages and disadvantages. So how should we control our own advantages and disadvantages? Here are two suggestions: (1) Use your own advantages and disadvantages flexibly according to different environments. Try to use your own advantages to deal with the objective environment. When the environment changes and it approaches your shortcomings, you don't have to run away. You should first think about the relationship between the two, because sometimes your shortcomings become advantages at this time. If this is impossible, you should consider avoiding them. (2) Fill the vacancy with excellence and protect the vacancy with insufficiency. The former is a remedy to avoid being beaten all the time and cannot be avoided; The latter is to blur yourself, avoid being the target of attack, and reduce others' vigilance against you, because you let them see your shortcomings! The above two points seem easy, but it is very difficult to really do it. But you always try to do it, because survival is a very realistic problem!

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