Can you accept not having a wedding?

I particularly understand this kind of worry about troublesome weddings, especially for people like them in the entertainment industry who have so many friends and feel like they have no control over who to invite and who not to invite. If you hadn't invited him, would he have thought too much about it? I'm not even your best friend. But if you invite all your good friends, it will be a particularly grand wedding, and you have to consider all aspects. There is a lot of preparation work, and you may not be able to bear it, and it will be very tiring.

So it was very contradictory, so I simply didn’t do it.

Isn’t it just marriage? Why does it have to be so complicated?

Lu Yi didn’t do anything when he married Bao Lei, because Lu Yi was so popular at that time. If he held a wedding, it would definitely cause a sensation in the industry. I simply didn’t do it. After all, once I got the certificate, I was considered married.

I valued weddings quite a bit before I got married, but to be honest, after getting married, I didn’t value them so much.

A wedding is just a ceremony, it doesn't matter if it has it or not, as long as you two can be happily married.

Two years ago, I really wanted to hold a make-up wedding, but as the time limit for the wedding lengthened, I became less and less anxious about it.

I don’t even know how to do it if we don’t have a wedding? Wedding anniversary? It will feel very embarrassing.

What a hassle.

If you really need to hold a make-up wedding in the near future, just treat everyone to a meal on their wedding anniversary. You don’t even need to include red envelopes. Invite the best friends of both parties. Come here and have the most simple and unpretentious wedding.

Can you accept getting married without a wedding?

I am the girl who got married without a wedding.

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The main reason why my husband and I did not hold a wedding was because we had no money.

Secondly, because I don’t want a wedding like those in rural counties, I want a wedding of our own.

We are both very independent people. For us, getting married is our own business. As soon as we graduated from college, we never asked for a penny from our family. We negotiated relationships ourselves, so we never thought about how much money our parents would need to pay for getting married.

In 2014, we paid for the wedding photos ourselves; but it was two years later that we received the certificate.

The reason why we got the certificate so late was because during those two years, our relationship went through a big crisis. When our relationship was mixed up by both parents, it became a mess, and then Because of our parents, we broke up and got back together, which was a period of serious emotional internal friction.

Later we figured it out: getting married is our own business. If we decide on that person, we should go ahead without hesitation. Because he and I are the kind of people who live far away from home and go to big cities to work hard. When we get married, there is no marriage. It is just two people getting a certificate and forming a family.

Parents can't help us with anything. They can't provide support for our future life. We can only go down on our own. In this case, why should we listen to them? Do they really understand us and know what we want?

My husband and I are completely independent financially, so we can make our own decisions.

I thought about getting married, so I chose a "good and auspicious day" to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate, which would count as marriage.

After receiving the certificate and “spreading the word” in the circle of friends, how we live our lives in the future is up to us.

How can we convince our parents of this trendy way of young people getting married without having a wedding?

I take care of my parents, and he takes care of his parents.

My husband and I’s marriage principle is: we two can work together and live a good family of our own. At the same time, we need to control our parents and maintain a relatively stable relationship. Our parents must listen to us. Respect the ideas of our young couple.

That kind of wedding in a rural county is definitely not what I want. I don’t know anyone. The two of us stood on the wedding ceremony stage and looked like "shakes". What's the point of such a wedding? significance? It's a waste of money, and it's extremely troublesome, with a lot of red tape. It's better not to have such a wedding.

I can accept marriage without a wedding, and I can choose to compromise for love, but that person must be worth it.

Only because it is you, I am willing to wrong myself like this.

Of course, if we are financially better off in the future, my husband and I may hold a simple wedding, invite friends from both sides to have a meal, and chat and laugh together, that’s enough.

The form is not important, but the two people are more important.

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I have a friend who got married not long ago. I asked her if she still wants to have a wedding?

She said: "Weddings are a particularly troublesome thing. If we want to hold weddings, we have to hold three weddings, one at my home, one at his home, and one at work. How much do these three weddings cost, and you can’t make them very simple? His parents are very face-saving, but the problem is that they have some debts and don’t have much money. I think it’s ridiculous, so I don’t want to do it at all. It’s a wedding, there’s no money, why are you being fat? Isn’t this just asking for trouble? I’ve decided not to do it. From now on, my husband and I will live our own lives, and they will take care of themselves.”

Their financial ability is also very average. They just bought a house and even borrowed 300,000 yuan from relatives and friends for the down payment. If they really want to hold a wedding, they may have to borrow more money.

Is it still necessary to have a wedding?

If we don’t do this, we can save a lot of money.

Of course the most important thing is to see what two people want.

Can you accept not having a wedding? If you fall in love by yourself, most of the time you can understand each other, even if you don't have a wedding. But if you meet on a blind date, and you don't have much emotional basis, most of the time you won't compromise.

Everyone has his or her own opinion. If you have more money, do it more easily. If you have less money, do it more easily. If you are afraid of trouble, you can just not do it at all, as long as the two of you have discussed it properly.

In fact, during the past three years of the epidemic, we have become more and more accepting of not having a wedding.

In the past three years of the epidemic, many people have postponed their weddings because there is no way and it is difficult for you to do it. The epidemic has been going on for three years at a time. As it drags on for a long time, many people are too lazy to do anything. As long as you two have a good time, the wedding is not the most important thing.

Two people live a good life. You are the leader of your own life. Don't let your parents interfere too much.

The matter of marriage still depends on the two parties involved. The opinions of other people can be considered but have no decisive effect. Don't make your marriage too complicated, keep it simple.