Why is it difficult for the rich and the poor to become friends or even relatives?

It is really difficult for the rich and the poor to become friends or even relatives.

My family has no money, but my brother earns more than one million a year.

They live with my parents. Because of work, there are always all kinds of high-grade tea, tobacco and alcohol, as well as various local products at home.

My father likes alcohol and tobacco. Our family has little money, so it is impractical to buy too expensive cigarettes and alcohol. Therefore, the cigarettes bought on holidays are just average, about 240 cigarettes. The price of wine is about more than 300 a pair. If you get 2,000 yuan for the New Year, you will get less for the holidays, and you will also get some vegetables and fruits, daily snacks, clothes and supplements.

I feel that such a gift in the countryside should not be too bad, medium level.

However, my brother's trunk is full of wine, and most of my father's wine is five or six hundred or even thousands of pairs. There are more than a dozen pairs of different brands at home all the year round. The cigarettes and wine we brought back look shabby together.

My parents' clothes are all bought by my sister-in-law, and they don't look cheap. Dare not ask the price.

My sister-in-law gave me several sets of skin care products, but I refused to accept them, but she insisted on giving them. I feel very uncomfortable and want to send it back, but I can buy thousands of sets, but I can't afford it.

What do you suggest? He gave it casually, and it was all covered in one day. Two packs are all I bought.

He gave me thousands of skin care products, and I can only give my children buy buy clothes and snacks.

Go back to the ordinary daily necessities I bought for two or three hundred yuan. Their various specialties, all kinds of mutton, ribs and dried seafood, filled my trunk.

What they gave me was more expensive, but I couldn't get the money. I can only pay him back with real money, but these are too expensive for me. It's ok occasionally, but it's impossible to buy it often.

Needless to say, I feel inferior myself. I haven't dared to buy clothes for my parents for many years, because it's too expensive for me to part with them.

Subconsciously, I am trying to reduce the number of times I go back to my mother's house. what are you going to do？ Once you go back, you will be sad once. I think that's what I am. Going back is taking advantage of my family.

But can you not go back? My parents are old, and they expect me to go home more often.

This is my own brother, and he is willing to supplement me. If you are relatives and friends, how can you get along? It is not at the same level as others, nor is consumption at the same level. If people don't like it, they will stay away from it.

I angrily resigned from my rich cousin's factory and never met again. Because through the experience of being fooled by her for two years, the values of the poor and the rich are fundamentally different and belong to two worlds. Different ideas, where can we be friends?

20 13, resigned from the last factory. Because it is very harmful to your health to rotate day shift and night shift every month. After a year, I feel like a machine with a dull head. And this, the monthly salary is less than 3000! Although there are five insurances and one gold, I can't see the future!

So, I was unwilling and chose naked resignation angrily. It happened to be during the Chinese New Year. While searching for positions on the website, I asked other students if there were any good positions there. The connecting flight happened when I visited my relatives during the Spring Festival. When my family went to my aunt's house to pay a New Year call, we met my aunt's daughter, my cousin.

My cousin was beautiful when she was young, and later she married a rich family and lived a comfortable life. Just opening two or three factories, there are millions of income every year. Such figures, in a small county, are simply astronomical. Just because I'm a cousin, I don't go much. I only see menstruation here once a year at most.

My aunt's eyes lit up when she talked about my resignation at the dinner table.

"Big nephew, come and work in my aunt's factory!"

"I dare not say more, 5,000 yuan per month is still guaranteed!"

I heard my heart move, and this salary is definitely not low in the county. Even civil servants get in their early 2000 s every month. I originally planned to travel to a big city, but the salary I saw was in this range.

My father obviously saw my touch, and now he said, "Sister, I'm afraid the child will not be able to get there!" "

"It's okay. It's just that my factory is short of people. When I get there, I also have a master! "

Visiting relatives has solved a big problem, and this meal is naturally enjoyable for both sides.

However, when I arrived at my cousin's factory, I realized that things were not that simple, and a series of routines were waiting for me in front.

First of all, I didn't sign the contract after I went, and I signed the contract after I left. There is no contract, let alone five insurances and one gold. All I get is a month's salary.

Secondly, my cousin's original salary of 5000 yuan suddenly became 1800, and the internship period was half a year. So for half a year, I have been holding the salary of 1800. Later, I went to see her, and my cousin gave me a direct sentence: "The internship salary is so much. I will give you more, others will definitely not! "

"Look who is who, and now you still take 1600!"

"Don't worry, your skills have been learned, and your salary is definitely indispensable!"

