"Daughter, you are not short of money. Lend your brother100000 to see a doctor." Should I borrow this money?

"The person who can hurt you the most in the world must be your closest relative. Last week, A Fang said this sentence to me calmly.

A Fang said that last week, her mother and brother came to her door to borrow money for medical treatment. Not only did she refuse to lend money to treat her brother, but she also broke off relations with her family directly.

Because of this, Fang was badly scolded by her family. Some told her to be ruined, while others told her to be rich and go bad. But no matter what they called her, they didn't bother to explain. Because in her opinion, there is nothing wrong with her at all. Everything he has done is retribution and he deserves it. In fact, I understand Fang's practice very well, because she has really paid too much for her family in this life and doesn't owe it to her family at all.

A Fang, from an ordinary family, has a younger brother who is three years younger than her, and her mother prefers boys to girls. Arguably, A Fang's childhood should be very unfortunate, but in fact, before she was 10 years old, A Fang had a good life, because her father was still there and loved her very much, so there was no prejudice. But when she was 10 years old, her father had an accident and died of a cerebral hemorrhage. At that time, Fang's life changed from heaven to hell.

After my father left, my mother became more irritable, and even blamed all the faults of my father's accident on Afang, saying that Afang was a jinx. Once my mother is unhappy, she will take it out on Afang and beat and scold her, so Afang's life is particularly difficult.

At that time, Fang was arranged by her mother a lot every day, but after school, she not only had to wash clothes and cook, but also went to her mother's shop to help. She has a lot of things to do at will, but her grades are still excellent, and she is in the top of the school in every exam. It is also for this reason that her younger brother who finally scored was naturally gossiped by others. Many people say that he is stupid and not as smart as his sister, and that it is useless for him to study, so he should give his sister a chance to study.

It's also someone else's joke. A Fang's younger brother complained to his mother and asked her not to let A Fang continue her study, saying that it would affect her study, so she was deprived of her right to study, even though the teacher came to persuade her.

After dropping out of school, Fang helped in his mother's shop for several years and was sent to the factory by his mother, saying that it was to earn money for his younger brother to study. At that time, all the money earned by Fang was taken away by her mother, because the fact was that the factory provided food and accommodation, and Fang had no savings even after working for several years, so all the money was given to his younger brother.

A Fang met her own love when she was 20 years old. That man loves her very much, cares about her very much, makes her feel the long-lost love, and falls in love with that man directly. After a year of love, I got pregnant unexpectedly and had to choose to get married. But when I got to know her, her mother only had one sentence, the bride price was 654.38+0.5 million, and there was not a single point that she disagreed with her marriage.

It was also because of her mother's decision that Afang was terrified, because her boyfriend's family could not get a bride price of 6.5438+0.5 million. When she thought her life was over, her boyfriend took out a bride price of 654.38+0.5 million and married Afang. After getting married, A Fang realized how many people her husband wanted for this 1.5 million. It is also because of her husband's actions that Afang vowed to be good to her husband in the future.

A week after Fang got married, her mother took the bride price money and mortgaged a house to her brother in the county, which made Fang particularly uncomfortable. Because of family pressure, A Fang and her husband have never had children and have been trying their best to make money and pay off debts. In the fifth year after their marriage, they paid off all their debts, because all the money for their brother's college education was paid by Fang, and because Fang didn't give it to her, her mother went to her house to make trouble. Fang had no choice but to compromise.

After paying off the debts at home, Fang and her husband decided to have children. When the child was two years old, A Fang's younger brother got married and emptied all the savings in A Fang's family. Because her brother got married, Fang gave her a red envelope of 20,000 yuan, because her mother forced her to help her brother for the last time, because after her brother got married, she no longer needed her help. It is also for this reason that she and her husband compromised.

After my brother got married for half a year, A Fang's child became seriously ill. Because the child had no money to treat the disease, A Fang found her brother and borrowed 10,000 yuan. Because his brother just got married not long ago, he must be rich, but he told her that he had no money. Finally, A Fang begged her mother to lend her some money, saying that it was very important for her children to treat diseases, but her mother said to A Fang, "You are married, and we are already two families. Besides, I can't control your brother. He said that no money means no money, and he will find a way. "

It was precisely because of her family's refusal that Fang felt particularly uncomfortable, that is, at that time, she completely despaired of her family. Later, the husband borrowed money from a friend to treat the child. Later, not long after the child was ill, A Fang's younger brother bought a new car and boasted that it was 1.7 million. The husband was very angry when he learned about it, saying that Fang had helped a baiwenhang in recent years and let Fang completely cut off contact with them.

Afraid of poverty, A Fang and her husband borrowed money to start a business. Maybe they work hard enough, maybe it's a blessing from God. After a few years, their lives are getting better and better, and their families are getting happier. At that time, Fang thought she would never see her family again in her life, but I didn't know that last week, her brother and mother actually came to see us.

Mother stood at the door, without saying anything, and said directly to A Fang, "Your brother is ill and has no money to treat him. You can take him 65438+ ten thousand yuan! " ! Hearing his mother's words, Fang was very calm, just like looking at a stranger. She looked at her mother and brother calmly and said, "Why?" ? Hearing her answer, her mother suddenly flew into a rage and shouted at Afang, "We are all family, and you are not short of money, daughter. Lend your brother100000 yuan to see a doctor. Whoever doesn't help him will help him. " It was also the mother's words, which made Afang's grievances burst out for many years and directly replied to her mother: "If you don't borrow it, it is his retribution. I dare not help. We are two families. At the beginning, this is what you said, and I have no obligation to help her. " With these words, Fang ignored the swearing mother and closed the door to do his own thing.

It is precisely because of this that my mother and my brother smeared Fang everywhere as soon as they got home, which is why so many people scold Fang. Even her relatives called Afang and said, "Afang should be grateful to her mother, because without their stimulation, Afang wouldn't be here today. Some people also say that Fang can't be self-indulgent, because after all, blood is thicker than water, and there is no obstacle between relatives. Even if there was an injury before, it's over. There are even people who say that A Fang will be cursed because she has the ability but doesn't help. "

So Fang asked me, "Did she do it right?" ?

Bian Xiao has something to say:

They all say that "good is rewarded with good, and evil with evil." It's not that you don't report it, it's not the time. "

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with Fang's approach, because she really has no obligation to borrow money to help her brother. She is willing to help out of mutual affection and unwilling to help, which is also her duty. No one is qualified to make irresponsible remarks. And her brother, an ungrateful man, is not worth helping at all.

Those who say that A Fang should forgive and be grateful to her family are just people who stand and talk as if it were easy. If this happened to them, I don't think they would say these words.

The Analects of Confucius: "Or, how about good for evil"? Confucius said, "How to repay virtue"? "complain straight, repay kindness with kindness."

Someone asked Confucius, "How about I repay my bad with good or good?"? "? Confucius said, "If you do this, what will you use to repay those who are kind to you?"? "? Of course, whoever hits you, you hit him, and whoever is good to you, you are good to him. "

You see, even the sage Confucius can't "repay kindness with kindness". What do we ordinary people do?

In my opinion, injury is injury. Not only do we have no reason to forgive those who have done harm, but we also don't need to be grateful to them. Because we can become stronger without their harm, so I don't need to be grateful.

I often tell people around me to sit still and think about myself, gossip about others and be less sarcastic. When you haven't experienced everything in others, you are not qualified to make irresponsible remarks, because you know yourself after drinking water.