How to speak like a gentleman

A gentleman can't be embodied by words alone.

"You should live like a gentleman" is a common saying of some people. But what is a gentleman? Although this is also a topic of different opinions, for those gentlemen who want to make their behavior more civilized, they may wish to observe one or two.

Gentleman's demeanor is the basic etiquette standard advocated by the public in western countries, especially the male public in Britain. Asking people to pay attention to their appearance and manners in public communication can give people the impression of being polite and educated.

First, the British traditional gentleman demeanor

(1) Dress appropriately. One is to be in line with your own identity, and the other is to be suitable for the occasion.

(B) introverted, humorous social way

(3) The etiquette principle of the lady taking the lead.

In Britain, it is a natural etiquette tradition for women to accept the respect and protection of men. To this end, the British Home Office issued a "Ten Commandments Announcement" to men.

Second, the gentleman's demeanor in the modern sense

(1) Pay attention to gfd and dress neatly. Men should not be vulgar and sloppy, and women should not be frivolous and gaudy.

(2) Be polite, elegant and generous in words and deeds.

In communication, when making introductions, it is the custom in western countries to introduce men to women first, the young to the old, and the low status to the high status. The order should not be reversed, otherwise it is considered impolite.

(3) Civilized language, be polite to people and don't do anything more polite.

The importance of eloquence to gentlemen is self-evident. It is necessary to cultivate a gentleman to use a unique language, so that people will be quickly exposed to English. This point has been emphasized in some gentlemen's training manuals published in19th century, for example, Hamilton Moore's Guide to Little Ladies and English Teachers' Assistants in 1802: "A gentleman should only have one or two conditions. To be a gentleman, you must have many qualities at the same time. Among them, elegant speech is the most important aspect, just like elegant personal image. "

In Hamilton Moore's view, the purpose of learning is not only to find a job, but to make people "become popular people and become useful materials in society;" Happily face loneliness and endure all kinds of distractions and temptations. " Therefore, like Castie Gelina and Lord clanton hundreds of years ago, he emphasized the importance of eloquence. The main difference between the two is that the ancient values possessed by a few nobles have now spread to a wider and more dynamic middle class. In fact, when Hamilton Moore emphasized the importance of English writing and conversation, it was obviously aimed at emerging middle-class professionals, such as politicians in the upper and lower houses, lawyers involved in prosecution and defense, clergymen who preached, businessmen who wrote business letters and so on. However, while emphasizing the cultivation of language ability, he particularly emphasized the importance of good manners such as punctuality, humility, sympathy, caution and keeping secrets. He advocated that "a life of virtue is not as good as a life of joy". These values form the basis of the concept of a gentleman.

Three. The following text is taken from Living Like a Gentleman (English) and translated by Edward Berman, Li Zhaoping and Zhang Wei.

Good eloquence Today, you can feel the above characteristics by watching the actions of an English gentleman in clubs and country hotels. You meet a stranger in a company. You may think he is deaf because his eyes never leave the desk and newspaper in front of him. He never shows his curiosity, nor does he show feelings that are inconsistent with his identity; He never looks you in the eye unless someone introduces you to him; He keeps a low profile and doesn't want to leave his name easily. In a hotel, he never wants to quietly tell his name to the waiter at the front desk; If he sends you a card with his home address, you can be sure that he regards you as his friend. When he introduces himself, he always looks cold, even if he wants to know you or is going to do something.