What do you think about getting married?

Last year, I had a seven-day National Day holiday. When I came back from Shanghai, I felt the same as Spring Festival travel rush, whether at the station or on the bus. The train was crowded with people without seats. No, our town is full of traffic. Cars beeping, horns honking together, and music playing in shops along the street made me mistakenly think it was the Spring Festival?

65438+10.2 is an auspicious day marked on the calendar. In addition, weddings are held collectively on holidays. Just look at the cars lined with happy characters at the door of every hotel. The hotel is booked two months in advance.

Last night, I was also invited to my cousin's wedding reception. The wedding was arranged in the most luxurious hotel in our town. By six o'clock, the guests at the banquet had almost arrived, and the scene was very lively and festive. I looked around at about 20 tables, each with Chinese cigarettes, oral sex wine, Sprite, orange juice, fruit and so on. And chat with my deskmate and learn that this table is free of alcohol and tobacco 128.

In everyone's expectation, the host has invited the bride and groom to take the stage, the music started at the right time, followed by a photographer, and the golden couple sprinkled flowers in front. We also took out our mobile phones to take pictures of the sacred moment of the couple, and then invited four elders from both sides to take the stage, which gave warm applause to the couple. When the host invited the groom's elders to speak on the stage, I clearly saw tears in my uncle and aunt's eyes, and I couldn't go on for several times.

Facing the son's lifelong event, parents are full of excitement, joy and happiness, and can unload the burden in their hearts. At the same time, it also marks that they have finally raised their children and completed a responsibility and mission!

On the way back, I heard that menstruation was too anxious to sleep for my cousin's wedding. Six months ago, she was asking for money everywhere. * * * borrowed more than 200 thousand, and even a small part of it was usury. The engagement bride price, wedding photos and other expenses are about 200,000 yuan, the wedding banquet is 50,000 yuan, and the wedding ceremony is 1 10,000 yuan. Counting, my cousin spent nearly 300 thousand on getting married without a house. It turns out that the 300,000 down payment for buying a house in their hometown county last year has spent all their savings, and they have to pay off their mortgage. For a family that grows some fields in the countryside and my uncle occasionally does some rough work on the construction site, the son's marriage is to return to poverty! Over the past year, the old couple have been worried and haggard about their son's affairs, but they still say that as long as their son gets married smoothly, it doesn't matter how hard they work. As long as the young couple are happy, their mood must be mixed. ?

Nowadays, in many places in rural areas, the trend of comparison is getting worse and worse, and the price of bride price is soaring. In order to satisfy the so-called vanity face, the amount of bride price demanded by the woman is rising, which is not much for my brother and daughter-in-law. Others want a house, a car, prizes of 15 or more, gold, platinum jewelry and meeting gifts from relatives and elders of the woman are all Chinese cigarettes. At least two bottles of wine are above 150. The wedding banquet will be held by all relatives in the city. If you have long-distance relatives, you should open hotels with several sound grades, and the children of the relatives of the woman should not be less than 400 yuan's red envelopes.

All these rising costs far exceed the rising speed of farmers' income. Some media reported it with data. With the development of economy, farmers' income has increased by 25 times, but the wedding bride price has increased by 100 times.

The villagers even use "one year to get married, ten years to pay off debts" to express their feelings vividly. If it is a well-off family, there is no disaster, and I can barely manage to borrow it from my relatives. Some family members have spent all their savings because of illness, and they have to hold a wedding for their son. It is very necessary for them to get a old bones. How many young men can only "look forward to marriage and sigh", and many people complain about the "sky-high bride price". "If an ordinary family has two sons, in order to marry a daughter-in-law, they will owe a bunch of bills and be poor for a lifetime.

The most distressing thing is that in some places, the high bride price, all kinds of wedding expenses, and even the tragedy that drove the old couple to nowhere …

A man killed his fiancee and his mother and committed suicide in Xinshao County, Shaoyang, Hunan Province. Insiders of the local police revealed that the man's fiancee was pregnant. This case was triggered by a bride price dispute, a human tragedy caused by a bride price dispute. The man killed his fiancee and prospective mother-in-law and committed suicide. The media in Dangshan, Anhui Province also reported such a thing in large numbers. There are more men than women, and honest parents scrimp and save. Since her son 16, she has been trying to save hard-earned money. When her son got engaged, she spent all her savings. Facing the approaching wedding day, the mother-in-law offered to hire money, and the son who worked outside chose to jump off the building …

Such a tragedy is enough to sting people's hearts and give a warning to many people!

What is the cause of such a mother-in-law and such a high-priced bride price, which deserves our reflection …

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