At that time, I was young and ignorant, so I was fooled.

Once again, the so-called master brought me, but I didn't see any shadow. I had to pay for cigarettes myself, and when the master finished his work, I went to ask for advice. Other times, I look at it and grope for it. In the past few months, I have been like a headless fly. It took three months to get on the right track.

At the end of the year, like other workers, we will share a bucket of oil and a bag of rice, and then go home for the New Year. When I got home, I told my parents that I wouldn't go after the New Year. I went to a big city to change my job, but my parents said, "Where can I go? I will get a high salary!" " Anyway, I have to work for two years, so I'll take a look! "

After listening to my parents' advice, I stayed up for another year, and the workload was even greater. In addition to completing the tasks in the factory, other chores were pushed to me at once.

I go home from work outside, and I am on duty at night.

The whole materials office was short of hands, so I pushed it up.

My cousin moved, I went to help during the day, and then I finished the work in the factory when I came back at night.

Workshop workers were busy with production, so I was sent to clean up. ...

Anyway, I am in all kinds of places where people are employed. Moreover, the salary has really gone up, and it has gone up by 200 yuan, with a huge income of 2000 yuan! And I also learned from many channels that the turnover of people in the factory is so large that they quit almost every month, just because the salary in my cousin's factory is one-third or even more lower than that in similar factories.

Recruiting people every day, someone resigns every month, and they fall into such a strange circle!

"Work hard and your salary will be higher in the future!" My cousin said so, I have the impulse to hit people!

This time, until the Spring Festival, my cousin never mentioned money. On the 26th of the twelfth lunar month, it's still the same, a bucket of oil and a bag of rice. Watching the people in the factory leave one by one, my mood can no longer be controlled.

I took the oil and rice and went straight to my aunt's office.

"Cousin, I tell you something, I won't come for the New Year! You should recruit people then! "

"I feel that I am not competent enough to work in the factory!"

At this point, my cousin said hypocritically, "I will give you a raise next year, and better jobs are ready for you!" " "

Only this time I won't fall for it, no matter how bluffing she is. It will take more than ten years for 200 yuan to rise to 5000 yuan a year! I threw the holiday benefits of the factory into her office and left!

The moment I left the factory, I suddenly felt a sense of relief. I only hate that I woke up too late and didn't know how to refuse. I wasted two years in this small factory in vain.

What if my cousin earns more money? The promised salary of 5000 yuan did not shrink to 2000 yuan in the end? It's not 50% off, it's a fracture!

The rich and the poor have different world views. We want to get rich through hard work and keep our promises, but the rich are thinking about how to squeeze others and increase their wealth. What kind of contract spirit and face are beyond their consideration. Different world views, naturally not the same passerby!

From then on, when we went to menstruation's house again, it seemed that we had a tacit understanding, so we deliberately changed the time with menstruation. This also avoids the embarrassment after meeting. Although she is still a relative on the surface, I have thoroughly recognized her true face, so I don't want such a relative!

What I said may hurt a little, but it should be reality. People are born to be mutually beneficial. Don't be friends, don't be brothers and sisters, even parents treat their children the same. Don't say that maternal love is selfless. Does not mean that maternal love is not good. An old saying that has been passed down for thousands of years can explain everything. This is the most straightforward exchange of interests. Even unrequited parenting does not mean that there is no interest relationship, and they also aim to continue the gene. This can explain why parents are always the first to ask the most promising children what they want to eat. Because such children can bring their parents material and spiritual satisfaction. Then the poor and the rich can't be true friends or even relatives. It is not difficult to understand that everyone's efforts and gains are not equal. Who wants to be friends with someone who needs your help for a long time but can't give you the same help? The so-called emergency does not save the poor, that is to say, emergency is a temporary difficulty, and poverty may be a lifelong trouble. Ma Yun's friends can only be Ma Hua Teng, Liu Chuanzhi, Guo Guangchang and Xu Jiayin, and they will never be us, unless one day we can squeeze into their circle.

Tell my story and you will understand why the rich and the poor can't be friends.

My father is a famous painter. Although he is not rich, he is very talented, has the title of professor and is respected. My second uncle is the general manager of a well-known domestic enterprise 18 factories. When our family was poor, we could only eat cakes and could not afford rice and steamed bread, my second uncle was already a successful person with a house and a car.

My second uncle is a very emotional person, a very filial person and a very upright person. Although he holds great power, he is honest and clean all his life, never corrupts, and will not use his position to make profits for himself.

