"I finally hacked my dad", can the cause and effect be finally reconciled?

Some people say that I spent my whole life trying to heal the harm caused by my family background, but in the end I failed.

In the book "Human Disqualification", I deeply realized the sadness and helplessness of this sentence.

Osamu Dazai, the author of this book, was born into a high-class family. He lacked the care of his parents since he was a child. His father has been busy with government work, while his mother is sickly.

When he was a child, he grew up under the care of his aunt and nanny.

Being born in a family directly led to his negative disillusionment.

At the age of 39, he committed suicide by diving with a female reader after his disqualification on earth.

This book can be said to be a semi-autobiographical work, because the protagonist Ye hides the author's own shadow.

Through Ye Zang's life experience, he revealed his unfortunate life experience and inner pain to the world.

Both Osamu Dazai and Ye Zang suffered from their origins.

As adults, they still live in the shadow of childhood. If they can shake hands with family of origin and heal their inner pain, they may write a different chapter in their lives.

Countless people are lamenting Ye Zang's fate, but also their childhood.

0 1: The pain of being born in a family sometimes traps a person.

The protagonist Ye Cang was born in a wealthy family. He was sickly since childhood, and he often couldn't afford to get sick, but he didn't get the care he deserved.

In order to win the love of his family and make them happy, he often puts his posture very low and even tries to please them blindly.

Once Ye Zang's father asked him what gift he wanted. He didn't like the mask for dancing lions, but because of his father's mood, he had to choose the mask against his will.

If you do more things that go against your heart, it's easy to forget what your initial heart is.

Ye Zang originally wanted to go to art school, but his father suggested that he go to high school because it would be easier for him to enter politics. He dared not talk back, so he had to obey his father.

In fact, Ye Zang only wanted to get his father's approval and love from beginning to end, but in the end, he didn't get his father's real love.

When Ye Zang tried to commit suicide and was lying in a hospital bed, his father also asked his agent to convey to him the decision to sever the relationship between father and son.

Ye Cang lacked love and affirmation from childhood, naturally lived in all kinds of caution, became timid and numb, dared not resist, and could only obey.

When he grew up, he began to paralyze himself with alcohol, tobacco and different women, and gradually reached a desperate situation.

Some people say that after reading this book, there will be a feeling of being unintelligible.

First of all, congratulations, because life before that was happy.

If, in the book "Disqualification on Earth", you find your own shadow, you should try to catch up with yourself in the past.

When reading this book, many people saw their own shadows. Since childhood, in order to please parents, I have tried my best to do what I like, what kind of clothes to wear, what kind of gifts to choose and what kind of school to attend.

As long as parents are happy, listen carefully to their arrangements and live a life without self.

02: It's hard to find happiness because of the injury of family background.

Many people, like Ye Zang, have been trapped in a family all their lives, making it difficult to be happy.

I have a 37-year-old girlfriend, who is what others call an older woman. Whenever her family urged her to get married, she didn't have the courage to accept love and face marriage.

My best friend is a slim and graceful beauty, but she is not confident, because her mother scolded her when she was a child, and she didn't know what happened in her last life and gave birth to you, an ugly girl.

This sentence may be my mother's angry words, but it is deeply imprinted in her heart. From then on, she felt ugly and fell into a deep inferiority complex.

When I was a child, my parents often quarreled and fought in front of her, saying that she was a burden.

Finally, my parents ended in divorce.

Until now, she still stubbornly believes that she is a burden to her parents, who divorced because of her. Since then, she has been avoiding marriage.

Parents were freed from marriage, but their angry words became deep wounds in her heart. Up to now, she still feels ugly and unworthy of others. She is more afraid that her marriage is full of quarrels like her parents.

What courage does she have to heal the injury of family background?

There is no denying that the pain of being born in a family will even affect a person's life.

Fortunately, we have the ability to recover from all kinds of trauma, so we can't be trapped by family background. We should summon up courage, boldly go out and pursue our own happiness.

03: There will always be someone who loves you and will heal the pain of your Origin and Death.

Fu Seoul, the debater of Seven Overlords, once talked about his childhood in a program. His parents divorced when he was very young.

At that time, the family was poor, and she wanted to eat bubble gum, so she could only chew what others had chewed.

Later, because her mother remarried, she was thrown to her grandmother's house.

In order to get her mother's concern, she had to steal detergent to make herself sick.

"Human Disqualification" wrote:

"Cowards are afraid of happiness and get hurt when they touch cotton."

Born into a family, Fu Seoul was sensitive, timid and inferior since childhood, and even felt that she would never get married in her life.

Fu Seoul is unfortunate. In his childhood, in order to attract his mother's attention, he did not hesitate to hurt his health and drink detergent. She is also lucky. When she grew up, she met her distressed old Liu and vowed not to let her be wronged again.

A sentence in "Human Disqualification":

"The passage of time is a healing for everyone equally, and perhaps it is also self-salvation."

Yes, under the caress of time, everything will pass and the pain will pass.

Life is a long road. We should have the confidence and courage to walk slowly, bravely heal the pain in our hearts, get rid of the shackles of our family background and rebuild our lives.