Poison chicken soup king, tell me about it

Poisonous chicken soup is really harmful to people. Although it will not be the "culprit" of leftover women and divorce, the older leftover women and divorce tide in China will indeed be influenced by some "poisoned chicken soup" advocacy. Let's take a look at how some "poisoned chicken soup" affects women's views on marriage and love.

The chicken soup "You will always meet someone who loves you, but the fate has not arrived" is actually not too toxic, but it is a chicken soup that makes women of marriageable age "passive". Fate is often used to comfort others, but if you really believe that fate will come, then you are naive.

In the face of the feeling of failure, people do not reflect on their own reasons, but attribute it to fate, which has to be said to be an emotional inertia. As the saying goes, "there will be no pie in the sky", which also applies to feelings. God never shuts one door but he opens another, and the so-called fate is deliberately done by pursuers.

If you want to finally achieve an emotion, you can't just wait. If you don't act, even if fate is around, it will slip away. The best way is to go out actively, socialize more, know more people, and then pursue others or be pursued by others.

The sentence "Women should not save money, but spend it on themselves" is positive from the perspective of self-improvement, such as improving themselves internally and externally to make themselves healthier and more professional. From this perspective, spending money on your own growth is a more active chicken soup.

However, influenced by some film and television dramas, they did not choose to grow up, but blindly advocated brand-name bags and clothes, and devoted themselves to squeezing into circles beyond their ability, just to meet the "Mr. Right". The ego has not grown up and has little savings.

If the goal is to "catch scarabs", it may be "draw water with a sieve". Because this pile of things can only be regarded as "bait." Those who are attracted by the bait will inevitably eat tasteless after getting along and finally give up.

"A woman's career belongs to a man, and if she marries a good man, she will be happy all her life." "If she marries a good man, she will be happy all her life." No problem, but "A woman's career belongs to a man" is the real "poisoned chicken soup". If women really regard men as their "career" and are completely attached to men, they may eventually become accessories of men's "support".

It is difficult to keep a balance in a marriage where there is a "supportive" relationship between men and women. When a man lacks the ability of self-survival, he loses confidence in his family. Once a man betrays, he becomes very passive.

In addition, a good man tends to be emotionally inclined to a woman as good as himself, or a woman he appreciates. It is difficult for a man to remain single-minded for a long time to a favorite "collection" or "pet".

Therefore, only by maintaining yourself and having the ability to live independently can you have a happy marriage. A good marriage relationship, like two legs of a person, is independent and combined.

"If he loves you, he won't leave you" and "If he loves you enough, he won't leave you anyway" both sound reasonable. However, it ignores the fact that everything is changing. Emotion is also alive, and it can last long if you manage it well with your heart.

There is no love for no reason and no unconditional love. Love is gradually produced and maintained in the constant emotional interaction between the two sides. There will always be a dry day in the pool without backflow, and it is difficult to maintain the love that only one party blindly pays.

If a spouse loves himself deeply, he will be arrogant and will not cherish each other. As a result, the other person's love will often be exhausted, so that the other person can no longer love him.

"If you love me, you must love all of me."

There is nothing wrong with this sentence, but if you rely entirely on this sentence, you will close the door to improve yourself. In his view, "love you, love all of you" is no problem. The problem is that what he thinks is "all" is not your real all.

Even if he has the will to "love you all", it is based on the expectation that both sides will gradually improve. There are always new shortcomings exposed in getting along. If you don't improve, but force the other party to accept it, it is a veritable "love kidnapping."

Love should have made both sides better, and we are both willing to present our best selves in front of each other. If we find our own shortcomings, we should strive to improve or make an attitude of improvement, which is the basis for the other party to tolerate us. If you don't change all the time, it means that you are not willing to pay for this relationship, and emotional failure is inevitable.

"I am responsible for beauty, and you are responsible for making money to support your family" is one of the most poisonous chicken soup. It is difficult for a woman poisoned by this kind of poison to have a long-term marriage. There are two obvious reasons:

First, he can earn money to support his family for a long time, but you can't be beautiful all the time.

Second, there are no beautiful women to get along with, and then beautiful women as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade will not feel bright when they get along for a long time.

Beauty can attract each other, but the stability of marriage and family must not depend on appearance, but on the management and dedication of * * *.

In short, there must be more than these "poisonous chicken soup" about emotions, but as long as we can keep rational thinking in the face of some "lofty" remarks, we can make wise judgments and not be confused by these "poisonous chicken soup". Without "poisoned chicken soup", the so-called "leftover women" and "divorce" may be less.

How can a 30-year-old leftover woman get off the bill quickly?

First of all, lower your eyes. Don't always think about those beautiful teenagers in Korean dramas. How many idols in Korean dramas are so handsome in a country? Which one is your turn?

Second, think about what you need to find. Rank education, height, housing, car, high salary, face value, family, personality and other conditions.

Choose three as the conditions that must be met, and other conditions can be relaxed appropriately. For example, if you choose character, education and housing, you must be excellent. Then you can appropriately reduce the height, face value, high salary, car, family and other conditions.

You have to tell all your relatives and friends about it, please help them.

You should put this matter on the important agenda. As long as there is an introduction, don't refuse to go as soon as you hear that the conditions don't meet, but be brave enough to see it.

Sometimes the conditions are not very good, but when you meet them, you will feel predestined. It's time to take the initiative to date. In the process of dating, sometimes I feel unsatisfactory and not so perfect. Calm down and think about it. Are you perfect? No one is perfect, and gold is not enough. You have to understand this truth. 70% of your satisfaction is good enough.

Remember, not too perfect, not too perfect. The person you love, the person who loves you, is waiting for you at the corner of fate!