My second uncle had high hopes for me when I was very young. I remember when I was only five or six years old, he bought me English tapes and wanted to learn English well since I was a child. Where are those tapes? I don't know. Anyway, I didn't study and bought me a tape recorder. I don't like studying, so it's useless. It can be said that I am the disappointing child in my uncle's mind!

My second uncle is good at educating children. My two cousins, one became a real estate manager at a young age, started as a luxury car villa, and the other was a schoolmaster since childhood. After studying in Britain, he became the president of a bank in Beijing. Although this position is not ideal for him, it is definitely an elite for ordinary people. And I failed in the college entrance examination and was poor, just like the person who was replaced by others after failing in the college entrance examination. I worked as a waiter, a factory worker, and fell to the bottom of society, suffering on earth!

Many years later, I went to see my uncle. I thought it was the respect of the younger generation for the older generation. This just feels how "scared" the second uncle and the second aunt are? Afraid of me is not really afraid of me. I have no power or influence. They are afraid of me because they are afraid that I have been asking them for it because of my relatives.

I wanted to ask them for my cousin's contact information, but I found my second uncle and second aunt very scared, as if knowing that their son's phone call would bring disaster to the children. No molestation, no contact information, let me disappear into their world!

People of different status and classes can't be friends. My father always blames me for being impersonal and always emphasizes how sensitive my second uncle is. I said that's because my father has the title of professor and the status of painter. Although my father is famous, it is impossible for his father's children to respect his uncle's talent! It's up to you. What ability do you have, how much money can you earn, and what kind of social status have you reached? A useless person, who would want to make friends with you?

Although it is very sad to be a thief, but learn to put yourself in the other's shoes, everything will be relieved. If I were my second uncle, I would probably be afraid of poor relatives. Because of this blood relationship, I constantly harass your life, have no money, borrow money from you, have no job, and care about your work. Just because you have a better life than him, he naturally has difficulties. If I were you, I might be worried. ...

I don't blame those rich people for shutting me out. What class am I in? It is most comfortable to stay in the class. If I can't bring any benefits to others, why do others like you?

When you have no wild desires, everything is calm. Just as I disdain to make friends with people whose souls are not at the same level, I disdain to make friends with people who are higher and lower than me.

The rich and the poor are the same. Don't make friends with people who are not in the same class. That will make the rich side feel very scared, scared and worried. Only by making friends with him in the same class, your economic strength and class status are evenly matched, and no one will be a burden to anyone, and no one will be a trouble to anyone. Instead, they will be mutually beneficial and help each other to feel safe.

Zhuangzi said, "If you are alone, you will be alone. Unique people are the most expensive. " Duras said, "Opening books is also a long night." Zhuangzi's spiritual realm is very high. He takes advantage of the situation and contacts the spirit of heaven and earth alone. At the same time, Zhuangzi is not a hermit, but a mixed person, hiding in the crowd.

When you learn to look at the world with philosophical thinking, you will find that even if you are poor, even if you don't have a friend, you can communicate with the spirit of heaven and earth alone and get spiritual happiness and freedom.

I am a late bloomer, and my emotional intelligence is low. When I first started working, I had many gifts in my hand, all of which were big brands. I'll take Head & Shoulders, which is about 00 years old, back to my eldest brother, and choose it. The thought in my heart is: that's my brother, my hobby. During the Spring Festival, my eldest brother asked me how much it was in January. I said 3000, and he was surprised. It's good to open 1000 after graduating from junior high school, but 3000 is still disdainful. From then on, I knew that everything he thought he could accept from me was to respect me, to please him, and there was no gift from then on. Later, he asked me to borrow money to decorate, and I lent him 20 thousand. Two months later, I bought a house and didn't urge him to pay back the money. He called me after hearing the news of my buying a house from my mother: how much did it cost to reinvent the wheel? I said 6500, and he said, if you can't pay the monthly payment, don't borrow it from him. I said, okay. Since then, I have been selfless. I know I'm not on the same level as others. People sit in suits and ties to earn money. We all run around kneeling to make money. No matter how much money we have, people will look down on you. Relatives want you to be good, don't borrow money from him, but don't be better than him, that's all, just understand, it's unnecessary.

