As the saying goes, "no matter how good a relative is, there are three things you can't pay." What are the three things they don't pay for?

First of all, don't make friends with gossipy relatives, that is, those who are laughing and laughing in front of you and can speak ill of you in front of another relative. Secondly, there are relatives who are not snobbish relatives. This kind of person has two faces when dealing with the relatives of the rich and the poor, but he is diligent and eager to please the relatives of the rich, while he is cynical and bitter when dealing with the relatives of the poor. Finally, it is reasonable for relatives who are easy to borrow money. It is reasonable to help their relatives when they meet with difficulties. If they don't make money and pay back the money because of this, they don't have to pay attention to it.

In the past, people's income mostly depended on farming for a living, and the villagers were very harmonious. When villagers need help, everyone will help each other. For example, when villagers are busy with farming, they all help each other. With the continuous development of society, many people are reluctant to farm in rural areas and have gone out to work. The purest relationship between people is slowly disappearing. Especially the relationship between relatives, old people often say, "No matter how good a relative is, there are three things you don't pay." No matter how good your relatives are, don't associate with them as long as there is such a phenomenon.

In Keigo Higashino's Night Walk, there is a classic saying that there are two things in the world that can't be looked directly at, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart. Relatives in rural areas are more complicated. For those relatives in the countryside, if you can handle them well, they will be permanent relatives, but if you can't handle them well, relatives may become passers-by or even your enemies.

It is precisely because of this that everyone travels all over the country for small families and can't go home several times a year. The thick human feelings are getting weaker and weaker, and only when I go home on holiday will I go to some relatives' homes.