"Daughter-in-law, we got divorced yesterday and asked the in-laws to move out today. It's so disrespectful." What do you think of this?

You said that your father has a bad temper and is a bit chauvinistic. Fortunately, your mother has a good temper and does not care about him. From my point of view, I can tell that your mother has a good temper and is reasonable in situations. She should not be bad in nature and can be said to be a kind person.

When your sister-in-law married into your family, it was like she suddenly fell into a new network of relationships, and she needed to adapt slowly. At the same time, your mother has two identities: mother and mother-in-law at the same time, and she sometimes At a loss? Only then will people have different opinions on your sister-in-law. Therefore, when two different identities appear in the same person, they will bring about two completely different personalities.

While onlookers know clearly, the authorities are confused. Since you can see clearly and talk about it, maybe you don't approve of your mother's actions. You will speak for your sister-in-law. I believe you are a kind girl, because your sister-in-law is not as bad as your mother said to others. What's more? Don't talk about other people's shortcomings and strengths, just talk about it and suffer disaster? Your mother should be able to understand.

1. Your mother has double standards for you and your sister-in-law

Your mother’s biggest objection to your sister-in-law is the bride price. Before your brother and your sister-in-law got married, your parents had already bought a car and a house for your brother. Although the car was fully paid, there was still some loan to exchange for the house, which your parents were paying off. But I think this cannot be a reason for the woman not to give a wedding gift.

What's more, when we were discussing marriage, your sister-in-law's family said they wanted a bride price of 30,000 yuan, and your brother quickly agreed. Your mother shouldn't still be resenting your sister-in-law, let alone asking for more than thirty thousand? To be fair, if you were to get married, your mother could convince her to marry you off by saying that she didn’t want a penny in gifts.

My mother-in-law wants to marry someone else’s daughter without spending any money, so when it comes time to marry her daughter, she is eager to pay more. This is a complete double standard for the daughter and daughter-in-law. Okay, let me talk about another thing.

The last time your sister-in-law called your mother, she didn’t call her mother, so your mother said in front of your aunt that your sister-in-law was unfilial. We have been married for several years, and carelessness is unavoidable. It is normal to be a little casual, but your mother has kept it in mind. She is afraid that as time goes by, she will become more and more unfilial.

Actually, it’s a bit funny when I think about it. Could it be that your mother was also oppressed by her mother-in-law and has a shadow in her heart? If you don't call me mom, will she say you are unfilial?

Where do some conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law come from? It is because of overthinking that the mother treats her children with a tolerant attitude, while the mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law with a critical eye.

2. To your mother, the daughter-in-law is an outsider after all

In the final analysis, it is because your mother does not regard her daughter-in-law as one of her own. Speaking of the time when the meal was served, your sister-in-law was hungry after get off work. As soon as she entered the door, she ran to the kitchen to serve a bowl of rice and started eating by herself. Your mother thought this was inappropriate? We can assume that if you are like this, your mother must be distressed before it is too late. It must be too hard to go to work if you are so hungry.

Your mother also complained to the neighbors behind your sister-in-law's back: "As time has gone by, she is no longer as filial as before. She only serves rice for herself and not for us." ?So, if the daughter-in-law is really regarded as a family, who can care about such small details every day?

What's more, don't talk about the shortcomings and strengths of others, and you will suffer disaster after talking about it. You have to talk behind your back. You can praise your daughter-in-law more and see her advantages. If your daughter-in-law hears your praise of her from others, she will feel that her mother-in-law approves of her. The daughter-in-law will also know how to be grateful and repay her mother-in-law for her kindness. In this way, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will have more trust in each other, and there will be fewer minor conflicts in life.

Third, speak more for your sister-in-law, that is what you and your brother have to do

In daily life, many times when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have conflicts and disputes, it is not the true nature of the matter. has reached the point of being irreconcilable. In fact, at the beginning of the conflict, they may still have different opinions, but as it progresses, the knot becomes tighter and tighter.

At this time, once one party in the family favors one of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the favored party seems to be standing on the moral high ground, triggering conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and bringing about more conflicts. serious consequences. Maybe at this moment, your sister-in-law doesn't know that your mother is dissatisfied with her in her heart.

So, before the conflict is aroused, you and your brother must discuss the matter and be reasonable, without taking sides.

What is certain is that your mother and your sister-in-law love your brother, and you can do what you should and can do. I also hope that the relationship between your brother and sister-in-law remains as good as before, that your relationship is harmonious, and that your family is harmonious and happy.