It is a social reality that the rich and the poor can't be friends. The rich look down on the poor and think they are superior to the poor. No poor man will go or want to make friends with the rich. If they go, they will not make friends. The poor will have self-knowledge and would rather die standing than live on their knees. This is the root of poverty. There is an old saying that the poor help the poor, the rich help the rich, the golden urn is against the golden urn, and the wooden barrel is against the wooden barrel. This was the case in feudal society, and it is also the case now. Relatives of the poor rarely come and go, because the poor side is afraid of being looked down upon by the rich side, and the rich side will be afraid that the poor side will want to take advantage of small things. So the poor and the rich rarely associate, that is, both sides are hypocritical. If the poor want to change their fate, the only way out is to be ambitious and get rich through hard work.

This is a sign of inferiority. We always discriminate against people who are not as good as ourselves, including those who are rich but actually poor, those who are in the city are actually rural, those with high academic qualifications are actually low academic qualifications, those with high taste are actually sloppy, and those with high rank are actually low rank, and so on. This is not only in China, but also abroad. This is the influence of hierarchy in bad habits; Those with high grades, congenital superiority and low grades should also feel inferior or have dignity, and don't associate! I am Shen Kun, the creator of high-quality finance, and I am deeply touched by this!

When I worked in the public security system, there were many people in my family. People often ask me for work, or ask me if I know anyone from the public security brigade, the traffic police brigade and the household administration department. They always thought that I worked in the city bureau, with a wide network of contacts and easy work. In fact, I'm just a young man who just entered the business, and I don't have any connections. Besides, I am too lazy to curry favor with others! But later, after I left my job, I lost money in business, and no one came to me, as if afraid that I would borrow money from them. Hehe, what does it mean? This is it!

In China, there is also a hierarchy or circle, that is, big entrepreneurs look down on small business owners. When I cooperated with an entrepreneur association in Changsha, I also found that learning is divided into giant enterprises, that is, enterprises with revenues of more than 5 billion. Then there are giant enterprises, with revenues around 1 billion to 1 billion; Those within 100 million yuan belong to small and medium-sized enterprises. If they engage in activities, they will be separated, otherwise they will not come! This is the portrayal that big business owners disdain to work with small business owners! People who think they are rich naturally disdain to make friends with the poor, even if they are relatives, they have little contact with each other. This is the reality! On the one hand, I dare not borrow money, and on the other hand, I am afraid of being looked down upon. It's so difficult to get along with!

Objectively speaking, their social status and status are different. Therefore, the level of contact with people is different. The rich have the circle of the rich and the poor have the circle of the poor. Moreover, the rich and the poor lack a common topic, and they also lack a common language when they get together. The scene is embarrassing. So both sides don't want to meet again, and natural friends can't make it. Subjectively speaking, the real poor are not as good as the rich, unwilling to contact with the rich, and psychologically exclude the rich. Coupled with the low quality of some rich people, they always show off in front of the poor, making the poor feel uncomfortable, and the two sides are naturally alienated. How can they be friends? It is not difficult for people of two classes to become friends. It's normal, and so are relatives.

Mainly because the "three views" are different, they can't get together, the language is different, the ideological foundation is different, and the lifestyle is different. How can we be friends? So are relatives.

This is a class, let alone a struggle, but after all, it is not a person sitting on the bench.

If the rich and the poor can become friends, it is also an illusion and the relationship between use and being used.

This question is really hard to say, because a little carelessness will be labeled as hating the rich! And get sprayed!

Objectively speaking, if people get rich, most of the reasons for getting rich should not be put on the table, so it is understandable that they are definitely not willing to wander around in the original circle for fear that others will point fingers, poke the key points and even reveal their old roots.

And it is undeniable that some people have no eyesight and feel that they are as poor buddies as before, just like me. Still calling people by their first names, regardless of occasions and gags at the dinner table, shattered people's pleasure of thinking that become a butterfly jumped onto the steps of the rich.

So I learned from a painful experience and decided to take off my bones and change my tires, completely divorced from my past self and environment.

Is that weird? Not surprising. As for his break with his parents, it must be blamed on his parents for not giving glory, but dragging their feet. Moreover, in his new circle, he was humiliated everywhere and made a fortune by showing his face in the market, which made people see the inside story of the local rich.

As for relatives, it is normal to do nothing. It is not only uncomfortable to sit together because you can't talk, but also the phenomenon that poor relatives interfere with each other all day, which is no wonder. In a money society, you can't afford to get up early without profit. If you have time to earn more money, why not say nothing?

Therefore, advise the subject, don't sigh that people are not sages, to err is human, and the rich and the poor don't intersect. The key is to have money if you have the ability, and to be happy if you don't have the ability. You don't hate, admire or make friends with rich people. You eat your big fish and meat, I eat my pancakes and pickles, hum my own songs, go my own way, and be happy!