"Divorce, what should I do next?" Did you divorce to find a new home?

Introduction: What kind of decision is divorce? No one advised me when I got married, but many people blocked my divorce. What's the problem?

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Divorce represents the end of a marriage, which means that two people should continue to look for life partners, and what kind of mentality women hold when preparing for divorce.

A distant cousin with a good relationship has been married for three years. In her words, she is really tired.

Her husband is tall and handsome, with a playboy face, but he is nothing.

Since I married my cousin, I have forgotten the word "money" and never go out again. His handsome face and I are facing the computer, playing games or playing games.

When my cousin got married, the man's parents provided a small apartment, but now, the property fee of this house can't be paid.

Cousin works alone every day, and the mission of making money to support her family seems to fall on her. Her husband's troubles and worries are only verbal, and he has never really shared the weight of life.

Cousin decided to divorce after careful consideration, and many people opposed it.

Relatives said: "Look at you, such a good young man is not wanted. What is worse than you? You are so delicate and half-hearted. It is not easy to find a loyal partner now. "

The friend said, "Do you really want to do this? I think he loves you very much. It's not easy to find someone who loves you so much. "

The husband said, "You just don't know how to cherish people. Why are you so ignorant? Isn't it hard for the young couple? How free the world is for them. You are really confused. "

Even her own parents said, "Daughter, divorce is no joke. My son-in-law will give up playing games one day. If you are divorced now, where can you find a better one? If you have a beautiful house, you won't want a second marriage. "

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Everyone's words of advice are different, but to sum up, it is one sentence: what if I get rid of this?

It seems that divorce is just to change partners, but never consider why women leave this person.

Who wants to be a widow if her heart is not dead, her heart is not cold and her life is not bitter?

Cousin said: "I divorced just to leave this wrong person." As for the next one, I haven't considered it yet. "

Perhaps, women divorce just to leave the wrong person, and life is changeable. No one can guarantee that the next time will be worse than this one. However, it is a compromise of life to keep a wrong person all your life and let yourself suffer.

People's habit is to compare what they want to give up with what they can't get, hoping to be foolproof, hoping to give up something for better, and if they can't guarantee it, they would rather hold on to the pain than throw it away and look for it again.

In the world of adults, you have to fight for everything yourself. The loss is understandable, but if divorce is linked to the next home, it will really be a lifetime.

My cousin resolutely left the wrong person and is still single. I don't know if she will be worse than the last one, but I am sure that after leaving that person, my cousin's life is much smoother than before, with less pressure and less burden. Leaving a chicken-feather marriage made her relaxed.

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Compared with my cousin, a friend of mine is not so lucky

Her predecessor was an honest man, and his laptop was divided into two points and one line at home and at work. His salary has not risen for many years, and his predecessor is not in a hurry. He is guarding an easy job, not indifferent to fame and fortune, and not working hard.

My friend felt fine at first, but later he became more anxious. If she can't go to work after giving birth, how can he support a family of three with this salary?

She felt that it was hopeless to follow this man all her life, and she was unwilling. What she wants is to improve her taste in life, not to be silent for many years.

Unable to resist her inner yearning, she divorced. Less than a year after the divorce, she found her present job. She is a person with excellent working ability. She was promoted three times in two years. Her friend is satisfied with her present husband, but her life is not smooth.

There is a bad habit at present. At home, the Ming media is marrying one, hooking up outside, having sex, and changing one every three days.

Now it is also the second time to get married. Previously, his wife divorced because he often cheated. When a friend takes over this mess, every day is equivalent to a grass widow.

We asked her why you didn't get a divorce. She said, "After my ex and I divorced, I regretted it to death. Although I am honest, I have nothing to say to the person who is kind to me. Alas, I really never treated me like a wife. "

"Then why don't you leave? What's the point? "

My friend said, "If I divorce again, I will get married three times. Who wants it? Although I'm not sure about this, I don't have to worry about my monthly living expenses. I can eat and wear. If I divorce, I will regret it even more. What if the next home is not as good as this? If you meet a gambler and an alcoholic, it will be really miserable. "

Then, the friend saved the marriage and began to suffer.

It is really stupid to decide the present marriage by imagining the next marriage.

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If two people really don't get along, it's really the stage of divorce. So, divorce, simple, okay?

Not all divorces are about finding the next one. Nothing in this world is 100%. Only by coming out of misfortune can we face the next reality.

And those who always compare their predecessors with their current ones are willing to take a gamble and admit defeat. This is the law of this society. Regret will only make them miserable.

We try to change, not regret. When you make any decision in marriage, it's not for later regret.

Does it mean that if you change it badly, you will regret it infinitely, and if you change it well, you will show it off all over the world?

No, divorce is just to simply leave the wrong person, simply free yourself, simply leave the unhappy marriage, fail to find a good home, and leave this home.

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It takes a lot of courage for a woman to face the end of a marriage, and there is no way to sum up the marriage in the eyes of others and her sleepless mood.

Whether others think it's good or not, only a woman's heart knows whether a marriage is happy or not.

Secular views always make us cringe. Not making decisions easily is the only sustenance of our life. We are afraid of regrets, mistakes and turning back.

Mr. Lu Xun once mentioned in his article that one of his uncles likes to grow flowers, especially the pearl orchids, but his wife doesn't like flowers, and often hangs clothes on them and complains about all kinds of flowers. Lu Xun is full of sympathy for this: "He is a lonely husband."

Lu Xun regrets others, but actually regrets himself. The first stage of his marriage was with Zhu An, and finally he spent his life with Xu Guangping.

Many people will say that Lu Xun was a little cruel to Zhu An, but only he knows that being with the wrong person is a lifelong torment. Just like Lu Xun's great-uncle, the abuse of hobbies is undoubtedly a suppression of emotions.

Only by leaving the wrong person can we expect the right person. If you compare the unknown with the known, how can you make the rest of your life better?

Divorce is just the first step to leave the wrong person first. If you don't look back, you can live up to the rest of your life.